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Worse Than Nicotine: How I quit smoking

30/4/2021

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DISCLAIMER: I do not condone underage smoking in any way and many of the statements made in this article are my own experiences and opinions of how I felt at the time that it happened. 

“Cross my heart and hope to die, burn my lungs and curse my eyes, I’ve lost control…” -Nicotine by Panic! At The Disco.

In my opinion these lyrics perfectly describe the feeling of smoking and realising you’ve become addicted. According to research conducted by Cancer Research UK, over 205,000 teens start smoking each year and almost one in five 11-15 year olds have admitted to smoking at least once while 8 percent of 15 year olds reported smoking regularly, with 74% of those saying they would find it difficult to give up smoking. This number clearly shows that this is a habit that can easily spiral out of control, as I soon found out when I was smoking on a regular basis. 
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I started smoking when I was 11 due to the stress of school after my sister accidentally dropped one without realising, I absolutely despised the taste but I liked the way it made me feel, so I started having the occasional cigarette when I was really stressed. Soon, that turned into one per week, then once per day, then, eventually, a pack a day. I eventually started to like the taste so I didn’t really think much of it and had a cigarette whenever I got the chance. After my dad passed away my addiction got worse, I went through 10 packs in three days and I was so unhappy, I knew I had to break the cycle somehow, I just wasn’t sure how to go about it, so I didn’t bother and went back to a pack per day. Towards the end of last year, I started noticing a few things, I was getting breathless so much quicker than before, my asthma was starting to get a lot worse, I had flare ups a lot more often and I was generally more irritable if I didn’t have a cigarette for too long. It was at that point I realised I had to quit smoking, It was not only affecting my physical health, but also my mental health. Six months on, I’m completely clean and I’ll never go back, I made a few slip ups but I got there and I’m happier for it. For those of you who are struggling with a nicotine addiction, here are my tips to help you to work through it and quit. 

  1. Set yourself small goals. Say you’re currently smoking twenty cigarettes a day, firstly, try to cut yourself back to fifteen a day, then ten, then five, gradually get down to one and then cut them out completely. 
  2. Think about why you’re trying to quit and write a list. Is it for your parents? Write that down. A significant other? Write that down. Better health? Write that. You get the idea. Write down all the reasons you have that will keep you motivated to quit and look at them whenever you feel yourself wanting to have a cigarette. This doesn’t always help but for me this was one of the ones that really helped me as I wasn’t allowed to see my nieces whilst I was still smoking and I really missed them so that was the motivation I needed. 
  3. Accept that you will have slip ups. Yes, it may be annoying but it’s totally normal to slip up, it takes time to break a habit and quitting smoking is no exception
  4. Keep yourself busy. One thing I found out was that a lot of the time I would smoke to pass the time when I was bored and had nothing better to do, so setting myself tasks was my way of distracting myself so that I wasn’t bored and didn’t feel the need to smoke, however, don’t overload yourself with things to do, as this may be overwhelming and cause large amounts of stress, therefore making you crave nicotine to help you to calm down. 
  5. Ask a professional for help. Doctors are trained to help you to quit smoking and stick at it, and they have to keep it confidential by law so there is no risk of them telling anyone who you don’t want to know, and they know the best way to help you.

I hope my tips help and you manage to achieve your goal of quitting, and I hope that you start to feel the benefits of quitting just as I did, good luck and don’t give up! I know you can do it and I believe in you!

-Alex ❤️

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Dealing With the Loss of a Loved One

21/3/2021

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Dealing with loss is never easy. It’s extremely common to lose someone that you love, whether that be a family, friend, significant other or a pet. Approximately 1400 people in England and Wales alone pass away every day, and there is no way to avoid it. And although it’s well known that everyone has to deal with loss, that doesn’t make it any easier. No matter who you are, it will be hard, but you can get through this. 

Just over a year ago, I came home from my second GCSE exam to find out that my dad was in the hospital with suspected Hepatitis E, which if not treated, could kill him. Within a few weeks, the treatment still wasn’t working and we were told that he was going to need to have surgery to repair the damage to his kidneys and the risk of him coming out and being okay was low, unfortunately, once the operation had finished, we were told that he was on life support in the intensive care unit and that he would be under close watch for a few days. That weekend, we were given the news that my dad’s condition wasn’t improving and that they were going to have to take him off of life support the next day. 

