I was touched in an inappropriate place by a guy without my permission and it made me feel very violated and kind of like an object. I always go back to that moment and relive it sort of. I try to tell people how I feel it’s just that I always thought it counted as sexual assault and I feel like I shouldn’t talk about it because so many other people go through worse. What am I supposed to do? Anon
What you went through is absolutely sexual assault and you definitely should talk about it. It doesn't matter what other people have gone through, your experience is still important and deserves to be spoken about. You don't necessarily have to report it to the police if you don't want to although it may help to stop them doing it to someone else if the police talk to him about it. Otherwise, you may find it easier and more appropriate to tell a friend or family member so they can support you through the flashbacks and the difficult moments.
There are some articles on our website which may also help you if you need some more advice. Kenzie x
Due to unforeseen circumstances, I think I’m pregnant. Due to my personal circumstances I cannot have a child but I don’t know what to do. I intended to have an abortion but that is so frowned upon and I’m scared it is being selfish (I suppose it could be?). I wouldn’t normally ask on such a public forum but I’ve spent weeks on Google which is filled with mixed answers, I can’t turn to family or friends because they’ll either judge me, get mad or tell me I have no option but to keep it. I don’t know what to do and I’m petrified.
Before making any definitive decisions, it's important to find out 100% whether or not you're pregnant. If you cannot afford a test, you can speak to the nurse at your college (if that is the circumstance you are in) or your doctor. Equally, you can find tests for super cheap at Poundland or the dollar store depending on where you are.
If you find out you are pregnant, only you can decide what happens, when it happens and how. If you are 100% certain you are not going to go through with birth etc, you can talk to your doctor about the abortion. I personally don't believe it would be selfish and as its your body and your choice but if you're struggling with guilt or doubt it can be overcome by talking to pro-choice groups or one of the counsellors offered pre/post the abortion process. The process itself is safe and generally quite simple and sometimes researching on the internet can lead to results that say otherwise. However, before it happens the doctor/nurse will talk through the process 100% and you have the choice to back out at anytime if you cannot do it. It's about deciding what you think is best and again, no one in your family should try to influence your decision as it is entirely up to you. Abortions are a very common thing in modern society and no one at the clinic will judge you or frown upon you. The most important person is you and you should put yourself before anything else in this situation.
All the best,
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