Hi so I don't really know what to do anymore.last year was the worst year of my life,I had a lot going in at school and did a few things I was not proud of and I hated myself for a long time because of it.then I decided everything was a product of the choices I had made so I eliminated all those people out of my life in hopes that it would get better some time but it didn't. I live with my gran and aunt and they treat me like absolute crap they shout at me for nothing and really just mentally put me down and is gets so bad sometimes and I walked out of the hose this morning I'm supposed to be going to school but I'm sitting on the road cause I'm in tears and I can't go to school like this I don't know what to do because it is getting really bad and I'm scared I do something I regret like I did previously.and on top of it I have really bad anger issues and its getting bad again and I'm scared I end up hurting someone seriously
Hi I'm Lily, nice to meet you ❤
Maybe you haven't had the best year of your life. However, if you really try and learn from your mistakes then things can turn for the better. Eliminating people from your life isn't always the answer, sometimes you can learn to live with them and repair whatever you/they broke in your relationship.
It's great that you're understanding your mistakes and how some things are a result of those mistakes! That's the first step in changing for the better and realising your flaws.
The situation with your Auntie and Gran is quite complicated I'm sure. However, at the end of the day, they are your family and they can't help but love you. It's a common occurrence for family members to shout at you for no reason, but if you ever feel like it's getting too much then try and find something to distract yourself. Like a hobby or maybe even a club that can lighten your spirit and help you to meet new people.
If you're finding it difficult to find a club or distract yourself, then try telling your family how you feel. They may not understand but they may think about how they act towards you if you tell them.
If you're scared about hurting someone because you have anger issues then try some breathing exercises, maybe even a charm or item to fiddle with to help you calm down. I used to have really bad anger issues and I always found that taking deep breaths and fiddling with magnets helped me.
I really hope I've helped you out even if it's just a little ❤
Good luck! You'll get through this xx
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Teenage is supposed to be the brightest years of life filled with friends, families, rebellious teen spirit, joy, happiness. but for me it didn't unravelled so. having no friends and family issues that demanded a lot of me (which was right, but a little early I guess and definitely not the way I'd imagined). with all that the inner child dies and I can feel mine suffocating.
It is often said that your teenage years are supposed to be the best years of your life. Feeling like everything is unravelling based on that phrase is something that a lot of people go through.
My advice for this is to find an anchor. Find something that you can immerse yourself in, that you can use over and over again to bring you that joy, be it a band/ music artist you like to listen to, an extracurricular activity like a book club. Finding people with common interests is the easiest way to make friends. Remember to focus on the positives, the lessons you learn compared to where you'll be in 5-10 years. Go have fun. That's what being a teenager is all about.
I know family issues are difficult. I've gone through five years of them. This is how I picked myself up. It's how I reminded myself that it's okay to have fun, to make mistakes.
Hope this helps you,
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I'm 14 and my brother is 12. He constantly calls me fat. I know I'm not "thin" but I'm not a sumo wrestler but I'm afraid it's got me really watching my weight without realising it. In PE this morning we were in the gym and i was watching the calorie bar like a hawk. I guess there's not much advice you guys can give for this thing but help Please.
Hi Rose Quartz,
The first thing you should remember is that the only person’s opinion on your body and appearance that matters is your own. Your brother calling you fat might make you feel insecure but as long as you know that you’re a healthy weight then that’s the important thing, because being exceptionally skinny is just unhealthy as being overweight.
If you are worried about being overweight and would like to lose some weight, then doing it the right way is also important. When you’re 14, your body is constantly changing and going through puberty so having enough energy and food is vital. A healthy way to go about it would be consciously making healthier decisions about food (not eating less or starving yourself) and doing a bit more exercise - you don’t have to join a gym, but little things can help like walking to school rather than getting the bus or going in the car.
If your brother is constantly calling you fat, it may be worth talking to your parents/carer and getting them to talk to him and asking him to stop.
I hope this helps!
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I'm 13 years old, can I use a binder? My mother thinks it's bad for my body but I hate my breasts.
You can bind at 13 as long as you buy a proper, fitting binder (I recommend GC2B binders). However at 13 you're still developing and to bind safely you'll have to keep buying a bigger size as you grow, which can be expensive. If you can afford it then give it a try, but I would personally wait until you've grown a bit to be safe.
Hope that this helps!
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I'm 18 and I feel sad and awkward because I never had a boyfriend, and I don't know why do I make a big deal out of this!
Hello there, I am Sophia!
I am 17, and I used to feel the same way. So, here's my advice: your being is so much more than having a man by your side. Men at this age are immature, so if they haven't noticed you, it isn't your fault. You're an amazing person; I can tell by the way you were comfortable enough to reach out for help. So if I were you, I'd give the boys time to mature. However, if you're considering a relationship, remember that relationships are a give and take. You need to put as much of yourself out there as you can while maintaining your current lifestyle. Relationships are sacrifice, so make sure you are ready for that sort of commitment. If you are, look for someone who appreciates you for everything you are AND aren't. Try starting as friends, and slowly work your way into a trusting relationship. Remember you are never forced to stay with someone: if they insult you, leave. Be who you are, and you will find someone right for you eventually. Stay strong!
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So girl problems.
How do I deal with periods in school?
Especially when it's so hard to get to the bathrooms at break time and when I took so long before my friends thought I was doing "a number 2" but it's the friend who hasn't started her period yet so she won't understand. But I need advice how am i to deal with this!?
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Girl problems are normal, I'd say maybe practice doing the things that are taking up the most time in the routine, and have everything as convenient as possible. So like, have a little discreet cosmetics kit with a few pads (or tampons if that's what you use), some wipes (which can seriously help the process move along), and some extra underwear. Because it's in a little carrying case, nobody needs to know what's in it. I mean, worse comes to worse, you explain it to her, because periods are a natural thing that happen and she's probably getting hers within a few months, at that age. You shouldn't be ashamed to tell your friends, it is a normal, natural thing! You shouldn't be ashamed.
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