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Depression with Anti-Vax Parents

4/12/2020

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​Trigger Warning: This article talks about depression and suicide.

Disclaimer: I am not dismissing either process explained in this article. I am only sharing my experience and what worked for me.

    Ever since I was around 8 or 9 years old, I have been battling my depression. I experienced the whole shebang! I had no appetite, severe panic attacks, horrendous suicidal thoughts, I felt empty yet indescribably despondent. It got to the point where it felt impossible to get out of bed in the morning. I couldn’t get through a full 5 days of school and called my parents to pick me up multiple times a week. At that point, I obviously couldn’t really hide it from them. I was exhausted and couldn’t go on that way anymore. One morning, I had my dad pick me up from school. He drove as I sobbed in the passenger seat for what felt like an eternity. I then asked him if they could afford a therapist for me, and to my surprise, they could. 

    A few days after that, I went to see a psychologist. She had me do several tests including a series of drawings and a questionnaire. After 2 or 3 sessions, she told me I had depression and anxiety. Right off the bat, my parents were already sceptical. They kept saying how quick it was and expressing their distrust for my psychologist. I wasn’t sure if they were just insecure about picking the right therapist for me or if they had trouble accepting the diagnosis, which I understood; I, myself, am still having issues with accepting it. 
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With this information, my psychologist suggested immediately starting me on antidepressants. My father, the most stubborn and ignorant anti vaxxer there is, was furious. He also had depression and hated being on his meds. He believes that doctors are trained to give medication as a solution to everything and not give what could be more beneficial holistic options. My mom was reluctant, but never argued with either side. I’m assuming it was to prohibit any added stress on me. We went to see a psychiatrist so she could prescribe an antidepressant and dosage. She decided to go with Zoloft, which is what my father used. From that first appointment, she already started talking about how we would start with 25 mg, then 50 mg, then 100 mg, and so on. She was also saying how most of her adolescent patients do best at 200-250 mg. I assume you can imagine my parents’ reaction. I’m surprised they didn’t burn the hospital down (exaggeration!!)! Their problem with this was that before she even talked to me about anything like how I felt or how bad my condition was, the psychiatrist was already talking about going up to 200+ mg. My father constantly reminded me how he felt like a zombie on just 25 mg, nonetheless 200. I understand that he just wants the best for me, as most parents do. However, his comments and reminders did nothing but give me extra anxiety and irritate me. I was having trouble accepting being on meds, too. I guess it made me feel as though there was something wrong with me or maybe it solidified the idea that I need help, or I possibly even felt immense relief that I was finally getting help. I honestly don’t know what I was feeling. 

When I was on 25 mg, I felt no difference after a few weeks. I couldn’t talk to my parents about it since they would start arguing with me about how I should be going the holistic route and the doctors are just trying to drug me, etc. I talked to my psychologist about it, and she increased the dosage to 50 mg. From there, I was feeling a little better, but was still in a horrible mental state. I gave it a few more weeks, but I couldn’t take it anymore. I talked to my psychiatrist (not my psychologist) and she wanted to jump to 100 mg. I could’ve sworn my dad had a stroke. Once we picked up the prescription, we realized the psychiatrist made a mistake and gave us 50 mg again. I was devastated but I could tell my mom was kind of relieved. From this point on, we kept information on the dosages from my father, thinking he would start an argument with my doctors and cause more problems for me. We told my psychiatrist and she said to just take 2 pills for a total 100 mg. My psychologist said to instead cut some of the pills in half and to take 1.5 pills for a total of 75 mg. Up until about a week ago, I continued this dosage. I was still having suicidal thoughts occasionally (2-3 times a month), and my anxiety never lessened throughout this process. We increased the dosage to 100 mg, which is what I’m on right now. This is probably the best I’ve felt in years. I’m still coping with everything; in fact, I cried while writing this article. 

