Relationships these days are pictured as a fairy tale. The one you meet will be your soulmate and the one you’ll be with forever. But, that’s not always the case. We all have our crushes in high school, well I did anyway. I remember seeing him walk down the hallway and I was just in a world of my own, I felt like an angel just watched past me.. Sounds stupid right? But that’s how I felt. Some people don’t like admitting to liking others, they are scared of rejection and what the person’s reaction would be.
I remember my first relationship being with a boy I met online. ( seems dumb right? ) but, there was something about him that I just thought, wow I can really relate to this guy on so many levels and I’ve never met him before. Little did I know he went to the same high school as my friend who lived about 45 minutes away from me. So, when I told her I was talking to this guy and told her what his name was she was so surprised. I was like “Wait what’s going on, is everything okay?” She just replied with “This guy, he goes to the same school as me and he’s in most of my classes”. My heart stopped. All of a sudden all these negative thoughts started entering my head telling me that I was worthless and that the guy I was talking to wouldn’t like me. My friend would think I’m dumb for assuming this guy liked me back.
Little did I know the actions my friend would make next would be the opposite of what the thoughts were telling me. She went straight onto social media ( Facebook ) and she messaged him saying “Hey, I know the girl you’re talking to. Would you like to meet her?” Next thing, I was going on an arranged date made by my friend. It was like a fantasy.. Was this going to be my Cinderella moment? Let’s find out!
The day came that I was finally going to meet this guy I had been talking to for almost 2 months. My friend joined me on this date because I’m terrible with meeting new people and my anxiety would hit the roof, especially with the guy I liked! Me and my friend sat down in Leon’s, ( it’s a restaurant that serves vegan food ). Then all of a sudden he walked in. My heart was beating like there was no tomorrow! I finally got to meet the guy I ‘fell in love with’.
After our date we planned to meet up again during summer at a holiday camp. We did start dating but after 2 years it got a bit difficult due to the distance between us.. But I guess 2 years isn’t that bad, right?
We still talk now, as friend though. But I am very grateful that my first love was him. He’s so sweet and has never done wrong by me. I can trust him with my life and I’m glad we are still friends!
Several years on I turned 17. I met this guy who was taller than me, blue eyes and blonde hair. We exchanged numbers and next thing we started dating. It did go pretty fast if you ask me.
At first, everything was perfect, he made me smile and he treated me with respect. I got to meet his family and his little sister was a ray of sunshine. It was like I met a mini-me. As the months past, the relationship started to crumble. I believe that the reason why the relationship taken a wrong turn is because of my mental health. I suffer with Bulimia Nervosa so it was very hard for me to go out for meals etc. But, I will give it to this guy, he helped me overcome this and now I can eat out in public.
Back to the story; he was a very supportive guy when it came to my bulimia. But, it got too much for him and to be honest, I don’t blame him! If I was in his position I would probably be panicking on what to do.
But, the guy I fell in love with wasn’t there anymore. He started treating me like I was worthless and had no meaning in the world. He went from making me feel like the most important person and someone who appreciated me to someone who just knew me as a stranger.. A hater if you like.
It’s just so surprising how a person can just change in a flicker of an eye.. It really changed my opinion on people. Shortly after we broke up i found out that he was cheating on me for the last few months of our relationship with none other than my best friend ( at the time ). This torn me apart in two ways. One being that the guy I fell in love with was just throwing all that away for a person I thought I could trust with my whole life, turns out I can’t..
And the second reason being that in my mind the friendship meant more to me than it ever did to her. I can’t understand how you can break that bond of trust in the friendship just for a guy. I think the second reason torn my heart apart more because I knew this girl for such a long time, growing up with her. Sharing memories together, it was just like she threw them all in the trash to be forgotten.
So, young love isn’t always what it seems. But that doesn’t mean it’s always going to turn out bad. It can lead on to greater things! For example, when this whole situation happened to me, I planned on moving to Scotland for a new job and that went ahead. I couldn’t be more proud of myself for taking that chance and putting myself first for once. It’s healthy to put yourself first, don’t hold back! That’s what I did for so long and then I finally broken the cycle. Take that chance now! - Mel.
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