Age Regression - Stop the Stigma - TEENAGERS WITH EXPERIENCE

Age Regression - Stop the Stigma

25/4/2020

Before I get into the actual article, I’d like to clear up a few definitions and abbreviations for anyone who isn’t familiar with the age regression community.

Age regression: when somebody reverts to a child-like state of mind, often as a coping mechanism for things like PTSD, depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues. Some age regressors like to use child-like objects such as pacifiers and bottles and in some cases adult diapers as well as dressing in “childish” clothing and engaging in activities such as colouring and playing with children’s toys. Basically age regressors are more at-peace and worry-free whilst in "little space" (A term for when one is in said mindset).
Little: a person who regresses
Caregiver: someone who looks after a little while they’re in little space.
Agere/CGLRE: abbreviations for age regression

There are two types of age regression: voluntary and involuntary. Voluntary age regression is where a person chooses to regress to relieve stress, cope with mental health issues or for fun. Involuntary age regression is where someone regresses against their will, typically to deal with high levels of stress or due to past trauma. As someone who does both, I face a lot of negativity from people who don’t understand what CGLRE actually is, and a lot of the time this can prevent me from regressing for a while which can be extremely mentally damaging as my little space is my only healthy coping mechanism. Age regressors can be extremely easily upset as when they are in their headspace their mind tends to go back to a childlike state, so with that in mind here are some things you should never say to someone who regresses.

“Eww! That’s gross, this is sexualising children!” No. This isn’t the case. CGLRE is commonly mistaken for CGL (caregiver little, where two consenting adults role play as a caregiver and a child for sexual or kink purposes) which is a totally different thing despite the similar abbreviations. This comment in particular really upsets me as I use my little space as a way to help me deal with sexual trauma.
“Stop acting childish, you need to grow up!” There is a major issue with this statement seeing as many age regressors can’t help it as their regression is involuntary and dealing with adult life is too stressful at the time where they are regressed. For me, someone saying that can prevent me from regressing as I feel like I’m a burden to my mama (what I call my caregiver) and anyone who sees me in my headspace.
“You call your partner (insert title here)? That’s weird!” I can’t really explain this one that well but for me this makes me feel really alienated and judged, as well as making me mad at the person for insulting a decision that my girlfriend made to become my caregiver.
(To a person you’ve just met) “I could be your caregiver.” This one is less upsetting and more just plain creepy and having a stranger ask to be your caregiver can be quite distressing for most littles seeing as a caregiver needs to know intricate details about you, as a caregiver you need to know the individual quite well and it’s not as easy as it may seem. You need to know how to look after the person and what they need in a caregiver and be prepared to be there for them whenever they need you. I personally haven’t dealt with this but I know people who have and it made them extremely uncomfortable.

There is a lot of negative stigma attached to age regression and it can be hard at times to ignore the negative comments, but my advice for anyone who regresses would be to remember that age regression is a perfectly normal and healthy coping mechanism and anyone who can’t understand that isn't worth your time. Your little space is special and it’s a part of you that no one can take away from you, there are always people there that will understand and accept you for who you are.

If you ever need to talk to anyone about age regression or anything else you can contact me on instagram @mummysbrattybunnyboo or you can talk to one of us at TWE via our social media.

Stay safe,
-Alex ❤️

119 Comments

Haeliegh

15/6/2020 01:52:16

Hello! I'm also a regressor, just wanted to thank you for being so brave and helping to erase the stigma. Without my regression, I wouldn't be here today. I wish it was a more normalized concept, thank you for what you do!

maria rodrigous

21/9/2021 08:58:41

i love regressing all my life. it has compoforted my whole life I thank you for accepting this..let's get rid of the social stigma.

Kyan

11/10/2021 22:22:43

I have a question for pacifiers or the use of something in that way. What would be best to use expishily in a way where none else knows?

Jackson

1/11/2021 12:56:55

You could wear a mask. now a mask isnt weird because of covid i do that quite a bit at school and it works really well

Dino

21/4/2022 15:05:13

SInce it's covid time you can use them with a mask covering it.

asher link

6/1/2022 19:05:53

thank you

Ace

25/6/2020 06:18:45

Hey, I would just like to say thank you bringing awareness:)

27/1/2022 02:52:30

We have the same name thats cool man, I like seeing small coincidences like this : )

Dar

14/7/2020 03:22:49

Umm I kinda am new to regression and had a few questions

val

20/7/2020 03:32:20

Hi! I’m val, a seasoned regressor. I’m not sure if anyone’s answered your questions yet, but I’m here if you still have them!

gray

3/2/2021 09:37:13

idk if this will make sence but i have parents who dont understand this stuff and think its dumb and i cant move out on my own for another 2 years do you have any recomendations on how i can still be my little self but not be to obvius if that makes sence

arson

31/8/2021 19:39:50

hi, possibly regress to ages like 8-10?

summer bennitt

17/9/2021 19:52:43

hey ive resently strted regressing in 16 years old and dont have a caregiver i regress to really young my range is 1-4 so i struggle looking after myself. i get really nervous to leave the house becasue l have a lot of triggers so l slip and idk what to do any suggestions

Eli/Ava

3/12/2021 20:34:20

same

amyyy

4/8/2020 04:35:48

i got small and i was looking for something to help cuz nobody knows i get small and i read a little of what you wrote. it is good to be nice to people who get small. im glad you can talk to people online. thank you for writing to everybody. i dont wanna be alone and you make me happy. is it bad that i dont know how old i am when im small. i just feel little and i put on my jammies and cuddle my Bobo. i just know im little. i dont decide when i get small or how little i get. im sorry. thank you

John link

9/4/2022 13:04:23

I would be willimg to ne yoir caregiver and be there to nurturre , diaper amd powder yoiu. I have experience ...as a paremt. I cared for teo nieces and my son..when all 3 were in diapers.

