Taking a step back from your day to day working life can seem impossible sometimes, well it did to me anyway. But taking a break is what you need sometimes to get back to feeling normal again.
When I first thought about taking a break my mind was telling me, “You can’t take a break everything will mess up, you need to keep on working even though it stresses you out, it needs to be done”.
It’s like you’re in a war against your own mind but also you have deadlines to meet, targets to hit and people to support. All of it can get too much for your mind to handle sometimes. It’s like your mind is storing piles of files that are needing to be read.
I was in a battle with my own mind debating whether to ask for a break, but then I’d be overthinking about what needs to be done, who’s going to do it if I do go on break etc. It can be a stressful situation at times, especially when you’re dealing with your own health problems too.
But, the job has its benefits too. It keeps me busy, it keeps me in a focused mindset. Yes, sometimes it can become too much, but what I learnt is that you have to be vocal about this. Don’t store up your worries, don’t build it up because over time it will collapse.
My problem was that I was scared about what others would think of me if I did ask for time away. Would they think lower of me? Would I be seen as a weak person if I couldn’t handle doing the job that I love?
You can solve a problem if you don’t open up about it because people are not mind-readers. So opening up about your situation is the way to solve a problem.
Taking on a role like that was a huge step in my life, it became my career. But, you need to take time away from your daily life and just relax. Go away for the weekend, watch movies or just take a long walk outside.
During this difficult time, it is hard to book a holiday away from reality as travel is limited. But there are other ways of finding that escape for a while. Here are some of those ways to try;
Taking that time away has really benefited my lifestyle by appreciating what I have around me in my local area. Taking the time to notice what’s around you in your life, family, friends and pets.
Since being back from my time away, I have noticed I’m more calmer at dealing with situations. I have also noticed that I approach a problem differently which is to not ask in the moment.
This year, I took it upon myself to start wearing a ‘Medical Alert’ bracelet as I suffer from non-epileptic seizures. The reason I decided to make this choice was because of my own safety whilst out travelling and enjoying my life.
Non-epileptic sufferers are affected by similar symptoms like people who suffer from epilepsy itself. The difference between these two are epilepsy is caused by electrical activity that takes place in the brain uncontrollably.
Some of the symptoms to look out for in an epileptic person are;
- Staring into space with no communication.
- Confused about where they are and who they are.
- If they describe smelling or tasting an unusual scent.
On the other hand, non-epileptic seizures are caused by the mental and physical state that your body is in. Some of the symptoms to look out for are;
Many people don’t realise how different these two can be from each other, one of those people including myself until I was diagnosed with it. But they are not the only two types of seizures people suffer with, there are many more types of cases.
The reason I started wearing a Medical bracelet was for my own benefit of staying safe and well. Before I had the bracelet, I was continuously living in fear of when the next seizure was going to occur.
One time, I was in a rush to get to the train station. I was by myself, running and not taking my time as I should have but the train was about to leave. Next thing, I’m waking up on the main road with people around me. I panicked of course, but then I came to terms with what had just happened.
Luckily for me, there was a young woman with her sons walking on the other side of the road when this happened. They told me they rushed over after seeing me drop to the floor in the middle of the main road. The young lad called 999 and the woman was reassuring me till I was fully conscious again.
This was when I asked myself, ‘What if I had a medical bracelet on, what would have happened differently?’ But, that’s just a lesson learnt and I was very lucky to have someone who was as kind as that young woman to come over and help me.
Wearing this medical alert bracelet and lanyard gives me the confidence to go out again and enjoy my life. I can go travelling and if I was to have a seizure, people can look at my lanyard and then contact the emergency number on the lanyard.
Simple things like this can save people’s lives, not just for people who suffer from seizures, but it can be used for many different things. So, I highly recommend looking into getting a medical alert bracelet or create your own lanyard as I did!
But what should you do if you see someone having a seizure? Watch this video on our channel where I talk about ways you can help someone in need; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8r9rS9c7rYw
If a medical bracelet is not on the person then call your local emergency services for further help and assistance! Also, whilst you’re waiting for the ambulance make sure the person who has had a seizure is safe, in the recovery position and their tongue is not at the back of the throat otherwise they could choke.
