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hey, how do i know if I'm depressed or just really sad?? I'm 15 and have been through a lot in the last year, and i think i get panic attacks too.. do you know the symptoms?
Hey just so you know we’re always here.
Some signs of depression are being sleepy all the time. Never wanting to get out of bed, things like that.I understand that your confused and I think I could help. There are lots of depression tests online. The NHS one is most likely the best and also some signs are being constantly tired and never wanting to leave the house. This must be a really hard time for you so please just message us if you need us
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I'm really scared to say this,
I've been doing this since last June so for a while now, i guess sometimes i don't find life worth living, and pretty much hate myself i guess.
I've told my mam and sister back when i first did it and i got "support" off the school, but it just made me worse and feel unwanted like i was wasting her time. So i stopped going, and after that i stopped hurting myself. But two weeks ago i started again and my mam doesn't know, she thinks one session will fix the whole problem.
I find it really hard to talk to my mam, or anyone really, i feel disgusting for doing it but i can't stop and i hate talking about my feelings. I feel like she doesn't care either shes always busy with work or something else.
Please don't injure yourself,you are amazing and beautiful and they don't deserve to make you suffer more than you do now. Telling someone is the first step to recovery so telling us is amazing and shows you want to overcome this.
You are not wasting anyone's time, this is important, you are injuring yourself, and your mum should have been checking with you and how you have been. If you don't feel comfortable telling your mum, maybe try by working your way up,start with how you are feeling and keep doing so until you are comfortable to tell her properly.
I have an idea which may sound stupid, but sometimes stupid works.
Carry around a little notebook and every time you feel the urge to self-harm draw a little tally, or two if necessary. Maybe even write how you feel if its that bad.
Remember we will always be here for you if you need it.
Love Emily xx
This was a conversation over text between me (Emily) and my friend, she gave me permission to post that is why it seems quite choppy, i tried to write it as a letter as much as i could without changing what she said :)
Hello, my name is Phoebe and I've been going through some stuff.
Everyday now my 'friend' tells everyone how I haven't started my period and I'm the only one in our year that hasn't. I am 14 years old and my mum started at 16, so it'd be normal for me to start in two years but I want this girl to stop picking on me for this. I can't help it that my body is slower than theirs. My boyfriend even broke up with me because of it. I've had enough!
P.S Great website! A post for Gender Fluid was recommended for me on Instagram so I followed your Instagram and found your website through this! I'll spread the word for you, you've got great ideas in mind! Oh and sorry I didn't write my last name, I don't want to give out that. x
I'm so sorry to hear about what's happening to you at school. If someone can purposely bring up a subject they know you aren't comfortable with, let alone tell other people, they're not your friend. You deserve so much better than that. It's the same with your boyfriend. If he can't accept you the way you are (which isn't a hard thing to do), he's not good enough for you and you deserve someone infinitely better than that. If people are too ignorant to understand that everyone's body is different, they don't deserve your time.
My advice would be to tell someone what's going on. I know it's easier said than done, but it will honestly help so much.
Whether it's a parent, a friend or a teacher that you trust, please keep bugging them over and over again until it's sorted, because no-one deserves to go through school life like that.
In the meantime, if you want to vent to any of us, we're all here.
Feel free to message me if you want me.
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Hey , I'm Sara . I live in South Africa and I'm 14 .
Okay so my mom and dad were separated for 3 years , & they got divorced in 2014 . My mom met someone in that 3 years and she started this dating this guy for 2 years he lived here in jhb she moved here with my brother and I lived with my dad in Durban , he was an alcoholic and he verbally and emotionally abused me ,so I couldn't take it anymore and I moved here last year .
Then my mom and her boyfriend got married last year and I only met him last year which was so new to me , before the wedding he moved in with us with his daughter Leah , he's other daughter lives with her mom . So it's been about four months now that they've been married and recently they have been arguing a lot and it's been real serious arguments where they swear a lot . Today he got really drunk and started swearing my mom and he throttled her . He swore his daughter and told he to go away and he called her really bad words .
I just don't know what to do.
From what I have read it looks like you go through a lot, but you seem like such a strong person for example asking me for advice, some people don't tell anyone!
First let's start with your birth dad, does your mum know he did this to you? He isn't allowed to do this and you should not have to put up with this, but I am glad you have moved but you should have had to go through that!
With your step dad, your mother should NOT be abused, that's is a CRIME and your mother probably feel defenseless, even if your mum says "he only did it one" it doesn't matter it's an abusive relationship and you should probably tell the police because no one deserves abuse!
And I am so proud of you for asking advice because that means you know it's wrong and that no one should have to put up with it! I hope things get better
- Emily ♡
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When this was written i added an inappropriate, false comment about a family member as i was upset, and would like anyone who previously read it to know that it was not true.
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