8/8/2020 17:27:24

So, I am into ddlg (daddy Dom little girl (a form of cgl) and no one really sexualizes children, we're kind of like age regressors, but instead of coping, we go for the romantic aspect, (aka daddy taking care of me, playing, etc) it's not all the time it's mostly, after a long work day, I wanna sit on his lap and cuddle, or color, and it also helps the little stay organized with the chore-reward/punishment system, but most ddlg couples still have the regular boyfriend-girlfriend dynamic, not all dates are little. As for the sex, it's regular bondage, (BDSM) and stuff, some just like to call their partner daddy/mommy during it.
It's okay to be cgl, just as it's okay to be chore, us littles have to stick together to stop the stigma, and if anyone else is a closeted little (eg. Lives with parents, doesn't have a cg, it's afraid to show their little side) you are just as little and perfect as everyone else :)

8/8/2020 17:29:44

I meant cglre when I said i"okay to be chore", my auto-correct changed it lol

kkami

7/9/2020 10:43:57

No we shouldnt stick together!!! ddlg and its variants are a kink and age regression is a psychological coping mechanism, lumping them together will just create more stigma for both!!

23/1/2021 03:38:19

Hey, don't listen to kkami, ddlg is a perfectly valid form of clg, you are entirely right that is not really a form of kink for most because it's just a relationship dynamic, it's not being sexually attracted to your age regressing partner. It's perfectly healthy and valid, have fun regressing!

mika

1/4/2021 14:05:35

No J, that's not true, ddlg is and always will be kink because it is a power exchange relationship.
It doesnt't always have to be sexual but because there is a power exchange where an adult is giving up their power to another adult.
This is always a kink thing.
lumping a kink community and a psychological coping mechanism/therapy method together causes harm to both communities.
No-one is saying that ddlg is invalid, we're just saying that it shouldn't be lumped in with agere.
(btw before you say that agere is also a power dynamic, no, no its not because the age regressor is mentally a child and therefor has no power to give to their caregiver, whereas in cgl/ddlg the 'little' is still mentally an adult just acting like a child.)

here is a link that might help you :)
https://whatisagere.carrd.co/

Britt

11/8/2021 15:12:47

I appreciate your comment Mika. As someone who solely age regresses involuntarily I agree very much. The two should not be mixed up and doing so could cause a lot of dangerous misinformation.

I suffer ptsd and while I've come a long way in my healing journey and better managing symptoms lately I've unfortunately reverted some due to losing my brother to sucicide last month.
At work yesterday I became overwhelmed and I started
crying and talking like a child. Making gestures and whining and was sent home because of these hysterics.
I've struggled a lot in keeping this behavior under control and maintaining jobs.
It's something I cannot control happening in times of extreme stress.
It's something I resent happening to me even though I understand it's an instinctive coping mechanism and not meant to cause me harm.

I appreciate the article as it's written by someone that experiences both involuntary regression and also partakes in voluntary regression. And clearly defines and separates the two. As they are very different.

Mika

12/8/2021 04:17:10

I think there's been a misunderstanding here, i wasn't talking about the difference between voluntary age regression and involuntary age regression, i was talking about the difference between age regression and ddlg which is playing-pretend as a kid/ageplay and is a kink

Petra

9/4/2022 08:23:11

Gonna be honest, I’ve never seen the difference until now. I sought out kink BECAUSE of my regression and found that big me liked kink too, in different ways. Age regression for me is a part of being a little which is a part of who I am, and thus, both my trauma coping mechanisms and my sexuality.

I gotta be honest, I’m all about representation and communication. I’m transgender and non-binary. To me, a lot of this sounds like dog whistling “age regressors who are kinky are less valid” and visa versa. I’m a part of a huge irl kink community and age play and regression are both considered by people I know to be welcome to the kink community. People are different. Kinky people can tell you, kink isn’t Inherently sexual, and is often therapeutic. All power and support to regressors who aren’t kinky and rely on regression for healing or coping, but don’t throw kinky people under the bus to make yourselves seem less weird to non-regressors. Am I missing something? Just seems like infighting. I don’t see anything damaging about the two being associated, or happening in the same spaces or individuals at the same time. People literally go to kink spaces to get wax massages.

This is my opinion, but I’m open to the idea that I’m missing some key facts, or misunderstanding terminology.

9/4/2022 09:16:08

To clarify, I would understand why someone who seeks out a licensed therapist to regress with the goal of targeting specific childhood experiences and process them, would want to distinguish Themselves from kink. But as a trans person involved with kink, I know lots of cross dressers and sissies. We recognize our differences on an individual level but I don’t feel threatened by them, or think they give trans people a bad name, or think they are less valid. Some of them are also trans. This analogy isn’t quite perfect, but again, a lot of the language being used is very akin to queer infighting of the last few decades. Seems relevant to me.

jordan

28/9/2020 18:41:04

omigod, im a closeted little and though i do have mommys who luv me very much, its not like were in a threesome, its just that they are my caregivers, my first mommy(momma) had asked me if it was okay for her girlfriend to also help care for me and i said yes. so now me has two mommys who will take care of me, am i spoiled? a little bit but is okies

River

2/3/2021 14:49:10

so you don't have to be dating someone for them to be your caregiver sorry if this is a stupid question i'm kinda knew to being a little my friend and school counselor recommended it to me as a better way to cope with everything

Andy

14/4/2022 15:31:22

Hey! I wanted to know do u use ur phone while regressing .. like sometimes i want to call my partner while i m little so i just wanted to know is that ok?

