I haven't been happy in 12 years, I'm 17. What do I do if I see no point to living.
Hello, my name is Naomi and although you may not feel like there is a point to living... there is. You can do whatever you want with this one life that you have. You can achieve you greatest dreams. I know it's 'cheesy' but it's true. You can be whoever you want to be. If you truly see no point in life then I do have some tips on how to try to change that. Firstly, you could practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is when you take a couple minutes of your time to fully concentrate your mind on one specific thing such as the leaves on the trees. Think about their colour, how they sound when you stand on them, how they blow in the wind, how the feel, etc. Or you can go through your five senses. What can you see? What can you hear? What can you smell? What does everything around you feel like? Is there something you can taste. This exercise helps to ground you and allows you concentrate more whilst relieving stress. This also may help you see some of the beauty in the world. I also recommend volunteering at a place in which you can help others. Helping others gives you purpose and it will bring you joy. Volunteer at a pet shelter, an elderly home or even a charity shop. You could also take up a new hobby. Try something you've never done before or create a list of things you want to try in that month! I also recommend making a future board. Plan for the future and where you'd like to be in five years. Will you be at college or University? Do you want to move into your own house? What will you study? Where will you work? What will your bedroom or house look like? Will you have pets. This will give you something to strive for and goals to aim for. This also may help motivate you to do work, etc. I hope my advice helps in some way! You are an amazing person that is capable of amazing things.
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How do I kiss my boyfriend properly when he is kind of lovey dovey? I don't know if he's ready yet so I don't really want to act like I am controlling him or forcing him to take the relationship to the next level...what should I do? How do I kiss him at school without people staring at us? There's literally nowhere to go because there is nowhere private for us. What should I do??
Hello Jessica, my name is Naomi. I understand that trying to figure out if your boyfriend (or anyone, for that matter) is ready to kiss can be difficult. So I'd recommend that you make a mental note of how he acts with you and what you both have already done. Have you held hands or hugged? Does he lean in close or kiss your cheek? Think about if you're ready to make that kind of move yet. It's completely okay if your not. I'd also recommend that you try not to think about it to much. If the moment is right then it'll happen without you even putting much thought into it. Also a busy school probably isn't the best place to do it. Meet up after school or at the weekend. It should be a moment that you share together in an environment in which you both feel comfortable in. With that being said, you can just ask him. There is definitely no shame in asking him if he is ready! I hope my advice helps. :)
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How do I stop being shy of being gay?
to help stop being shy about your sexuality, you first need to accept yourself as once you have accepted yourself fully you can conquer any feelings that come, no matter what they are. Never let others or even yourself mate you believe that you need to change who you are, no one just wakes up one morning thinking 'today I'm going to be gay,' it takes a lot of thinking and exploring to figure out who you are. It's easier for some than for others. When the time is right some people including myself decide to tell those closest to them, this doesn't necessarily include family. I found once I had told my closest friends I was more confident to show the true me and was initially less shy. You also should understand that you are no different to any straight person or person of any other sexuality. Find the source of what makes you shy and work with it after all it's more difficult to lose it than to work with it and to not let it affect you.
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