How to deal with feeling fat? I've recently been feeling like I've gained weight, even though it's maybe only been a few pounds in a few years which is natural at this age. My jeans had to be bought from a size 8 to a size 10 but I don't know if that's me being silly. A size 8 fits but i was worried id got fat so bought a 10. my weight is low for my age but i just cant help feeling so insecure that I've gotten heavy and ugly and chubby and...it's really getting me down.
Hi Josie! Thanks for contacting us here at TWE. Many teenagers go through periods where they have low self esteem and body confidence, and it can be very difficult to deal with. As you've said, it's natural to put on a few pounds as you grow and get older, and fitting into a size 10 is nothing to be worried about!
I think it may be worth talking to somebody you trust, such as a family member or friend about the way you're feeling. They may be able to reassure you and help you see from a different perspective. You may also want to try writing down a list of all the things you like about your body, it should help you to feel more body confident!
I would also encourage you to speak to a professional like your doctor. You said that your weight is low for your age, so I would imagine that this is a psychological issue where you're seeing your body as something it isn't! I think it may be beneficial to speak to a professional and see if they can help, they may be able to refer you to counselling or something similar. Good luck!
- Emmy x
i waited over a year to get help for my mh and i finally got a diagnosis today. i thought id be happy because id be able to see a therapist and start to figure out how to deal with what i was feeling, and i hoped people would take it seriously with a label, but now i just feel sad and confused. tips on getting a mental health diagnosis? how to tell people?
Thanks for contacting us. From personal experience I know getting a diagnosis is a touchy subject to talk about with your friends and family.
Seeing a therapist is different for everyone. Understanding your mental health and diagnosis is so important though. The best way you can go about this is through your GP to then discuss how it will effect you daily etc and then tell people you're comfortable with knowing.
Please don't feel sad! Confusion is completely natural and its a very different experience when you're finally diagnosed. Your mental health does not define you in any way. Remember we always have a member online on any of our social media platforms if you need further advice or help from us during this process.
I hope you start to feel better about this.
~ Abi x
Due to unforeseen circumstances, I think I’m pregnant. Due to my personal circumstances I cannot have a child but I don’t know what to do. I intended to have an abortion but that is so frowned upon and I’m scared it is being selfish (I suppose it could be?). I wouldn’t normally ask on such a public forum but I’ve spent weeks on Google which is filled with mixed answers, I can’t turn to family or friends because they’ll either judge me, get mad or tell me I have no option but to keep it. I don’t know what to do and I’m petrified.
Before making any definitive decisions, it's important to find out 100% whether or not you're pregnant. If you cannot afford a test, you can speak to the nurse at your college (if that is the circumstance you are in) or your doctor. Equally, you can find tests for super cheap at Poundland or the dollar store depending on where you are.
If you find out you are pregnant, only you can decide what happens, when it happens and how. If you are 100% certain you are not going to go through with birth etc, you can talk to your doctor about the abortion. I personally don't believe it would be selfish and as its your body and your choice but if you're struggling with guilt or doubt it can be overcome by talking to pro-choice groups or one of the counsellors offered pre/post the abortion process. The process itself is safe and generally quite simple and sometimes researching on the internet can lead to results that say otherwise. However, before it happens the doctor/nurse will talk through the process 100% and you have the choice to back out at anytime if you cannot do it. It's about deciding what you think is best and again, no one in your family should try to influence your decision as it is entirely up to you. Abortions are a very common thing in modern society and no one at the clinic will judge you or frown upon you. The most important person is you and you should put yourself before anything else in this situation.
All the best,
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