Malea

11/5/2021 03:40:15

Couldn't have said it better myself.

Taps

13/7/2021 12:24:34

hey a littles a little, for turma or stress we needs to suck together there is not point in putting eacher down. ad a kittle whi is small cos truma i get picked on lota but i can always come home and find overs ike me for the same reasonf or no 😊 and sorry for my selling i am little right noe

Niamh

13/7/2021 16:15:36

thats disgusting, dont bring ddlg up on a post about age regression

14/7/2021 03:25:07

Dude, just because ddlg is a relationship dynamic it doesn't make them any less of a little, alot of the time actually they can find themselves slipping into a younger headspace, which by definition is age regression. i know alot of people think littles only regress because of trauma but that's entirely incorrect as alot of littles slip because of stress or anxiety. and even if none of this applies to a person in a ddlg relationship feeling small and loved and being cared for is how they are able to calm down, stop thinking for a bit or just to be happy. stop being mean and trying to put them down if you know nothing of how they feel when they're little, willingly, involuntary or not mentally little at all >:(

hallie

14/7/2021 08:59:49

taps thats incorrect, in ddlg relationships the 'little' is pretending, they are ageplay, its literally just make believe. when they 'slip into a younger headspace' its literally just a form of subspace, a headspace in which they feel a bit childish and vulnerable, which btw is not anything even close to the definition regression.

No-one is saying they are any less of a 'little' for not actually regressing because in the first place the terminology 'little' is kink terminology. Plenty of people use ddlg to cope and thats valid, but it is not and never will be the same or even similar to Age Regression.

Do you seriously believe that therapists would condone Age Regression as a coping mechanism and as a form of hypnotherapy if it was sexual??

When someone regresses they are mentally younger, they wouldn't be in a kink dynamic if they where mentally a child.

On top of all of this, the person you are responding to never said that people only regress because of trauma, people in the agere community are well aware of the reasons someone might regress and when listed of the list always includes mental illness and stress, sure trauma is the most common reason but we are all well aware that its not the only one.

Please educate yourself
Sincerely: A psychology major

john

18/9/2021 02:36:42

you are fucking disgusting.

18/9/2021 04:10:43

me?

9/4/2022 08:28:06

Yeah what the hell is up with all this kink shaming? See my above comment. Lots of people are kinky and regress. This is so crazy to me that people actually feel this way. I’m a little, and a regressor and for someone to say I’m just “pretending to be a kid cause it’s hot” is insanely hurtful. Go out into the world and meet some actually littles. This seems like kind of Truscummy but if there was a Little equivalent

Honey-Bunny link

4/10/2021 16:34:26

Thank you for saying that ^.^

Hannah

11/11/2021 12:50:21

So, Im 16 and im a little. Im still new to the whole thing. My friend recommended it for me . . She told me to look up dd/lg so that's what I have been reading and researching about. YET, after reading all of these HATEFULL also Informational comments and this Article I have notice the different aspects. I still have a few questions though. 1 Am I able to be in a relationship with a caregiver, 2. Is calling them mommy/daddy only for dd/lg? I want to learn about it correctly this time. I don't want to be part of something that is kink related. I want to be a little without being sexualized. Please help a girl out. Also please do not respond hatefully, Im new to this stuff and didn't know any different. I am a human being and I have feelings. Someone please just point me in the right direction. Also not all of the comments were hatefull only some of them.

succulent savage link

14/8/2020 04:23:50

I'm 48 years old and have been regressing my entire life... both intentionally and not. Years of therapy and work have not taken away the comfort and joys of being little... nor the involuntary regression, though it's much less frequent now. I'd like you to think to the future and not stigmatize those of us who have kept that part of ourselves throughout life. I am married and have an adult relationship with my husband... but we also engage in a DD/lg relationship which brings us both joy. Not all of us choose DD/lg as a lifestyle... it's a natural progression and brings safety and love in ways we need. Take care and I'm glad you're talking about age regression. It's important for everyone to realize that it's not just an act or play for some of us... no matter how old or young we are.

Forbe Njoku

18/8/2021 14:10:58

FUCKING DIGUSTING YOU DEFENDING A KINK THAT HARMS CHILDREN "OOOOH SUCK MY COK DADDY WHILE I WET MY DIAPER"

Mako

9/11/2021 18:54:23

thats not what age regression is

Bethany

10/11/2021 12:40:27

ur gross for even thinking thats what age regression is.

Jamie

1/9/2021 02:45:13

DDLG is not Age regression. Age regression is where they are mentally a child. DDLG is where they are pretending to be a child. Age regression is a coping mechanism, and ddlg is under the kink umbrella. Don't say "It's natural progression," because it isn't. I'm not saying invalid, but if it's used as a kink it isn't age regression. The "kinky side" of ddlg is disgusting. All age regressors are valid, but not people who sexualize being in a child-like headspace.

Oliver

22/9/2021 01:03:36

When saying that, please remember that there are age dreamers, age dreamers are sfw age-players that does so in order to regress or when they are not able to regress but still wish to. It's not a kink, it's sfw and done for supportive health reasons. Just because people are not fully regressed or age-playing does not mean they will be giving power to a dominant over them and sexualizing themselves or go into a subspace.