To find medical bracelets why not visit; https://www.universalmedicalid.co.uk/cat_uk/medical-ID-bracelets-62 or you could order them from eBay or Amazon!
When I decided that I liked both girls and boys back in 2015, I finally accepted who I truly was! That was such an amazing feeling, it felt like there were fireworks going off in my heart.
But recently, I have been questioning my sexuality again, thinking ‘Am I lesbian’. The reason I’ve been questioning myself is because I haven’t been in a relationship for over two years now and that relationship was with one of my high school friends.
I didn’t see that relationship as a proper one if that makes sense. I saw him as my best friend but when it came to anything sexual I straight away tried to dodge the subject as I didn’t feel comfortable with doing that.
Since that relationship, I have been more interested in women. I have never been in a relationship with a girl and I’m quite scared about what it would be like!
I have been on some dates with girls but they haven’t been taken any further. The last date I went on was on New Year’s Eve with a irish girl who really caught my eye and her accent was just something else!
Let’s just say the date didn’t end well because I ended up having a seizure in front of the girl and went back home. This was so embarrassing for me, the next day after I recovered and I messaged her to apologise however, since then we haven’t spoken so I guess I’m back to square one.
Since this date, I have really been thinking about my sexuality and how parts from my past have affected me. I just ask myself ‘Do I need to label myself’.
A part of my past that popped up in my mind was when my best friend’s partner at the time was being really homophobic towards me. He would say things like, “I shouldn’t leave you alone with her you might hit on her”. That was my best friend he was talking about and it really made me feel so unwanted and ashamed.
After this situation, I didn’t see my best friend for months, all because of her ex partner. I’ve just started to see her again and one of those times was at her wee girl’s second birthday party. I was so scared about going because he was going to be there.
I did go in the end and everything was fine! We put the past behind us, but if this ever happens again I know I need to stand my ground.
So with the whole labeling sexuality I don’t think you need to broadcast yourself to the world to accept yourself. However, If you feel like this would help you in accepting yourself then go for it! You should be proud of who you are, regardless of your sexuality.
Here are some other articles that helped me accept myself for who I am from our team; https://teenagerswithexperience.weebly.com/jazzs-articles/labels
When I was first introduced to CBT, I was like, ‘What even is CBT?’ - Cognitive behavioural therapy! This type of therapy focuses on the development of personal coping strategies and working on emotional and behavioural problems.
The next question I asked was, ‘How is CBT going to help me?’ My therapist explained that CBT focuses on trying to control the stress, deal with grief, and face many other common life challenges.
I will admit, this got me interested in learning more about what CBT can offer me. As my problem was with my eating and that’s where learning a new coping strategy came in. I have relied upon my bulimia for many years, and instead of using healthy coping strategies, I decided to take the unhealthy route.
The reason I took this route was because I was in a very dark place growing up. Every teenager deals with some kind of negative comments whilst in high school, but for me? It was pretty much all the time. Every day when I went to school, there was name-calling, people tripping me up because they thought it was ‘funny’.
That went on for a good 2-3 years, but, I just kept silent because I was brainwashed into thinking I’m not worthy of anything. I’m not worthy of respect or self-love like others were. I was the laughing stock of the school and I just let people walk all over me.
That’s when I turned to Bulimia, that was the only thing that I felt was there for me when no one else was. Obviously I had the Irish twins at the time and that’s why I’ve stood by them till today. But, mentally? Bulimia had full control of me.
Finding a new coping strategy was going to be hard as I’ve used bulimia as mine for many years, so to just give it up and replace it was a big deal for me. I’m still struggling today to replace that coping strategy but I’m still willing to give it a go.
I’ve recently started with a new CBT couch and she’s from a charity known as ‘Mind’.
A CBT coach helps you to understand the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviours. They help you to focus on the here and now to reset your mindset back to positive thinking instead of negative.
They are a very helpful mental health charity that provides information for teenagers and young adults about different types of mental illnesses.
I would highly recommend trying out CBT to find the right one that suits your needs, everyone is different and it might not work for some people, but it is currently working for me so I’m going to continue my treatment until I feel I have made progress.
Recently I’ve crossed paths with the mental health charity known as ‘Mind’. They help to empower people to understand their condition/illness. We offer a range of national and local services including workplace training to develop mentally healthy offices, applied suicide intervention skills, Mental Health First Aid and bespoke training sessions.
