Hey, so for roughly about a year now I've been questioning my sexuality and lately i've decided that I might be bisexual. I'm not completely sure on this but I do feel there is a great chance that I am. I feel attracted to boys but also for the past year I've felt similar feelings for girls but not completely. I'm so confused and if I am bisexual, I'm terrified of coming out, mainly for the reason that in my school being trans or bi is seen as "attention seeking" or people are just lying about it for "popularity and respect" also my family are strong christians. Any advice?
"First off I'd say that they shouldn't come out unless it's definitely safe, that they feel ready and feel as if it will only have a positive impact, and that also they shouldn't feel pressured to come to their parents just yet, maybe start off with their friends or someone who they know would certainly support them, because coming out to someone for the first time and being judged/mistreated etc on the first account is really awful. Also they shouldn't feel pressured into definitely labelling themselves as bisexual because labels may seem important but they aren't when it comes down to personal preferences, and as long as they know that they're not attention seeking/looking for popularity, then that is the main thing, because self-opinion/worth is more important than anyone else's opinion on yourself" - Jaz
"I understand your confusion as a bisexual myself, and I know why you are struggling to come to terms with the sexuality you may identify as. My advice to you would be: Experiment and ask your online friends or one of us (perhaps me?) on how they came out and how they feel about boys and girls and see if they match how you may feel, take time to make sure you are definitely bisexual before coming out. (You may be Pansexual and that is similar to Bisexuality). You have mentioned your parents and the only advice I have for you is try seeing how they feel about a bisexual celebrity? This would give you an idea on how they would react to you. Feel free to get in contact with me through TWE" - Ciara x
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The book that I've chosen to recommend this month is: Am I Normal Yet? by Holly Bourne. I bought and read this book a couple of years ago on holiday, and have been obsessed with it ever since. Here is the blurb before I get deeper into it!
"All Evie wants is to be normal. And now that she's almost off her meds and at a new college where no one knows her as the-girl-who-went-nuts, there's only one thing left to tick off her list...
But relationships can mess with anyone's head - something Evie's new friends Amber and Lottie know only too well. The trouble is, if Evie won't tell them her secrets, how can they stop her making a huge mistake?"
This book is a great eye opener about OCD: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, which is a mental health condition where people have overwhelming urges, called compulsions, and obsessive thoughts. I researched into OCD a little, and found a good description of symptoms of OCD on the NHS website.
I feel that this is a great book with so much emotion and understanding about mental health disorders, and it really helped me to understand how people feel dealing with these things every day. It really made me think about how silly it is that people say "OMG I'm so OCD!", as I can imagine this really upsetting people. It made me realise that some people don't understand how life changing these things can be- it is not something cool, it is something you would never wish on people!
I would definitely recommend this book as a great read for mature teenagers, as there are some parts which younger readers might find disturbing.
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