Coming out is usually stated as some rite of passage into becoming a “full-fledged gay” and truly embracing your identities. However, just as everyone’s experience is important, unique, and special, so is coming out.
Elaborating on the aforementioned, coming out is even said to be a “mass or public event” by this Wikipedia article. But is that our reality?
If you reference my article, Coming Out, Babey, I talk about how coming out isn’t a one time event, but multiple moments that happen in our lives. Coming out can be one big event, or even a small realization of yourself. It can be a whole party, an important conversation, or a casual “hi, I’m <name> and my pronouns are…”
Coming out, for me, is a series of multiple events. Here are some of the ways I’ve experienced coming out:
So coming out isn’t necessarily a big or small thing--or even a medium thing. Coming out is what you define it to be. If you want to go above and beyond, go for it. If you want to just mention it and leave it be then that’s valid. And if you don’t even want to come out, that’s fair too. It’s okay to not want to do something big or even come out because that’s your business and your choice. You don’t owe anyone a coming out, that’s for you.
And you’re spectacular.
Keep your head up, the sun still rises
Mercury (Merc) Neon