BFB?

hi, what should i do because i ‘like’ my friend’s boyfriend and i’m not really sure how I’m ‘supposed’ to feel or if its ‘wrong’ to feel like this. Please help if u can :)
​Ellie

Hi Ellie! Thank you for contacting TWE.

You cannot help who you end up liking. It's a part of life that just happens. However, what you can help is whether you end up acting on it or not.

I understand with him being in a relationship with your friend, it leaves you in a difficult position. While there isn't much you could do to act on it which he is in a relationship, you could talk to your friend about it. This might help you to express what's happening but also make her aware that you wouldn't act on it while they are together.

Personally, I've never seen liking a friends ex as a bad thing, but I've never been in a situation where I've liked a friends boyfriend. It isn't a bad thing and it isn't wrong. As humans, we never really have a choice as to who we like in a romantic sense. It always just seems to happen. If you feel like you like him, then fair enough! There's nothing to say you cannot feel like this. It's normal in many senses.

You can check out our relationship and friendship articles here, which may be able to provide some more help: https://teenagerswithexperience.weebly.com/relationship-articles.html
https://teenagerswithexperience.weebly.com/friendship-articles.html

​Katie Lou