A year on, I still miss my dad, I’m not going to sugar coat this, it still hurts as much as it did in the first few days, it most likely won’t get easier, but I’ve learned to live with the pain that my loss caused me. For those of you going through a similar situation to this, here are some tips to help you get through the grieving process. 

  1. Give yourself time to go through the stages of grief. Most people say there are five key stages of grief, there’s denial and isolation (for example thoughts like “this person can’t be dead, this is all some sick joke” and withdrawing yourself from situations with other people), anger, either towards yourself, other people, or even the person who passed away, bargaining (using if only statements, e.g. “If only we had got help to them quicker”, “If only I would have done more to save them” etc., depression, and then acceptance, these feelings are all natural, don’t try to brush them off, it’s fine to feel like this and don’t try to rush through, you will slowly start to feel better if you give yourself time.
  2. Talk to others who are going through this, or have previously been in this situation. Although this may seem like the last thing you want to do, it may actually make you feel better to know that other people understand. If you feel like you have no one that you can talk to, you always have us at TWE to support you, just drop us a message and we’ll reply as soon as possible!
  3. Write a letter/message to the person who passed away. I know this may sound stupid, but it truly does help, if there’s anything you never got to say, write it there and then send it to them, whether that be by putting it in their coffin at the funeral, attaching it to a balloon and letting it go, or even simply pressing send on your phone. This really takes a huge weight off of your shoulders and to this day, if I’m having a bad day or I have big news, I’ll send a message to my dad on Facebook, and it never fails to make me feel better.
  4. Let yourself cry. Remember that it’s never a good idea to bottle up your emotions, it usually just makes things worse, you are allowed to feel down, you can’t always be strong and happy, especially at times like these
  5. Make a memory box. Get a box and fill it with photos, items, cards and other things that remind your loved one, that way whenever you miss them, you can look through the box and remember all the good times you had together.
  6. Talk to other people about your memories with your loved one. Talk about the fun times you had, the places you went with them, all the great things they did.
  7. Finally, remember that you won’t always feel like this, eventually, over time, you will learn to cope and you won’t feel as down and defeated as you may feel now. It may take a while but I promise you, you will eventually feel okay again.

If you need any more support, you can take a look at some of our other articles on this topic, or as I said earlier, drop us a message and we’ll get back to you as soon as we can.

Stay strong,
~Alex ❤️

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How the Pro-ED community affected me and my self esteem

30/7/2020

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Sometimes when you’re struggling with mental health issues, it’s easy to find support online but sometimes the communities you find online may be doing a lot more harm than good. This can apply to any mental illness, but most commonly within the eating disorder community. The pro-ED community is a community that encourages disordered behaviour such as restricting yourself to almost impossible amounts of calories, usually below 200 a day, not eating for days and competing to see who is “the weakest with no will power” or posting pictures of themselves on social media and getting people to say things to make them not want to eat, amongst other things. Many people with eating disorders stumble across it without even realising at some point during their lowest points, and once you get into the community, it can be really hard to leave, and that’s what I found out before I started recovery last year. 

This is my story. 

When I was 13, I stumbled across a page on Tumblr where there were pictures of extremely skinny girls, most probably days away from death, yet for some reason I couldn’t stop looking. I continued to scroll through that page for hours, looking at these pictures, which all had extremely triggering captions, mostly saying that the only way to lose weight is through heavy restricting and basically depriving your body of what it needs to survive. For the next few days, I kept returning to that page and pages like it, it was almost like an addiction, and after a while I started to think like these people and started taking their advice on how to lose weight even though I knew how damaging it was, I found myself becoming harsher on myself than ever and that’s when I made my first pro-ana account on Tumblr and Instagram. 