22/9/2021 02:20:05

What I mean by my comment is that not all people who age-play are doing so for sex, kinks, and subspace. Age dreamers do not identify as age-players, however, at one time, age dreaming was seen alike to age-playing but not used for sexual purposes nor even a kink in general that was recognized with the term age-play in today's society. Age dreamers do not feel they can define themselves as age regressors in the moment, because they are not regressed mentally, or felt they were not regressed enough to identity as a regressor. Age dreaming is when someone is still in their headspace as an adult, partially or completely, however, age dreamers still wish to age regress, so they act as their child selves would anyways. In order to go into an age regression headspace or deeper into one. Or to find happiness in being a child a heart still or how they would have if regressed, despite not being in a regressed headspace. And can be seen as pretending even for some critics. Therefore, the act was noted by many age dreamers as being similar to age-playing but not being a sexual act or kink. Sfw and used for health reasons as age regression is. So what I meant by that last sentence on my last reply is.. just because people act as a kid when they are not mentally regressed or fully, and therefore, seem to be age-playing, because they wish to be in a younger mindest or their child-selves again overall. Does not make them sexual or kinksters. And doesn't mean they are acting a child for a subspace or sexual dynamic or pleasure. Just to be more clear, so you understand.

I was not meaning to clump them together.
And I saw your sentence, all regressors are valid, people do consider age dreamers regressors, including me, another age regressor.

And seeing that and how you did mention that if it's used for kink, it's not age regression.
Thank you for saying that!
Much Appreciation! :D

berta

22/9/2021 11:10:03

ur correct abt what age dreamers are but why the hell would you even compare them to age players when the two communitys should stay very seperate, i understand what u where trying to do but you've gone about it in entirely the wrong way.

Alex

10/9/2020 02:49:19

I'm an age regressor as well and because of all the stigma surrounding it, I'm absolutely terrified of telling anyone about it. I want to tell my boyfriend about it so that he could maybe become my caregiver, but I'm too scared. Thank you for this article <3

15/9/2020 20:32:30

Hi! This article was really helpful, I'm an age regressor and I'm still really scared to tell my family (because I'm a minor) but this article is something i think i'm gonna send to my parents to inform them. Thank you!

15/9/2020 20:43:32

Omg good luck!!! Let us know how it goes if you do decide to talk to them about it :)

Hayden

16/9/2020 08:06:10

Hey... Im starting out on Age Regressing. Have you got any tips to maximise the enjoyment (Im 15)

Nia

23/9/2020 16:03:59

Thank you for advocating for us minors who regress as a coping mechanism!🥺✨💜

Jay

25/10/2020 08:24:52

Hello to whoever may be reading this! I recently discovered what age regression is through a quiz on one of my social medias, and I think I might be a little. I grew up in a neighborhood with no other children, no siblings, and no family members my age. I also dealt with bullying in school and depression and other mental health issues, especially in elementary school. Now as a high schooler, I've started to notice little signs. I can be overly sensitive and overdramatic. I sometimes chew on things. I've always loved cartoons and drawing and coloring. I like junk food, and I need to sleep with a certain stuffed animal every night. I often times feel so stressed, and wish that I could just be a carefree infant or child. I guess I'm new to this community, so I have just a few questions.
- How can I free my little self as a single teenager in quarantine?
- Is it normal to have multiple regression ages? (Ex. On Wednesday my regression age might be 1 and on Friday it might 4.)
- Are there any good sites for teens who are age regresses/ Littles?

Thank you for reading this far! If you're able to give me advice or input, that would mean the world to me! ❤

29/10/2020 04:54:58

I'm a teen regressor too and I learned and accepted it not to long ago. anyways this is my input and answers to your questions.

1. Let yourself be little and do little things without feeling ashamed!
2. Yes!!! That is normal! My age range is 2-4
3.im not to sure, I know there are but idk.
I know there is some stuffs on whattpad and you can find some accounts on instagram.
Hope this helps <3

KyKy

2/3/2021 15:18:23

So im using google while doing agere(i come in and out of it a lot) and i was wondering, My parents dont know i do agere and i love to chew on things(im chewing in a sharpie cap while typing lol) what should i do?

Ian

18/1/2021 14:41:39

I'm a junior in high school. For the first question, I tend to regress when I'm alone in my house. My parents are at work and my sister is at school. Second question I also have different ages. I do it as more of a "different levels of stress" kind of thing. Where if I feel a little stressed I won't regress as far as if I was really stressed. Third question, I have searched for a few years and can't find much. It also depends on what you are trying to find.

22/9/2021 01:51:13

Yes! You can have multiple regression ages and switch between them. Age regression is a headspace where you mentally regress, whatever age that you mentally regress to is valid. There can be any point in your life, where you could have felt carefree and happy. It's sensible that you could revert back to either moments. And there can be many moments.

I regress from a couple months old (or one year) to older ages like five, or even 13 to 17 years old at most.
Mine also varies within the week, sometimes I start out Mondays with my smallest age and end the week feeling much older in my headspace.
Sometimes it reverses or switches up.

That's all perfectly fine,
you regress to what fits best for you and when!

Jas

28/10/2020 19:52:10

Hi there! This article is really good! You’re so brave to talk about age regression!

