I've gotten to be quite good at giving advice for situations concerning mental health (i’m obviously not a professional it’s just I've had a lot of time with no support just my own thoughts and as much as they haven’t gotten better I've started understanding them from a deeper almost psychological point of view and I've gotten to be very understanding and sympathetic and good at advice even things i haven’t personally dealt with) but my friend is in a similar situation to me and i don’t know what she could use as a healthier coping mechanism. she seeks validation from romantic partners and we spoke about it and she explained why she did it and i said it would be worth finding something else that gives you validation (i have no problem with people having lots of relationships it’s just that she’s explained she does it because she doesn’t feel worthy and wants to feel worth from someone else but then she said it was getting exhausting constantly looking for someone to leech off for a while) but then she asked what kind of things she could do to get validation and i made some bland not that useful suggestions but told her overall i didn’t really know as I've never been in that situation and i’m in no way trying to be a “counsellor” or trying to cure her of her mental illnesses but she is willing to try new coping mechanisms and i want to be there for her and try to help ya know (also i came off this website for a while and now I've come back it’s looking great well done to everyone on the team)
Hey Harriet! Thank you for reaching out to us! The one coping mechanism that helps me is when I draw out what's going through my mind. I find it can help relieve the stress but also when you can come back to it and add things to it, making it your own create work of art.
I found this article that might help with your friend too; https://thoughtcatalog.com/alexis-dizenzo/2016/08/how-to-deal-with-your-love-addiction/
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