Almost daily I had messages from others in the community asking me to make fun of them and make them feel bad about their body so that they could get the motivation to not eat/stop eating, and, of course, I did, I didn’t realise at the time how bad it was, I thought this was normal for people my age to do because so many people had done it for me and people were asking me to do the same for them. Me and the girls I classed as my friends at the time used to spend hours writing what is commonly known as meanspo and sending it to each other whenever one of us ate or forgot to do our daily workouts. 
This is when I started to realise that what I was doing was wrong and I couldn’t go on like this anymore, however when I told one of the people that I was friends with on Instagram, they told me that I was weak and that I should stay in the community and that I was better off staying than trying to find a way out and recover, and so I did. 

This carried on for years until eventually my Instagram account was banned and I realised that what I was doing was wrong and I was not only putting myself at risk but I was also hurting others in the process. My pro-ana behaviour ended up with me being referred to impatient and diagnosed with atypical anorexia, I am in no way fully recovered but I’m constantly working on it. 

“My first experience with pro-ana was when I researched on how to lose weight. It came up on the search results and I read into it more and it felt like at first that people were understanding my thoughts about losing weight. But what I didn't realise was that those thoughts were caused by the bullying I was having in my old high school. That's when I moved to a new school but then I carried on looking into pro-ana.
This was when a few years later I was being brainwashed into thinking this was my life now I let that thing take over me and my body! I was losing weight dramatically but then that's when my parents found out what was happening and then I was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa.
The mental health team kept a close eye on me and they looked through my research and found I was on pro-ana sites. They banned me from looking online. 

Till this day I still suffer badly with mental health but now being bulimic due to finding out other ways of losing weight etc but not realising how damaging it is to my body.” -Mel, another TWE member.

My advice to anyone who does come across these sorts of pages online is to report and block them, do not interact with them, do not read their posts. What starts off as curiosity can turn into something a lot more serious and seriously damage your mental health and self esteem. 
If you yourself feel like you’re pro-ana, please, deactivate your account and get help. You are worth it and you deserve to get better, no matter what. This community takes so many lives each year. You may feel like they understand you and your struggles but they are encouraging unhealthy and toxic behaviour.

Remember you are loved and deserve to be happy and recover, no matter what anyone says. 

Stay safe
~Alex ❤️

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Age Regression - Stop the Stigma

25/4/2020

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Before I get into the actual article, I’d like to clear up a few definitions and abbreviations for anyone who isn’t familiar with the age regression community.

Age regression: when somebody reverts to a child-like state of mind, often as a coping mechanism for things like PTSD, depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues. Some age regressors like to use child-like objects such as pacifiers and bottles and in some cases adult diapers as well as dressing in “childish” clothing and engaging in activities such as colouring and playing with children’s toys. Basically age regressors are more at-peace and worry-free whilst in "little space" (A term for when one is in said mindset).
Little: a person who regresses
Caregiver: someone who looks after a little while they’re in little space.
Agere/CGLRE: abbreviations for age regression

There are two types of age regression: voluntary and involuntary. Voluntary age regression is where a person chooses to regress to relieve stress, cope with mental health issues or for fun. Involuntary age regression is where someone regresses against their will, typically to deal with high levels of stress or due to past trauma. As someone who does both, I face a lot of negativity from people who don’t understand what CGLRE actually is, and a lot of the time this can prevent me from regressing for a while which can be extremely mentally damaging as my little space is my only healthy coping mechanism. Age regressors can be extremely easily upset as when they are in their headspace their mind tends to go back to a childlike state, so with that in mind here are some things you should never say to someone who regresses. 

  • “Eww! That’s gross, this is sexualising children!” No. This isn’t the case. CGLRE is commonly mistaken for CGL (caregiver little, where two consenting adults role play as a caregiver and a child for sexual or kink purposes) which is a totally different thing despite the similar abbreviations. This comment in particular really upsets me as I use my little space as a way to help me deal with sexual trauma. 
  • “Stop acting childish, you need to grow up!” There is a major issue with this statement seeing as many age regressors can’t help it as their regression is involuntary and dealing with adult life is too stressful at the time where they are regressed. For me, someone saying that can prevent me from regressing as I feel like I’m a burden to my mama (what I call my caregiver) and anyone who sees me in my headspace. 
  • “You call your partner (insert title here)? That’s weird!” I can’t really explain this one that well but for me this makes me feel really alienated and judged, as well as making me mad at the person for insulting a decision that my girlfriend made to become my caregiver. 
  • (To a person you’ve just met) “I could be your caregiver.” This one is less upsetting and more just plain creepy and having a stranger ask to be your caregiver can be quite distressing for most littles seeing as a caregiver needs to know intricate details about you, as a caregiver you need to know the individual quite well and it’s not as easy as it may seem. You need to know how to look after the person and what they need in a caregiver and be prepared to be there for them whenever they need you. I personally haven’t dealt with this but I know people who have and it made them extremely uncomfortable.

