High School and Making Friends

I am 14 , turning 15 in September. I am starting my freshman year of high school in august and I'm really nervous . Why I am asking for help/ advice is because I don't feel like I have any friends and starting high school without friends sounds horrible.

I used to have friends but we grew distant over the beginning of summer and now I feel like I don't have anyone and I really don't. I'm good at making friends and I usually have a lot . I'm a really friendly and outgoing person so making friends isn't a problem . what I'm really asking for advice on is , how do I survive my first week(s) of highschool without close friends ? 

I also need tips on how to stay positive while going through this phase of not having friends . I'm usually a very happy person and outgoing as previously mentioned but sometimes when I think of not having friends and I see my usual classmates / former friends posting fun pictures with their friends on social media , I get bummed and sad because I used to have that but now I'm lonely and feel left out from just everyone . 

If you can please , give me all the advice you can because I really need it .  

​Anon

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Hello Anon!

When I started high school i was so scared and excited at the same time, as someone who was bullied throughout my last school and my best friend drifting away from me, I was so nervous, I though i would be alone and I didn't know what to do. With only me, my 'best friend' and two other girls going there i knew i was going to have to make friends.

I was right about my best friend leaving me, but that didn't matter because so many people had no-one from their last school and I promise you, you will meet someone, everyone is in the same boat. You are not alone. Plus you will most probably meet someone to call your best friend throughout high school.

As for keeping positive, I know how you feel sometimes i feel like i have no friends, when in reality i do, but whenever i go through these phases i do a few things to keep myself positive.
Things i do are:

• I do some of my hobbies for example, i make Disney characters out of loom bands (this sounds stupid but my friends and family love them, especially my little cousins)
• Read a book! Reading lets you transport to another world, if I am feeling low in school, I used to read between classes, and at lunch (Once i even read while walking home, i may or may not have walked into a lamp-post)
• Do some of your skills, one thing i made when i was upset is this website! Positive things can come out of negatives!
• Binge watch a TV series, you most likely do this anyway seeing as most people do, but binge watching a good TV show with a lot of seasons is a great way to escape feeling negative, and the more seasons it has the better ;), i did this with Once Upon A Time and Pretty Little Liars.
• Become active on social media! I used to run a fan account on Instagram for Ariana Grande, I actually had 17k followers, until i was hacked that is but it's cool i'm over it

I hope this helped, I'm not really the best writer, that is why i stick to behind the scenes work, I hope high school turns out alright, and I hope you make some friends!

​Emily <3  

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