Hi. I just found out that I suffer from depression and anxiety. The thing is now I have no motivation to even get out of bed in the morning let alone go to school. I just shut down and don't now kind of where to start to get better. A little on my own.
Hi Aisha! Wow, that's probably a fairly difficult thing to find out. I am sorry you are struggling with no motivation, it is very hard to feel good about yourself when you are going through this.
School is so difficult when you are struggling with anxiety and even more difficult with depression mixed into it. Personally, Aisha, I have also been through and am going through anxiety and depression, and it is so difficult.
The advice I have to give to you is to reach out and talk to people! I understand that you are shutting down but if you can open up so many of the thoughts in your head may be a little less extreme, as that really can help and lift it off of you a little bit. I hope you are safe and feeling a little better soon.
If you would like to talk, feel free to drop me a message on Facebook. I am always and forever there for you.
I hope you are ok,
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I've been feeling really horrible and awful and I don't know what to do
Sometimes feelings and mental states can take a great big 180 turn, something you're probably unfortunately aware of.
It's hard to do anything when feeling this way so the fact you've asked for advice is brilliant.
When I use to get these feelings, I use to ensure to take 5 to 10 mins out of my day to completely focus on these feeling and just rummage around in my head. What am I actually fearing right now?
Although this can be daunting, for me it greatly helped. I'd imagine each thought being filed into a cabinet to organise them or, if it really bothered me, going straight into the shredder.
Make sure you are being as up front with your feelings when possible and give yourself a chance to let it burst out.
DON'T MAKE YOUR FEELINGS INTO PHYSICAL DANGERS
If you can, even if it is just one, ensure an adult is aware of how you are feeling (preferably one who is caring, you know how some adults can be!)
It's great you are looking for answers. It's okay to feel this way. You're doing great.
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Okay, so basically last year I was in a very abusive relationship with a guy one year older than me. I'll call him T. How was he abusive? He always made me feel like I wasn't worth anything. He isolated me from my friends. And he forced me to do sexual things with him at school.
We broke up so many times, but 2 months ago, we finally broke up for real. But even though now I don't have to deal with the abuse anymore ((i have a new boyfriend)), I actually got PTSD from the relationship, which sucks because I already have depression and anxiety.. I have constant flashbacks that cause me to have anxiety attacks/freak out at random times. I'm scared of him.. I see him every day in the halls, and I always feel like he's going to approach me.
I told my counselor, but she told me I was just overreacting..
Any advice on what I should do?
First things first, you are not over reacting, and congratulations on getting yourself out of that situation. You deserve better than him.
That situation sounds so difficult. Personally I have also been through abuse and I know how it feels to go through flashback. My first main advice is to speak out about the flashbacks to people as you cannot deal with them just by yourself! Do you have a doctor you can visit? I really do think that may give you a massive help. If you'd like to talk about it any further feel free to message me on Facebook and I am always here.
If he approaches you, keep your cool. You're over him, correct? He doesn't deserve your fear or your tears. Talk calmly, stay collected, and try to have a friend there to back you up. If you look like you're over him and are finally confident, it'll happen in reality and he'll leave you alone. Headphones are also a good idea, if you don't want to talk to him.
Also Allie- it may be worth reporting that he forced you. It is not okay to do that and it may be beneficial making a statement to the police about it
I hope some of this helped, remember that you deserve the best and you have worth. Stay safe
Caitlyn and Kira
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Hi. I'm not sure quite where to begin. I guess I'll jump straight into it - I think I have an eating disorder. I've done some research and found one that fits me all do well - compulsive eating disorder. If I'm honest, I don't think my parents would be all too supportive, and my grandparents would be plain rude about it. I have had the same body type all my life - I'm skinny and slightly above average height for my age - and if I'm honest, it only appears as a hindrance for recovery. It feels like the only way I can recover is by developing a hatred for my body and forcing myself to diet in some sick, twisted way. The problem is, this has been going on for three years, nearly, though I've only just noticed it. I have no other ideas on recovery, there are no articles for this type of eating disorder here, and I don't think I have anywhere else to turn to.
First of all, I just want to say that you have definitely made a good start by realising that there is a problem. I beg that you don't self diagnose though and seek the help of a health care professional when you can. Whether your school nurse or psychologist, family doctor or general practitioner (GP), or you ask a trusted family friend or adult if you are a minor, or even just ask a friend to go with you.
