I think that I need help for my mental health but I don't want to go with my parents/them finding out. How do I go to the doctors then?
Hi Poppy, thanks for getting in touch.
It’s completely understandable where you’re coming from and I’ve been in your shoes before. Depending on your age, certain GP Practices allow you to get an appointment without parental guidance. I know that some practices allow 15+ year olds to make appointments independently.
However, having been in your shoes I think that telling your parents may be a viable option. I thought that my parents wouldn’t understand or would judge me, however after telling my parents I wish I told them sooner (believe me they’re not the most easy parents). Especially if you’re 14 and under, as sometimes the independence makes you feel stronger but when it comes to mental health the thing you’ll need is support as mental health waiting lists can be extensive.
Meaning of life?
This is a really tough one, but as somebody who has gone through this same dilemma, I totally relate to how you're feeling. I had an existential crises a few years ago, all I thought about was the meaning of life and what I was doing, and after a while I came to a conclusion I was happy with. To me, the meaning of life is to be happy and enjoy what time we have on this planet. No matter what you do with your life, the most important thing (to me anyway) is to make sure it makes you happy. This thought process has made me more able to make important decisions and overall has made me happier with my life. Of course, the meaning of life can be something different to everyone. You may read this and think "I don't agree with this!" That's totally fine, perhaps the meaning of life for you is to get a great job, be a nice person, have family around you, etc.., and eventually your search for the meaning of life will end and you'll be content. An existential crises can be really tough, but you'll pull through! Emmy x
This guy and I were really close. We did everything together. We walked to classes together, ate lunch together and talked all of the time. We used to be best friends. Now suddenly he has started calling me a drama queen even though I never said anything to him that was mean or started drama. When he isn't calling me drama queen or telling me I emotionally eat myself he ignores me. It hurts so much and I just really want him back but he won't listen to anything I say. What do I do?
If he was previously your best friend then try confronting him about his recently out-of-character behaviour. If there's even the smallest part of him that is still the person you knew, then he will listen. If he continues to be a toxic influence in your life then it might be worth distancing yourself from him. It is the hardest thing to do, but as time passes it will get easier.
Keep your head up!
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