I've gotten to be quite good at giving advice for situations concerning mental health (i’m obviously not a professional it’s just I've had a lot of time with no support just my own thoughts and as much as they haven’t gotten better I've started understanding them from a deeper almost psychological point of view and I've gotten to be very understanding and sympathetic and good at advice even things i haven’t personally dealt with) but my friend is in a similar situation to me and i don’t know what she could use as a healthier coping mechanism. she seeks validation from romantic partners and we spoke about it and she explained why she did it and i said it would be worth finding something else that gives you validation (i have no problem with people having lots of relationships it’s just that she’s explained she does it because she doesn’t feel worthy and wants to feel worth from someone else but then she said it was getting exhausting constantly looking for someone to leech off for a while) but then she asked what kind of things she could do to get validation and i made some bland not that useful suggestions but told her overall i didn’t really know as I've never been in that situation and i’m in no way trying to be a “counsellor” or trying to cure her of her mental illnesses but she is willing to try new coping mechanisms and i want to be there for her and try to help ya know (also i came off this website for a while and now I've come back it’s looking great well done to everyone on the team)
Hey Harriet! Thank you for reaching out to us! The one coping mechanism that helps me is when I draw out what's going through my mind. I find it can help relieve the stress but also when you can come back to it and add things to it, making it your own create work of art.
I found this article that might help with your friend too; https://thoughtcatalog.com/alexis-dizenzo/2016/08/how-to-deal-with-your-love-addiction/
Let me know if this helps! Also, thank you for your positive comment! We've gained so many new members over the past few months! - Mel
Hi I'm struggling with controlling my anger and it's hard to stop when I'm angry so I was just wondering for any advise
I find a good way to cope with anger is to put it into doing something productive.
When I'm angry it sometimes helps to do some exercise and just let out any built up tension. And, if you have a punch bag (like the ones they use in boxing) it is aleays fun to let your frustation out onto that. Like a Rocky training montage!!
Hope this helps and all the best,
hi. my name is Lucy and I'm 15 years old and i think i have depression. I want to make an appointment to see my doctor to see if i can find out whether i do , but i don't want my parents to find out because they don't think depression is "a real condition", like making the appointment is fine, but finding an excuse to leave the house to go to the appointment is hard. i can't use the excuse that i'm going to a friend because all my friends live too far away and I can't say I'm going shopping because I have no money at the moment, what do I do?
Hi Lucy. Do you have a family member or friend who could take you to this appointment so your parents wouldn't suspect? If you go to a school which has a student support, they might be able to sort your appointment out and take you there during school time. If none of this works, you could try and get your doctor to explain that depression is a valid illness to your parents. You could ask them to talk to your parents over the phone or if possible either your parents visit your doctor or your doctor visit your parents. I hope this helps you a little, and some of our articles on our site might help you too! Good luck and let me know how it goes. -Ella
How can I increase my vocabulary ?
Read! Reading has so many benefits, not only with it increase your vocabulary, but it'll do it without you even noticing! To begin with you could try just reading Roald Dahl's books (He's a fantastic author, with books for both adults and teens) and then progress onto authors like Terry Prachett. You could also download apps that you could do while you're bored. Hope that helped x
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