I've done some research since reading your question on Compulsive Eating Disorder or Binge Eating Disorder (CED or BED) to see what the best thing for you to do now might be. I still strongly urge you to go and get a diagnosis and then talk treatment options with a professional. If this is strongly out of the question then I think there are a few things that you could do for yourself in a healthy way to change your habits.
First of all, definitely have meal/food journal. Whether this be an app on your phone, or just written out on some lined paper. Tracking everything you eat in a day is a good start to any change in diet. From there, make notes on when you are eating the most and in that time period you can try distract yourself with something else that is healthier and/or more productive than a compulsive binge.
Drink water every time you feel like eating something, wait twenty minutes and then decide if you want to eat it. It is important that you do eat three healthily proportioned meals a day though. However drinking water before a meal will help you feel fuller quicker.
I really hope that this has helped you, and I am sorry on behalf of the TWE writers that there aren't many articles on eating disorders especially ones related to EDNOS (eating disorders not otherwise specified) or CED/BED.
I hope that you find it a little easier to smile and deal with this issue. If you want to send in another question on what to do about the parents and grandparents issue then please do, we will be happy to help.
Thank you for reaching out to us, but this is just the first step. Keep going!
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How do I get exam motivation to be able to sit down and revise? I know in my head that I need to, but when it comes to sitting down and putting the pen to the paper I just dont have the motivation to do it. Instead I waste most of my days away watching shows, other than doing what I know I need to do
This is a common problem with trying to study, and I know for a fact that I have done this many times in the last few weeks. What I would suggest doing is making sure you are in quiet room with no distractions. Make sure that your phone is either in another room on silent, or tuned off completely. If you have to use your computer as a word processor, turn off your internet for a while until you are done, but if you need your computer for research, consider finding the information and printing it off so that that temptation to go on social media is minimum. If you still can't concentrate and find yourself getting distracted, go for a short walk or jog and come back to it after. If it is actually getting motivated to do the studying, think of what might happen if you don't, and prepare a small reward for if you do finish it.
Hope this helps,
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I have been feeling left out ...i just move to a new place . My "best friends" uh well they know I have mental illness...but they always say i'm trying to help you..but really i feel like they are getting annoyed so i have ask them to stop texting me....i feel lost....
Moving to a new place can be scary and if you're quite a reserved person it can be very hard to try and make new friends.
If you're friends know you have a mental illness and they say they're trying to help you, it's most likely true. If they didn't care and you were annoying them, they wouldn't tell you they're trying to help.
I know it is very hard having a mental illness and it sucks to feel like you have no one standing beside you. But in all of the dark that you're in, there's a lot of people who will stand by you and will help you through what you're going through. I wouldn't suggest asking your friends not to text you too often, as it could become a habit and you may end up distancing yourself a lot from then and I think that would worsen your situation.
Please remember you have a lot of people next to you, even if it doesn't feel like it.
You're very important to your friends and if they're trying to help you, I think you should let them.
The paranoia in your head telling you that you're annoying them is wrong. You're friends are there to help you and stick by you, so maybe confront them about how you're feeling. Telling them you're worried that you're annoying them could lead them to reassure you you're not.
I hope I could be of help and please come to us again if you have any other issues you struggle to talk about
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Hi, lately I've been getting the feeling that I'm hollow, almost as if I'm empty inside Okay
This can be quite a common feeling, even though unpleasant, for people who are going through their teenager years. Some things that you can do to feel less hollow is writing or drawing, or any creative outlet that you have. You can show people, or you can just keep it to yourself,especially if it makes you happy!
If this hollowness is also linked with no motivation and a feeling of helplessness, then maybe now is a good time to surround yourself with good influences and supportive friends.
If there is also a feeling of loneliness, I suggest reaching out to some people online, us being a great start! As well as making friends around you.
Now don't panic or self diagnose yourself with any mental health issues! Please go see a medical or mental health professional before taking the step of a diagnosis. This could be a very normal reaction to your hormones or to just being a teenager. It just means you need some you time, and a little extra support.
Have a bath, paint your nails, ride your bike or cuddle a cute animal, watch a funny video, and hang out with some nice people.
Do NOT lock yourself away with a feeling of hollowness or emptiness.
If you create anything you are proud of, feel free to email it to us and we can post it on our Instagram, trust me, we are proud of things you do.
Thanks for writing to us, you are not alone and I hope you look after yourself.
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