If you would like to read more about Mind then visit; https://www.mind.org.uk/
As with the past few months being unplanned and somewhat uncontrollable with the pandemic what we do have control over is how we spend our Halloween; safely. It is advised that people do not go out trick-or-treating this year as for the social distancing rules.
But this article can be used for the near future after all the lockdown has gone and life has returned to normal. Please stay safe during this awful time!
It’s coming up to my favourite time of the year, HALLOWEEN! It’s been my favourite since I was a child, I used to dress up as a mini witch or even one time I went as Bugs Bunny, I just added a bit of horror to it!
During Halloween, everyone loves trick or treating but how do we stay safe during that time? The tradition of trick or treating is going at nighttime when it’s dark to make the atmosphere of Halloween scary.
But, it’s been proven that kids are twice as likely to be hit by a car on Halloween as they are other nights of the year. So how can we make this more of a safe night but still enjoy the time with friends?
But it's a good and sensible idea to go out in groups whilst trick or treating so then you’re not alone during the night.
Make sure you are going out with people you can trust as if you don’t they can leave you during the night and that’s not really the night you planned on having. Also, you are more visible to traffic, and you can rely on general safety in numbers.
I like to wear comfortable shoes whilst I’m out trick or treating as I’m out for a long period of time and walking non-stop. And whilst out hunting for sweets I only like to go houses with lights on as I feel I can trust them more.
If you are staying in to provide the kids with treats then make sure to keep in mind some children have food allergies. Consider giving treats other than candy, such as stickers, erasers or a small toy.
By following these simple tips you can ensure you, your friends or your kids have a safe but fun Halloween! Happy Halloween everyone! - Mel
This year has been a rollercoaster ride full of unusual decision making and well, last-minute cancellations. This is due to the outbreak of COVID-19 that has affected people worldwide.
But as this year has been ‘cancelled’, what does that mean for the scariest holiday of the year, Halloween? Is that going to be cancelled? Well, no fear, Mel is here with a few tips and tricks of her own that she is going to do during this pandemic and what she plans to do to make sure she enjoys her favourite holiday of the year!
It’s been a weird time of life for all of us but we deserve to celebrate one of the most loved holidays of the year! So why not do it in style but most importantly safely!
Some other ideas are; - See if there are any local Halloween outdoor cinema showings that provide a safe and fun event for everyone.
This year I really wanted to revisit my childhood by going trick-or-treating again as I haven’t been since I was 11. But it all depends on what the rules are for going trick-or-treating during COVID.
That’s not to say I can’t enjoy it though! By trying out those safe activities I’m sure to have one spooky Halloween even if it’s at home. I’m also planning to decorate my bedroom and go all out with Halloween decor!
I get some of my inspiration from Pinterest which I highly recommend if you want to get creative! Check out this link for ideas; https://www.pinterest.co.uk/search/pins/?q=diy%20halloween%20decorations&rs=guide&term_meta=halloween%7Cautocomplete%7C1&term_meta=decorations%7Cautocomplete%7C1&add_refine=diy%20halloween%20decorations%7Cguide%7Cword%7C0
We have found ourselves in a recent situation which is hard to get your head around. That is known as the Coronavirus Quarantine. But has this lockdown helped me and others? Has it had a kind of positive effect on people?
Since the end of March, we have been introduced to Quarantine life. It wasn’t planned and it wasn’t expected but it came and is still here. What is this lockdown for and why are we all being restricted on what we can do and where we can go?
Some of these restrictions are;
The restrictions have stopped many people from working, from leaving their own homes and not being able to see friends or family that are not in the household. For me, this has affected when I see my Grandparents on a Thursday to help them go weekly shopping!
There are worse cases out there than mine but it’s still hard not seeing your own grandparents all of a sudden. The Coronavirus is believed to have started from a "Wet Market" in Wuhan, which in other words is a market that sells both dead and live animals.
How has it affected the area I live in? Well, we are limited to where we can go and what we can do. We’re not allowed to see our friends and we’re not allowed to go out on days out like I normally go for a drive with my dad but we haven’t been on one for months!
