I have a problem. I think I might be gay and I don't know how to tell my girlfriend...
Hi Timo, I want to start with telling you that you're not alone, thousand of people go through this so don't fret. I think the best thing you can do is be honest with her, tell her that you don't want any judgement and I'm confident she'll be behind you 100%. As she's your girlfriend she defiantly respects you and loves you for you, being gay isn't going to change that, after all, it's not something that you can help. I'm sure you know but being gay is okay and the whole TWE team will be behind you while you take this big step. Don't hesitate to reach out again if you'd like further help! :)
I'm 18 and I feel sad and awkward because I never had a boyfriend, and I don't know why do I make a big deal out of this!
Hello there, I am Sophia!
I am 17, and I used to feel the same way. So, here's my advice: your being is so much more than having a man by your side. Men at this age are immature, so if they haven't noticed you, it isn't your fault. You're an amazing person; I can tell by the way you were comfortable enough to reach out for help. So if I were you, I'd give the boys time to mature. However, if you're considering a relationship, remember that relationships are a give and take. You need to put as much of yourself out there as you can while maintaining your current lifestyle. Relationships are sacrifice, so make sure you are ready for that sort of commitment. If you are, look for someone who appreciates you for everything you are AND aren't. Try starting as friends, and slowly work your way into a trusting relationship. Remember you are never forced to stay with someone: if they insult you, leave. Be who you are, and you will find someone right for you eventually. Stay strong!
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How do I kiss my boyfriend properly when he is kind of lovey dovey? I don't know if he's ready yet so I don't really want to act like I am controlling him or forcing him to take the relationship to the next level...what should I do? How do I kiss him at school without people staring at us? There's literally nowhere to go because there is nowhere private for us. What should I do??
Hello Jessica, my name is Naomi. I understand that trying to figure out if your boyfriend (or anyone, for that matter) is ready to kiss can be difficult. So I'd recommend that you make a mental note of how he acts with you and what you both have already done. Have you held hands or hugged? Does he lean in close or kiss your cheek? Think about if you're ready to make that kind of move yet. It's completely okay if your not. I'd also recommend that you try not to think about it to much. If the moment is right then it'll happen without you even putting much thought into it. Also a busy school probably isn't the best place to do it. Meet up after school or at the weekend. It should be a moment that you share together in an environment in which you both feel comfortable in. With that being said, you can just ask him. There is definitely no shame in asking him if he is ready! I hope my advice helps. :)
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