Coming out. It’s not exactly an easy thing to accomplish. Telling someone who you are no matter who you are is a difficult feat. The level of difficulty tends to amplify itself when whoever you are on the inside isn’t openly accepted by society and/or facing backlash. On average, at least one in five people are gay according to Gallup News. That means that over 37.7 million people come out at some point in their lives. Me included.
I’ve come out to friends, family, and strangers even.
People may have different reactions when you come out to them. When I told my male best friend he said that he loved me gay, straight, bisexual, demisexual, etc. When I told my female best friend her only response was, “Honey. I know. Now help me finish this worksheet”. Rest assured, we did in fact finish the worksheet on punnett squares, and with that, I realized that I am extremely lucky to have these people in my life.
Other friends were not as accepting. I lost friends who didn’t have the mindset of acceptance that was needed for someone apart of the LGBTQ+. They didn’t accept the fact that me being gay is not a choice. You aren’t able to choose which sexuality you are.
Family may be the most difficult group of people to come out to. For some, coming out to your family is a very easy task. For me, not so much. I didn’t get the chance to come out to my family. By a certain weird set and turn of events, I was outed to my family over a year ago. My mother still has trouble with the fact that she has two gay sons (my older brother is also gay), but slowly she’s getting used to the fact that I can’t change who I am.
In any case, when and where you come out is your choice. No one else can make the decision for you (or rather, should make the decision for you).
A couple tips for you if you want to come out:
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