Lucifer

30/10/2020 01:22:54

Hey ive been researching this to try and figure out how I've felt the past few years and I think I've finally found what was up thank you 🥺🥺🥺

Crystal Reynolds

4/11/2020 22:13:51

I'm 19 now and at first i did not know that i regressed at all, until my best guy friend told me that I'm a little . Now they helped me when we went to school together, but i am doing online classes now , so I slip more then ever and when i do my parents yell at me an hit me for it saying its dumb and stupid ( along with other names ) . It's been 4 months that i have been in little space and my best guy friend moved over sea's to go for his passion for music in South Korea which I support but I feel lonely now cause hes to busy with music that i don't want to bother him . Should I have accepted his offer for me to live with him in Korea and put his career in danger or did i make the right chose?

Kara

5/12/2020 02:39:23

I am not an age regressor, but I do know living with parents that hit and call you names is in no way healthy. If you really trust this person, and know information about where he lives, laws, and anything that could be a danger, you should probably reconsider accepting that offer. If you don't quite feel comfortable living with him, please contact the police in your area or move out. You matter, and you do not deserve to live in a household that mistreats you. Nothing is wrong with you, not age regressing or any other problems you have. The way your parents treat you is NOT your fault. Stay safe, you will find people that love and support you no matter what.❤️

22/11/2020 12:35:26

Is it normal to regress around people you feel safe around? I think I've been regressing around certain friends that I feel the safest around. I won't be under and stress, it just kind of happens.

Sam

22/12/2020 13:56:57

Honestly I've been wondering this, because I think that's happening to me. It happens when I feel really safe and happy around my boyfriend. We just call it babie haha, and he's okay being there to take care of me. I get really emotional really quick when I'm in babie, and my voice gets a lot higher. It only happens around him tho.

18/1/2021 14:47:33

This is COMPLETELY normal. Think about it. When we regress, we are mentally reverting to small children that can't take care of themselves. Of course it's natural that we would only regress around people we know care about us. People that we trust.

13/7/2021 12:32:41

YES!! sometimes being small widh frineds is betteer theam whizt a ceragivrt, you mommy ir daddy or what evers thwy are needs to knows lots abd lots bout you and that can be very daunting anda overwhalminf puls friends are fun :)

Crow

13/8/2021 01:34:11

I think so

Lex

2/12/2020 19:20:50

so im 13 and ive been regressing since i was 7 so ive been doing it for almost 7 years and i just told my mom , i do it involuntarily but i still like it, the thing is i dont have any pacis or bottles , so it makes me a little uncomfortable and i just wanting to thank you for this because it made me feel better about maybe being judged , and i know this is all over the place but yeah.

Kokichi Oma

4/2/2021 16:04:55

Hey there! I'm assuming that you're older now, but I, too, am a minor and I age regress. I haven't told my mom about my coping mechanism, but I was wondering if you have any tips for me? I don't have any bottles or Pacifiers, but do you have any recommendations for anything that may help calm me down? I apologize if this didn't make any sense what so ever. I've been regressing for about two years now. I just recently found out what my age regression was / is.

Nico

24/12/2020 07:10:07

hi, I'm only fifteen and started realizing a lot of new things about myself that I refused to pay attention to before. I noticed I was acting more immature than usual while playing games with my brother. today was very stressful and some bad memories came up. I was kind of acting like I was in fourth grade again? is that age regression? thinking about it now, it seems like it happens quite often.

4/2/2021 16:13:37

Hello there! I just wanted to answer your question!
I'd say that counts as age regression! If your 15 and your mindset is starting to revert to the mindset of your 4th grade self, then yeah that counts as age regression. This happens to me sometimes too, where I regress to my mindset unwillingly.

Bea

27/12/2020 07:52:59

I've been age regressing involuntarily for about two years now and when I told my now bf about it (we've been together for about 8 months) he said its annoying and I need to grow up. I really like him but it hurt, a lot.

18/1/2021 14:57:11

Thankfully, my gf understands why I do it. She doesn't understand the concept too much, and she'd prefer if I found a "safe way" to deal with stress since she can't protect me when I'm regressed. At first I think I would try to be persistent with him that it's not under your control and that it's healthy and a coping mechanism. If he still doesn't like it, because it's involuntary, try talking to a therapist about different mechanisms or learning to control it, note this is all because you "really like him". If nothing proves to be better than regressing and you can't control it, as hard as it may be, you might have to dump him. It's not healthy to bottle up emotions, and since it's involuntary you can't control when it happens. I know it can be scary but that might be what you have to do. I hope you don't have to though. I wish you good luck.

Mom

4/2/2021 10:26:49

My son is 16 and Has always regressed when feeling vulnerable. It started around age 7 and happens daily at home. He has suffered with depression, ADHD and anxiety. He doesn't handle stress well at all... he gets very angry and has trouble regulating and then regresses. So.etimes he chooses to do it when I hear hi. Talking to his girlfriend... other times I can see it is a coping mechanism. He thinks he has DID ... do any of you feel like it's a dissociative personality? I don't say anything to him about it as he seems happier when he is like this. What can I do to support him and let him know he is ok?