There is a lot of negative stigma attached to age regression and it can be hard at times to ignore the negative comments, but my advice for anyone who regresses would be to remember that age regression is a perfectly normal and healthy coping mechanism and anyone who can’t understand that isn't worth your time. Your little space is special and it’s a part of you that no one can take away from you, there are always people there that will understand and accept you for who you are. 

If you ever need to talk to anyone about age regression or anything else you can contact me on instagram @mummysbrattybunnyboo or you can talk to one of us at TWE via our social media. 

Stay safe,
-Alex ❤️

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Stop Panic buying!

21/4/2020

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With the recent rise of cases of Coronavirus and many people choosing to self isolate, there has been an extreme case of panic buying, which although in the long run seem like a good idea, this can actually be extremely harmful. Not only does it cause a shortage of specific products for others, especially the elderly and vulnerable people, it also can cause large crowds, which in turn creates a safety hazard.


Another problem that this can create for many people, especially people with anxiety and sensory issues is that the large crowds and the noise can cause them to go into what is known as sensory overload which can then turn into a panic attack. 

As someone with high functioning autism, I have had a lot of issues in the past few weeks, even leaving the house causes me to have a sense of dread in case I somehow find myself in a large crowd. My last trip out of my house was about a week ago, and this is why I decided to share my experience with panic buying during this pandemic, because this truly terrified me. 

I went out to the shop to get a few essentials during the “quiet hour” for people who struggle with loud noises at my local supermarket and instead of my usual calm pleasant experience, I was met with absolute chaos. People were shouting, screaming and pushing everyone out the way in order to get toilet paper, pasta, and anything they could possibly get their hands on and filling their shopping carts full of it. I somehow managed to find myself in the centre of all this, and naturally, with the massive amount of sensory input, I freaked out, I went into full sensory overload and ended up having a panic attack in the middle of the shop. Normally, this wouldn’t be an issue at all, as there are usually members of staff trained to help people who are having panic attacks, however, because of the crowds, they couldn’t see me. This caused it to get worse and worse and I had to leave the shop without the stuff I needed. 

For those of you who feel the same and are struggling to go through the chaos of others panic buying, here are my tips to help you get through. 

  1. ask a friend, family member or neighbour if they could get a few necessities for you, this means that you aren’t required to go out to the shop so there’s no chance that you will get stuck in the crowds
  2. If you need to fully restock your house, order your groceries online, which again means that you won’t have to go out to the shop
  3. Use local corner shops. Usually local corner shops are extremely quiet and well stocked, even during pandemics like this one. It also means that your shopping may be a lot cheaper due to the prices being lower than those of super markets. 
  4. If it’s absolutely necessary to go to the supermarket, use headphones or ear defenders to muffle the noise and try to stay away from the crowded areas. 
  5. If you do start to get overwhelmed, find a member of staff to help before it gets too much
  6. Lastly, remember that if you don’t manage to get the things you need, that doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it was just causing you too much stress to be in that situation. 

At the end of the day, although panic buying may be a natural reaction to a pandemic, I ask you to take a step back and think about what you’re doing before you do it. Although it may put you in a place where you have everything you need and more on top of that, you’re stopping others from being able to get their basic needs, so please, stop and think before you act, buy as much as you will realistically need and no more, although there is a chance of lockdown you’ll still be able to go out and get what you need. 

To anyone worried or scared about the current situation, remember we’re always here if you need to talk and that this won’t last forever, we will get through this, just follow your government's advice, if you have to go out, stay 2 metres away from others and avoid contact with those outside your household. 

Stay safe,
Alex 💖

​Photo credit: Sarah, a TWE Photographer (see more of her work at @withmylittlecamera

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