But, I believe everything happens for a reason, right? So, the way I look at it is that this virus has helped us to appreciate the little things like what’s on our doorstep! The beautiful walks I have been on since this lockdown started have been truly amazing! This is why I believe Quarantine has helped me to improve my mental state and improved my anxiety of going out in my local area.
One of my favourite walks has been to visit the local horse sanctuary. Visiting the horses there has really built my confidence to get out more but has also grown my relationship with my mum to become closer.
During Quarantine too I have also grown a closer bond with members at TWE, as everyone is finding more time to work within the team- it has let me get to know the newbies too!
This has taught me that I should never take anything for granted ever again! Appreciate the small things and count myself lucky for where I am today and who I have become as there are other people in worse situations than me!
So yes, it has helped me but it has also helped many others grow that bond they might have lost with their parents, children or friends that are living in their household as they might have had a busy routine with work and not enough time to spend quality time with them.
I never really understood what social anxiety was until I started to have mental health issues. During high school, it was a pretty tough time and I began to dislike myself a lot. Losing confidence in the way I looked but then that started to make me withdraw from society itself.
I felt like everyday when I walked into high school that I was being stared at all the time and being judged at everything I did. Yes, I was bullied for my ginger hair and other things too that still haunts me to this day, I even go under a new name because of how much it traumatized me.
When I was diagnosed with depression, anxiety and anorexia they told me to research into them so I could gain a better understanding of what they were. So, when I looked up what anxiety was I didn’t realise how many different types of anxiety disorders there were!
Here are just a few of those that I discovered;
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Now, PTSD is when something that has either scared or traumatized you from a previous event that has happened to you. This can cause lack of sleep and even your daily life.
For more information on PTSD; https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/
Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).
So, with OCD this is when someone begins to have obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviours. If someone has a fear of dirt and doesn’t want to catch an illness, this can cause anxiety to the person and then they would do everything to get rid of every spec of dirt with compulsive cleaning.
For more information on OCD; https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-ocd/
Then, I came across what I didn’t realise would become a huge part of my life, Social Anxiety. Some other people like to call it ‘Social Phobia’, but this is when the person is afraid of social situations. This anxiety can be very overwhelming but people just assume that it’s shyness but it’s much more than that! It can take over your life, your relationships and friendships causing you to be alone.
This affected me so much during the remaining years of high school as I stopped going out after school to play with my ‘friends’. I started to just come home and then go straight up to my bedroom where I would isolate myself and spend hours on my laptop.
This is the period where I gained a love for the famous Youtuber known as ‘PewDiePie’. I saw him as a getaway from reality and everytime I watched his videos, I was laughing! I remember watching him when he first started to upload to Youtube and now I see him he’s come so far with his career and never gave up his dreams.
Social Anxiety caused me to lose not just my friends but also myself too. To this day I still don’t recognise myself as I can’t remember who I really was. All I remember is that I used to love going out, exploring the wilderness and enjoy being around people, socialising. But, now I can’t even go out the house without someone I know acompioning me. I feel like a prisoner inside my own mind, it’s a very dark place.
Over the years I have done more research about what help there is out there for people who suffer with social anxiety. So I’ve put together some of the tips that helped me get through some of the hardest times;
I hope you enjoyed this article, if you have any other tips on how to deal with any type of anxiety then please let me know! For more information on anxiety disorders please check out these websites that I found helpful too;
Different Forms Of Anxiety - TWE Article; https://teenagerswithexperience.weebly.com/guest-articles/the-many-forms-of-anxiety
How To Deal With Anxiety - TWE Article; https://teenagerswithexperience.weebly.com/guest-articles/dealing-with-anxiety-and-panic-attacks-what-to-do
Doctor Sleep is based on the famous novel written by one of my most favorite authors, Stephen King. This movie was a sequel to Stephen’s 1980 movie, ‘The Shining’.
In Doctor Sleep the story continues from the first movie when the young boy who rides his bicycle around the spooky hotel grows up and tries to forget about his past.
After the horrors of Danny’s childhood, he tried to lock it away by drinking. Danny turned into an alcoholic but he didn’t want to end up like his father did. So, he decided enough was enough and moved away from the town he started to have his drinking problems and go away, far away.
