Influencers, models, celebrities, and every one of us are victims of social media's wrath created in society today. All around the world, people see these elegant pictures or moments captured but do not dive deeper into the darker side of "beauty." As it may look almost close to perfection, the camera does not always catch everything, including the harsher and more realistic versions of these humans we glorify so much. Next time you say, "Why can't I look like that", remember those looks do not always come easily, and those pictures are far from perfect.
These beauty standards are practically imprinted onto us as we grow into young adults; society suggests women remain skinny and men to be more muscular, but why are these standards in place? Why do you have to look a specific way to be placed into the spot society plants for you?
These are all questions that can not easily be solved because there are no answers. If you think about this, it is all a social construct. A social construct means that it is something created by human interaction, and objectively is not real. As humans, we created this unrealistic beauty standard within social media that most of us expect to reach, and it is up to us to defeat it once and for all.
In my experience, many demons follow me around when it comes to my appearance and laugh when I feel unworthy of my looks, especially when I am on social media. There is always a voice in the back of my head that asks why I will never have those muscular arms or tone abs many guys have, and it breaks me. Sometimes, it affects my entire mood and puts me into a state of mind where I feel like nothing I do will ever amount to me feeling good in my body and appearance.
Some advice I could give to counteract these demons is to:
There is such a diverse spectrum for the process of self-care that it can include anything, only if it makes you feel good. Doing something you love or that makes you feel better will only boost your confidence and mentality for the rest of the day, and if you keep doing these routines daily, it will become a habit. I suggest doing one of these things at the beginning of the day, so you set yourself in the right direction for the rest of the day.
The vision of beauty that society has pushed for so vigorously provides you with a stance to manipulate the process of what beauty is and create your own standards, so you have the power to change it. Never will it be easy, but if you focus and move forth your efforts, you could find a whole new level of self-confidence and beauty you have never seen before within yourself and others without social media standing in your way.
I hope you have a fantastic day! Julius :)
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