Summary: In this article, Mel explains why she thinks that relationships are not that important to have in life. Many parents want their children to grow up to have a good education then find the perfect person to marry settle down with and start a perfect family. But is this really the case?
Relationships are when two people get together ‘fall in love’ like a high school romance. Remember High School Musical movie series when Troy and Gabriella fell in love at first sight then in number three, Gabriella had to make the decision of either staying in the town she grew up in or move to a new one to start university. Would she stay for Troy as a high school romance? Or did she choose to take that chance to start her life at Stanford University?
Things like what happened to Gabriella actually happen in real life. Making hard choices between the stuff you love and making a big decision for your future. But in High School Musical I heard Gabriella’s friend say to her, “ There will be other guys”. So, that makes me think straight away that there will be other relationships and her friend is encouraging her to move to Stanford and leave the relationship she has with Troy behind.
Moving onto when parents plan your future out for you but you don’t have the chance to experience what others are doing. You don’t have a say in what you can do with your life. Some parents just want what’s best for their children which is understandable but they are not letting their children explore the world for themselves, to find their true selves.
This is when mental health can become a part of the child’s life, because they are so confused as to what to do, so they build it all up inside their heads instead of talking to their parents like they should be able to without fear. The fear of rejection, the fear of being shouted out and being disowned. No child should be made to feel that way at all! They deserve to be supported on what decision they make themselves.
School flings can sometimes turn into a serious part of your life, it does happen! Obviously there will be disagreements between the couple but that’s a natural part of life. If you decide to start a life and family with your high school fling I say go for it! If that’s what makes you happy you do that because that’s what really matters! If they support you in whatever you decide to do, then that’s so caring and what you deserve.
But not being in a relationship is not the end of the world. If you see all your friends getting into relationships and you feel like you’re the odd one out, don’t punish yourself it’s okay to be single! I have been single for the best part of two years now and that’s because I made my own choice on focusing on myself! I wanted to improve my mental health, my physical health and most of all my happiness!
Now here I am home studying a course I love doing and I can spend my time with friends and family when I want to. I don’t want a relationship because I feel like I’m not ready to have one and that’s my choice so no it’s not important to have a relationship for all your life. Get out and explore this beautiful world!
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