He ended up in a new town where he met a kindhearted man who gave him a place to stay and a new job. A few weeks down the line from having a fresh start he had a whiteboard in his room where he would wake up to see messages written on the board from his ‘penpal’.
This penpal was a wee girl who lived miles away and she had the same powers as Danny had known as ‘The Shining’. She could communicate through his mind and talk to him like he was standing right in front of her.
After they have some troubles with Doctor Sleep they both return to the Overlook Hotel and Danny faces his demons from his past. Meeting the girl twins who personally were my favorite because I love how creepy they make the movie scenes in the hotel. Wearing the same outfits and their voices are just well suited for this movie.
When I first heard and read about Doctor Sleep becoming a movie I was so happy! After loving the first movie I thought the sequel would be even better and I was right! The jumpscares were scary as they should be to be one of Stephan King’s creations.
Watching the movie it was quite a slow build-up to the main part I was waiting for but it was such a grand storyline. My favorite parts involved when Doctor Sleep went into meditation to try and find out where the wee girl with the powers was. She traveled the universe and was flying above the world and it was such a magical scene.
That made me feel like I was in wonderland but to see how meditation can work too is really magical! This just shows how it can help you deal with past trauma and much more!
Doctor Sleep was such a unique sequel to the famous movie, ‘The Shining’. But, the only thing I would change about the movie is the amount of time it took to build up the story as it didn’t really give much information for viewers who hadn’t seen the first movie.
We thought the build-up was too far stretched and could be shorter to keep the viewers interested as my friend who came with me was falling asleep.
But the most brilliant part was the ending when it came together and that’s when people see how the story continues as Danny faces his childhood demons once again.
When I was first introduced to the movie, Girl Interrupted, I was interested in finding out what this film was all about. Normally, when someone suggests a movie to me I just watch it straight away without doing a bit of researching into it. But, with this movie when I watched the first ten minutes of it, I had this urge to find out the background of the movie and to find out who Susanna Kaysen is.
So here’s what I found out;
- Susanna was an author,
- Her hometown was Cambridge, Massachusetts,
- Her family were Jewish.
But, the question that I wanted answered was, ‘How did Susanna get the idea for Girl, Interrupted?’
Well, in 1967 after Susanna finished high school in Boston, she was sent to McLean Hospital. She was sent to this hospital to get psychiatric treatment for depression. But, when being treated for depression her therapist also diagnosed her with borderline personality disorder.
Living with mental health challenges myself, I knew quite a lot about mental illnesses and what causes they have to the person diagnosed. So with BPD, also known as Borderline Personality Disorder, the person will feel detached from reality. This can be caused by unstable relationships throughout life and the feeling of being empty or being alone.
I feel like after doing some research into Susanna that myself and her had a connection. Now, many will read that and think how? Well, growing up I experienced bullying, finding out that my dad was cheating on my mom and that all the responsibility of keeping that a secret was all on me. It felt like it was my duty to tell my mom that my dad was doing behind her back.
Looking back now I know full well it wasn’t my responsibility to. But, that was in the past and I can’t change that. But after all these negative events I kept to myself and I just built everything up inside of my head. I wouldn’t be open about what was going on in my life like I would do today. I felt alone, I felt like I was the only person to talk to. This is where I can relate to Susanna about feeling abandoned.
So, my review on Susanna Kaysen’s ‘Girl Interrupted’. It has got to be one of my most loved and favourite movies I have ever seen. Also, my favourite part in the movie is when Lisa ,played by Angelina Jolie, joins in on singing with Susanna, played by Winona Ryder, to another patient who was upset and they just try to cheer her up.
Simple scenes like this really make you think about the beautiful things in life.
I love how they focused on sharing the patient's view on life too. Normally in society they try to hide people who have mental illnesses or other types of health issues. Mental health is made to be seen as not normal and embarrassing to family members or society, so that’s why they are locked away from the world to suffer in silence.
But Girl, Interrupted shows the true side of what it’s like to be locked away from the world and made to feel ashamed of who you are. I believe this movie changed the ways of treatment for mental illnesses and improving the NHS and government's involvement too. Spreading more awareness and letting people be able to feel cared about.
Freedom is very hard to find, but beauty can be found within you just got to explore more!