14/7/2021 03:10:25

first of all, thank you for not judging or putting your son down for how he copes with thing, you seem like a great mother:) but i do recommend talking to him about it, when he isnt little as that could be very overwhelming for him, and asking him what you can do to help him, if at first he gets embarrassed or defensive, make it known that you dont care and love him the same no matter what and that you are ok with taking your time for him to open up about it. obviously i personally can't say what will happen, but talking about his feelings can help him feel less pressured to tell you everything all at once. if at first he doesn't want to talk about let him be but tell him that your there to talk when hes ready, that gives him the option to come to you on his own terms and so that he feels like he can speak his mind and that hes in control of what he tells you, and as a little with ADHD and anxiety as well, feeling in control of what your telling someone about something is a very validating feeling. as for the DID i highly recommend sitting down with him and asking him why he feels like he has it and going from there, often times people with DID dont think they have it as they can remember the whole day, that was the case with me untill i had my first full switch, and even if somethings dont match with DID being open to him having it and if somedays he says "im not (your sons name) im (an alter) and use she/her pronouns" try your best to call them by it, tho it'll be a bit hard at first it will make him and his system feel a lot more welcome. theres alot of really good articles online written by people with DID that can help explain what different terms are and how to support systems with special needs. getting him diagnosed will definitely help but alot of times people with DID get misdiagnosed with schizophrenia, not it's definitely not a must. and again thank you for being such a great mom, it warms my heart to remember that, just because my mom was terrible it doesn't mean all moms are bad, your should be very proud of having such an accepting mom whi willing to learn 🥰

14/7/2021 03:14:02

*your son should be very proud of having such an accepting mom who willing to learn🥰

Axol Montalvo

5/2/2021 10:29:35

I’m 13..and when I’m around my mom or grandparents, I act like a toddler..I speak like one, act like one. Sometimes I don’t do it around my mom, and sometimes I do, it really depends on the moment, but I do it on a daily basis. The minute my grandparents are around, I do the same thing, except with them I do it everytime. I act like a child. It’s switches on, and I’m aware I’m doing it..but at the same time I’m not? Like it just happens, like a switch turns on. I also sometimes do it when something “innocent”(?) or I feel happy with another person or thing, and nostalgic things. I have been doing this for as long as I remember, and I only heard about this today. I don’t recall having any trauma (that I'm actively aware of at least), but I have been diagnosed with depression. My mom has asked me before (a good while ago, possibly a couple of years ago) “why do you act like that sometimes?”(referring to me in my child mode). Am I really an age regressor..? Ive never talked to a therapist about it, because its embarrasing for me lol..

2/3/2021 15:23:08

My switches on and off too.

Lareina

19/2/2021 05:03:40

Hi, I’m new to this term, I’m 14 but I had to “grow up” a lot faster as a minor and Idk that this is what it was called, and when I was looking into it I saw many things saying it was for 18+ and when I’d share this with someone who seemed to know about it they would tell me that it wasn’t possible bc I’m a “child already”, and I do this involuntarily and voluntarily bc I get overwhelmed by things that I can’t control, so thank you for making me feel like I’m not doing something wrong!!! 🥺❤️

KyKy(Kyle)

2/3/2021 15:21:15

My parents have no idea about my age regression I go to 1-5 and I love to chew on things(bottles,pacis and right now a sharpie cap) but i don't want my parents to know\see me with my agere stuff, any tips or some help?(My stuff is usually in my red bag i carry around)

Francine

28/3/2021 16:04:01

I have a question. I want to try age regression to help me with stress. I grew up in a happy environment and I am currently in a happy environment. I have no mental illness .
Here are my questions:

Can I learn how to be an age regressor or develop myself in to one?( my mind doesn’t regress)

If ever I can learn to regress will it still be valid. Will it be harmful to the community if I force my self to do it. Will I cause the community to be upset if I force myself to age regress?

Mei link

18/5/2022 06:23:44

Yes, you definitely can though it may take time, and yes it would be valid, littles regress for so many different reasons and not all have a traumatic past or anything like that, generally I’d say if your mind doesn’t regress as is you might need some sort of provocation and outside help, I know this reply is like superrrr late but I’d love to help you if you’re still looking to try

Quinn

29/3/2021 13:15:09

Hi!! I know this comment is a bit late hah- but I was wondering if what I experience is age regression or just being weird. After being upset or really stressed I play with my toys from when I was younger; Ex: Blocks, stuffed animals. Because I also have ADD I like to mess around with textured stuff and i like to bite stuff. I kinda ignore the stuff I'd like doing normally. Also I don't think I involuntarily age regress.

Bun ♡

1/5/2021 01:44:08

Hey! I have add/adhd as well, but I think it might be age regression, I'm not sure, but I tend to do those things too when I'm regressed, so no, you're probably not just being weird and nothing's wrong with being weird either as long as being weird doesn't hurt anybody, or at least that's what I tell myself, heh ♡ remember you're valid and loved, bun bun loves you ♡

Ori Finw

1/4/2021 22:33:28

I think I might age regress, but i'm not sure. Could someone with experience make a checklist or something else that shows common traits of age regressors? Thanks!

1/5/2021 01:39:26

I'm an age regressor, but I feel bad because I'm a minor. I use it as a coping mechanism instead of s3l4 h@rm, but I want to wait until I'm at least 15 to start doing it more often as a voluntary thing, I usually don't regress on purpose right now, but I feel like a bad person for wanting to. I didn't get to do many kid things after the age of 6 because my parents were super strict, but they're letting go a little bit more these days, but I'm still not allowed to do many things.

Anon

28/10/2021 17:20:03

Hey, I'm a minor regresser too. Agere doesn't have a specific (bio) age. Anyone can do it. It's not like you're doing adult stuff. You're literally doing the opposite! And it's much healthier than sh. You're allowed to regress matter what your big age is.

Mina

3/5/2021 03:56:30

Hey so I’ve been regressing sense I was 13 so that’s 5 years now and I don’t have much privacy at my home with my parents I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas on how I should go about this I find it more and more difficult than ever to not slip into head space so do I tell my mother about it she isn’t a very open minded person but she cares about me so I’m not sure how she would react

Little Madeline

24/5/2021 22:15:08

I've been in the "closet" for awhile, but I'm slowly coming out, I recently got a caregiver ^-^

Sunny

26/5/2021 05:41:21

Umm so I have a question about age regression, does it effect reading and writing?

