Hello... Right now i'm trying to move on after friendship, that happened to be meaningless, because the only thing my ex friend cared about was temporaly support, even tho they called me their only one, true best friend. They were like an angel to me and i gave all of my willpower, soul and emotion to support them. I basically did everything for them. But in the end, they said they didnt care and just left me for new, 'better' friends. I know it's not so serious as abuse or anything, but i've never had any friends before, and they were the first person i cared about so deeply. Them abandoning me hurt me really bad. I tried to move on for somw months now, but they always comeback to my mind, i've even had several nightmares about them. I don't know how to cope with them! Is there any way for these thoughtsand nightmares to disappear?
Hi Zuzanna. Friendships are very hard, and it's extremely hard to deal with when they come to an end. I personally didn't speak to my friends for a year after our friendship ended, and it just felt like a weight on my shoulders, but I did NOT want to be close with them again after being hurt. I decided to write them a letter and suggest being civil so both of our minds were at peace with the idea of not being close anymore. I'd rather be civil than have an enemy. If you'd rather have your mind at rest then I suggest trying to contact your ex-friend and trying to find a middle ground of not talking and being civil. It brought me comfort when I was feeling weighed down and I hope it can do the same for you.
If what I just said didn't help too much, we have a section on our website with Friendship articles so there may be one written by another writer with the perfect advice :) Good luck x
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Hi, i was wonder if you had any advice on a current situation that i'm in. in my friends group there are 3 of us, however i get really sad and angry when i'm around them. & and tried to get out, so slowly i would hang out with other people, as i did one of the 2 other girls would get really sad so i came back, and she was happy again. the other friend seems happy enough with me gone, and i don't have a problem with that since she's grown to be really rude to me, and leave me out.
Ella, this sounds really difficult for you. I feel that, although your friend is sad when you try to work your way out of this friendship, you need to put yourself and your feelings first. This friendship sounds very tiring and to be honest, toxic. You need to put yourself first and perhaps try to maintain a separate friendship with the friend who does care about you. - Kenzie
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