heyy so I am a little and i would love some advice on "coming out" as one to people around me.
Hiya! I'm also a little and so I understand the difficulty with wanting to come out but being afraid of backlash. It can be hard and anxiety-inducing, but it's important to remember that you don't owe anyone a "coming out". It's completely yours and your choice of who, when, and where you come out. Make sure, though, that if/when you come out, you are doing so in a safe setting with safe people. You can never 100% know who would react well to things or who wouldn't, so make sure to maximize safety and positivity in all the controllable aspects. You are special, loved, and important. <3
I'm just a ninth grader but I think I'm aromantic. Most of my peers are getting fictional and celebrity crushes, and I don't even have that. I'm not interested in dating, but I think I'm too young.
hey there! I can totally understand how difficult it can be to figure your orientation out. When coming out and discussing about my sexuality and gender with my mom, she gave me an advice to take time and get to know myself better. I don't need to wake up the next morning having my whole identity figured out, I have all my life to know who I am and you have too. Learning about yourself comes with time, try doing things that gets you connected to yourself. Journaling, self care things like massage, maintaining a photo album or dairy etc are some things you can try. Remember that: you don't need to be sorted all in one go, figuring things out is a process and its a beautiful one I must say. I love looking back at the day I was trying to figure my sexuality out and fearing the whole coming out things, they have taught me so much and I love embracing them. Just go with the flow and you know where we are at if it keeps bothering you!
Hi! I would like some advice on something.
Basically in these past few months, I've been really struggling with overthinking, to the point that I nearly overthink about anything I do.
I do want to speak to people I'm comfortable with but then I feel like I'm a burden which honestly just makes me more worried.
Is there any advice that you could give me to help deal with these in a more healthier way?
I have GAD and also struggled a lot with overthinking - especially when I was on a medication that made my anxiety worse. One thing I found while trying to deal with it myself was that a lot of CBT exercises have you challenge the content of the thought, it seems to skirt around the source of it. I've found for me that CBT exercises like reframing still help in this more general context. When I catch myself overthinking, I try to figure out 1) some underlying "need" for the anxiety (perfection? fear of x? protection?) and 2) if the anxiety will help me. If not, I tell myself "thank you anxiety for trying to ______, I release you." It is one of those things that may not work at first, but slowly you should find that these thoughts that challenge your anxiety directly become a bit more automatic.
Also, I suggest getting professional help. Sometimes, it takes a trained professional to help you reframe your thoughts and sort through your anxiety.
I hope everything goes well!
Lately I've been wondering a ton about my gender identity. I've narrowed it down to either non binary, or trans ftm. The label hasn't been very important to me lately - I've been more worried about my name. I cannot find a name that I feel a connection to. I've never felt connected to my birth name, but so far none of the names I've tried seem right either. Do I not have a name?? Am I just crazy??
I can totally relate with what you are going through. I struggled to figure out my gender identity and I don't connect with my birthname or 'Yara' anymore (not connecting with Yara sorta makes me feel awful at times). I feel like this whole process of choosing name, using it and discarding is a part of growth and a way of embracing yourself. It is difficult and can leave you frustrated and confused but you will get there! You are not crazy or nameless! You can always try finding a name you like and asking your friends or trusted people to experiment with! good luck
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