I’ve always felt like people were watching me. Staring at me wherever I went. I constantly would check my appearance to make sure there would be nothing to stare at. Making sure every hair is in place, clothes perfectly smooth, walking perfectly straight. If anyone looked at me, only for a second, I assumed it was because something didn’t look right or was strange; there was something wrong with me.
I finally began to realize that no, I was not a vain or conceited person. I was always afraid of being labelled as self-absorbed. In reality, I was insecure and looking to other people for validation of who I am. I was unsure if my outfit was acceptable, my behavior and mannerisms “cool” and not annoying, my hair too frizzy when I let it down.
According to DoSomething.org, approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their body, and 34% of men report dissatisfaction with their bodies. 50% of Americans are not happy with their current weight. Therefore, if you feel unhappy with your body, you are most definitely not alone.
I confidently hypothesize that no one else has the time to judge others because they are too worried about how others perceive them. For example, I had no time to look and judge others' appearance because I was too worried about my own. So, when you think everyone is looking at you, trust me, they are just as worried that you are looking at them.
This probably won’t cure your insecurities, but I hope it provides you some comfort that no one is free of insecurities. Everyone is worried about how others perceive them, but in time you will realize that the only opinion who matters on your appearance is yours.
With love, Lauren C
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