13/7/2021 12:44:36

sometimes, i camd still read and understand letters but gets a bit fuzzy when i try to weite and read my own writing so normally i just type and hope people undersand whats im saying

Bells

14/6/2021 06:14:28

hello!!

firstly, I'd like to say that this is a really nice article, and thank you for speaking up on it. The stigma surrounding agere is absolutely ridiculous and needs to stop, so thank you for writing such a well written, informative article.

I have some questions, though, because I've been questioning recently on whether or not I might be an age regressor, and I'm seeing a ton of really sweet, helpful people in the comments, so hopefully somebody can help?

So I'm not sure at all if these things could make me an age regressor, because I don't involuntarily act any sort of way, and it's usually not when I'm particularly stressed, but rather when I'm either really comfortable or lonely. But the appeal of being treated and cared for like a child is just,,, on my mind a lot? Like, if I'm watching a TV show and there's a scene of someone comforting a crying child, I always get this brief pang of longing, like,, wishing that was me. Or sometimes, I just really, really want to sit on the floor and color, or swaddle myself in blankets and hug stuffed animals while a disney movie plays, and just thinking about it makes me feel a little bit hazy. Like, I don't NEED to, it just sounds really, really nice. The thought of somebody tucking my head under their chin and rubbing my back and rocking me sounds so nice it almost makes me emotional- but is that agere, or is that just my general longing for reassurance and validation? I legitimately cannot tell.

Also, when I'm with my partner and I'm feeling really happy/warm/safe, i get super hazy, and i get kind of whiny and shy, and if she teases me about it I get kind of pouty? I just act really childish. And I'm too afraid to tell her but all I want is for her to treat me like a kid, like, singing or reading me to sleep, dino nuggets, juice in a sippy cup, put on a cartoon, etc. But i can't tell if that's agere or just the fact that I like dino nuggets and cartoons as a generality, and maybe everyone wants to be rocked to sleep? I can't tell. I really can't. That mildly childish behavior is really the only thing that could be considered "involuntary", I think, but even then, I could force myself to act my age if I was asked a serious question or something.

I don't know. I feel like I'm, like, a fraud, because it's not as intense as most others, so I'm really afraid that I'm convincing myself these things mean anything when they don't, or that I'm using actual age regressors as an excuse to act like a kid. I don't know.

I'd really, really appreciate any and all help, if anybody has any advice?

Thank you so much!!

- Bells

14/6/2021 06:17:17

Also, I don't know if this matters at all, but I'm currently seventeen. That probably doesn't matter, but i need all the advice I can get lol so if that helps then I'll include it just in case

16/6/2021 20:03:17

I kind of have a few questions. Because of trauma, little space, or being in a mental space that I may not be able to choose to be in really scares me. I think it’s amazing that it helps people, but I was just wondering how you get past that fear that someone will do something to you if you involuntarily regress or the fear that you’re burdening those around you. I think I may be a regresser, but because of trauma and fear, I can’t really get into it yet sadly.

Big but a baby

20/6/2021 19:29:43

It's all ok. I am a Little and have been for 33 years. Its just me.... I run a very successful business and have been married to my big brother for 25 years. I struggle with keeping my office clean... I am told that I have a printer fetish and feel like Paul Bunyan with all the trees I chop down....

Peyton

23/7/2021 04:06:05

aaaaaa I sent this so a friend I hope they accept me like others have

Bunny

23/7/2021 21:12:13

Hi, I regress too! :) More specifically, a flip. (if you don't know what that means, it means I regress and I can go into a caregiver headspace as well)

Ava link

5/8/2021 22:54:10

Hi a friend told me about this I don't have cg but I like reading these

Bee (They/them)

6/8/2021 05:03:57

Thanks for making an article like this! Also, I wanted to say for anyone who regresses but can’t have things like pacis or bottles due to people around them being untrustworthy or they simply haven’t told the people in their life yet (like for instance a minor who hasn’t told parents) but wants similar alternatives (although you don’t *need* these things to regress, but it may help some people), I recommend that for bottles, you could try getting a water bottle with a flexible/rubber straw piece, companies tend to sell them a lot around “back to school” times. That may help because they are similar to toddler cups and they may also help if you’re like me and chew on stuff, because you can chew on the straw a bit (though it may break some straws so try to be careful) and as for pacifiers, something like “baby bottle pops” may work, even if they only last for a little while, but they are also flavored, so if you like sweets when regressed, that may out work well. Also, for food you could get things like Mac n’ cheese bowls or “GoGo Squeez” (it’s an applesauce brand but the packaging makes it work well for me when regressed so it may help you too). As for drinks, most of these are fruit based/ fruit juice, but stuff like “Little Hug fruit barrels”, “Caprisuns”, or “Kool-Aid Bursts” (there are similar things to the kool-aid bursts in other brands but I can’t remember what those were called), and stuff like those. Also, if you have pacis but need a way to take them with you without getting hair and stuff on them, or other people seeing them, I use pacifier bags (I found mine on Amazon). If anyone needs any other advice or clarification, feel free to ask and I’ll try to help!

13/8/2021 01:31:52

I've been thinking of trying to agere if i could! Ik i have a paci somewhere anyone have tips?

