You need to be very comfortable with your sexuality, and open about it. Personally, as a bisexual, I tell people a lot, because it helps others to feel secure about expressing their own sexualities. Particularly bisexuals are seen as inferior, or just ‘in a phase’ so it’s good to talk about it a lot, to involve yourself in LGBT+ events and clubs, go to Pride, make sure you are visible and there for the community.
As soon as people are aware of you, and your openness, the gays will flock to you. Whether it’s for friendship or something more, the LGBT+ community is a group of minorities, and there’s solace in finding others like you. So, be proud of yourself, be open about your attraction to girls and boys, let other people hear you speak about it, and the ones that feel the same will bond with you.
That’s the best advice I can give you for finding girls that like girls. Then, if someone in particular catches your eye, tell them! It’s a lonely thing, being gay and not knowing how to relate it to others. People will want companionship, or relationships as much as you! Be brave, sweetheart. You can be the very thing that helps someone in the same situation, simply by being yourself.
STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF
Circle of positive energy gets created when you think of positive thoughts. Thoughts will manifest as positive actions. Those actions will make you feel good and think of good thoughts. So the circle continued to spin itself.
Take being scared, take being anxious and not knowing what the hell is going on. Take that to motivate yourself. It’s hard, I am learning how to do it myself too. But it’s all a learning experience. You learn along the way; you don’t learn right away. Just understand that it is okay to be sad. It’s up to you to get better with yourself, because if you’re not good with yourself you can’t be with other people. But still, we are here to help each other, to teach each other, to grow with each other.
Everybody is comparing, they’re so judgemental, they’re so scared to be themselves, they’re so scared to share experiences. Everyone is so fake, and when some people are being themselves, they just criticise them to the point where they don’t even know to be themselves anymore.
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