All relationships are stressful.
Anyone will tell you that and if they don’t it’s a superficial relationship.
Having a mental health problem can cause this stress to escalate.
When it comes to break ups if you’re really attached to them and love them it can cause a lot of pain and hurt and heart break. This can seriously affect one’s mental health especially when it’s a disorder such as bipolar, depression, self-harm and any other disorders which cause low moods.
Balancing both can be a struggle and I devised a way for myself personally to cope with it when it gets bad and stressful. These might not work for everyone but it can give ideas for individual methods, it’s like a trial and error.
Review the situation with a calm mind- Reviewing a stressful situation with a non-calm mindset can make the situation a million times worse. Make sure you know everything and aren’t making any assumptions or accusations.
Communicate with your partner- Relationships are built on mutual trust, compassion, communication and love plus a whole lot more. If it gets stressful, tell your partner. Let them know how you feel and you can talk it out between you and sort out the issues at hand.
Make sure it isn’t doing long term damage- Keep an eye on how your mental health varies with your partner. If it’s constantly low, then there must be something wrong. If it hurts, and makes your mental health worse then that’s toxic and not something you want to deal with. (The last part applies on a regular basis not just once or twice.)
Devise a personal way to cope with it when it gets bad- Mine is drawing, hugging a teddy bear, punching my punching bag or anything that gets out all the built up emotions. It can honestly be anything that doesn’t physically, mentally or emotionally hurt you.
(I recommend a sport, an instrument or a hobby like knitting, sewing, cooking etc)
Toxic relationships are probably one of the worst things to be in. They normally consist of your partner making you feel low or hurt or guilty for something you didn’t do. Those are far from good for your mental health and should be avoided at all cost.
Don’t do anything drastic to your personality or mental state due to a relationship because that can cause permanent damage to you.
Depending on the type of relationship, they can help your mental health or make it worse. It’s up to you to decide which of those your relationship would be or is.
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