Yogesh Tadwalkar

23/8/2021 08:35:37

Hi, I am making a short film about age regression to raise awareness about it. I would really welcome if anyone wants to share their perspectives and stories. If keen, please email me on yogesh@synergo.com.sg. Rest assured, your identity will be kept strictly confidential.

Leo

1/12/2021 17:23:35

I'm up for it.

Ella

1/9/2021 22:42:41

Hi.
I am little spacer, but I have not been through trauma or mental healing problems, can I still be in little space

1/12/2021 17:22:30

I don't see why not ! You do you boo.

Aster

3/9/2021 02:02:09

Im not sure if I regress-
I know i do a little bit, but not sure if i fully regress

mutt

19/9/2021 07:00:48

hi, so i have a question. i age regress involuntarily because of trauma, and have been age regressed for the past couple days due to a flashback. is there any way to snap myself out of this regressed state? i don't have a therapist to talk to and i have work on monday where i CANNOT be acting childlike (especially since i regress to a very young age so i present as mute and clingy)

Selner

29/9/2021 16:31:49

The fact that someone like this can find someone to be their "caregiver" out of their own will, actually just makes me think that the simulation theory is real and we all need to take the red pill.

Michael

29/9/2021 22:20:12

Hi dunno if people will see this but, I myself aren't an age regressor but I've recently entered a relationship with one, she's sort of assigned me as her caregiver as she didn't have one prior and I'm just wondering if anybody is able to provide advice on how to, I guess, make sure I don't stuff anything up and to ensure that her regression remains a helpful coping mechanism
Thanks in advance

theo

19/10/2021 20:36:29

uh i was just wondering (i’m new to this and i think it would give me the right outlet) i umm i just kinda feel like i don’t know where to start and i don’t know where i can physically do it because i..don’t really get alone time and when i do it’s late and im sleepy. also i um kinda just feel like i shouldn’t bc idk how people will react and im not sure that if i find it works i’ll be able to hide it but umm yeah thankyou :3

Britany

23/10/2021 18:44:14

What is the best way to make yourself regress. I find it really hard to regress when I’m very anxious or depressed. Those are the times when I wish I could. I normally try and do childish things like color, watch cartoon or snuggle with a stuffie.

28/10/2021 17:16:21

Thank you so much for this! Unfortunately, I still live with my parents and I don't think they'd understand so I can only regress when they're not around, which isn't a lot :(

1/12/2021 17:19:20

I have involuntary age regression but it seems to only happen when im around my older brother the reason I'm assuming is because of the 6 years of emotional and physical abuse that I got from him , I seem to revert back to about 7 I'm currently 14. I've tried to explain it to My parents but they just blow it off . I'm not really sure were to go from here . Unfortunately peoples pleasant experiences with it are not the same for me I often cry non stop without reason and hide I can't eat or take my medication and my mother always gets mad at me when I don't. I got caught carrying around a stuffed animal and she threw it away calling me immature . My sister is the only one in my family that knows . Were can I go from here.

Red

22/1/2022 16:21:06

I like this article a lot. I feel weird being 32 and having a headspace...

After reading this though, and the comments, I feel like I wouldn't belong with the rest of you, as it started as a kink and it's now more of a lifestyle between me and my husband. It's not sexual outside the bedroom...but seeing as I'm getting kink shamed, I feel like a horrible person. 😞

10/4/2022 08:42:21

I don’t know your life, but you might not. Very kink shaming community, it seems. Live ur life and be your best self! I’ve never once met a person irl who has invalidated my regression because of my relationship with my partner(s), or the nature of my little space.

Zero or Atlas

27/1/2022 04:07:25

I wanna use this article to tell my mom I might possibly be a little and that it is not for sexual purposes. Why I think she would think this is that my little sister wants to start getting into stuff like being a furry and both my parents just think it's a kink. I just hope she'll be supportive.

12/2/2022 02:18:20

Hey, so I have severe trauma that lasted my entire childhood pretty much (from like 5-11) and I want to start regressing. I know I can because I regressed intentionally last night, but I want to know how to do it properly and where/how to discreetly buy a paci. Last night is the first time I KNOW I regressed, but I feel like I´ve done it before. I´m still a minor, however, so I don´t know how to explain this to my parents. I´m not sure they´d understand.
Any help is much appreciated.

13/2/2022 02:11:51

Hey, so I have severe trauma that lasted my entire childhood pretty much. (5 to around nine or 10) I want to age regress to help. I´ve done it before discreetly or in private, but I want help doing it properly. How do I explain regression to my parents, and should I tell them at all?

13/2/2022 20:26:12

I'm new to age regression and I'm not entirely sure if I've ever fully regressed or even if I've actually regressed at all because I can still think like I'm about my physical age but I act, speak, and feel much younger. I don't really know but it's usually towards the end of my school day when I'm tired and stressed.

18/2/2022 05:18:58

Hi, I'm a closeted little who regresses to around 3 - 4. Why I'm sharing this? Not a clue but, thank you for this. It really means a alot that people are out there and willing to break the stigma. I can't express enough how amazing this first step will be.❤️

kitten

6/3/2022 06:12:38

I feel weird having it at such a young age but people bully my for it or take advantage of me during it what can I do to stop them from doing that

No name pls <3

14/3/2022 16:05:05

Hi. I'm 14 and i think i might be an age regressor. I always have been interested in things for younger kids, like toys, stuffies and dolls and i love toddler/baby looking clothes. I have a bottle i like to drink out of and a pacifier. I feel younger than i am sometimes. I don't know if this means that i am an age regressor but i feel like it could be a possibility. How do you know if you are?

Age Regression - Stop the Stigma

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