If your situation was anything similar to mine, just remember that both sides just want the best for you. You must do what you think is best for you. If you want to go the holistic route, just know – according to my parents – it takes longer than medication; like months longer, but my father swears by it. All I can say is that western medicine is what worked for me. Curing depression is a very slow process with a lot of experimentation to find what works best for you. You should work yourself towards telling your doctors everything! No matter how hard it is to talk about, try not to leave any details out; it makes it easier for them to help. I recommend reading “Finding a Therapist Who Can Help You Heal” by HelpGuide for more information on how doing this helps in the long run. This is coming from a person who didn’t speak about her depression for 6-7 years. I bottled everything up until I reached my worst state. Happiness, as grammatically incorrect as this sentence is, is so much better!
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If you are struggling with depression, please just speak to anyone whether it be a friend, sibling, trusted adult, or doctor. One thing my parents used to say to me is that the one good thing about rock bottom is that the only way to go from there is up. It really is worth it!

-Katelyn

Depression and suicide helplines:
  • US Helpline: Call 800-273-8255 or text 741741
  • UK Helpline: Call 116123 or text 85258
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The Unknown benefits of aromatherapy

28/9/2020

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The history of aromatherapy:
Aromatherapy is the use of aromatic plant extracts and essential oils for healing and cosmetic purposes. The history of aromatherapy can be drawn from many places, such as the Egyptians who developed the first distillation machines to obtain oils. The use of aromatic oils as mood enhancers is thought to have originated in China, and the Greeks contributed to modern aromatherapy, especially as it was used for healing purposes and a highly valued practice. In fact, in Greek mythology it is believed that Gods were gifted with the knowledge of perfume and fragrance. Medical benefits of aromatherapy were not proven until World War II, where a French surgeon, Jean Valnet used essential oils to aid in healing soldiers’ wounds.
So, how can aromatherapy help teens? It can actually help in many of the challenges heightened during adolescence. Essential oil properties vary from oil to oil, something that can make the process of looking to buy any intimidating, but the ones I will be detailing in this article are especially useful for dealing with stress, mood swings, concentration, and have a multitude of other uses. 

Rosemary:
Uses: Rosemary is the perfect oil for pre-exam stress, this is because it has not only been shown to improve both concentration levels and information recall, but it can also reduce stress and anxiety. Additionally, rosemary can lower levels of cortisol, a hormone which can cause insomnia and mood swings, this means that rosemary can boost your mood, making you feel more energetic, more alert, and happier. Ideal mental conditions for exam season!
How to Use: One way you can apply rosemary is by applying a diluted oil to your skin.

Peppermint:
Uses: Peppermint is perfect for those mornings when you feel tired and unmotivated as it is a natural stimulant of which helps concentration, boosts energy, and overall mental performance. Both exhaustion and irritability are lessened by peppermint and it can also help to alleviate stress. 
How to Use: Peppermint can be applied from an oil and rubbed into the skin; if you are using it specifically for stress then it can be rubbed into the temple.

Lavender: 
Uses: When going through a stressful time in your life, lavender can assist in making it just that bit easier to manage. Perhaps best known for its calming properties, lavender indeed promotes calmness and induces sleep due to being a sedative. Additionally, lavender has been shown to have uplifting effects, this leads to an overall result of you feeling well-rested and in a good mood! 
How to Use: Lavender is relatively easy to access in many different forms. In oil form it can be bought at local shops or ordered online (websites listed at the end), in its raw form you can even grow your own lavender relatively easily from the seed. If grown, then one way to use lavender is by cutting off a sprig and placing it under your pillow.

Clary Sage:
Uses: Another very useful oil for relaxation is clary sage, which has been shown to reduce dizziness, anxiety, and irritability. Some studies even show that it can help with blocked creativity and confusion.
How to Use: Clary sage is best used as an oil mixed with another substance such as coconut oil and then massaged into the skin. Another way to use it , especially for relaxation, is to put three to five drops into bathwater, this also has cosmetic benefits from the oil on your skin and is one of the best ways to immerse yourself in the relaxation through the steam produced.
Overall, aromatherapy has amazing benefits for everyone; it is easily accessible through online shops, high street shops and even your own garden! As a method of self-care, aromatherapy is easy to do and the cosmetic and mental gains are abundant. It can help you generally feel like your best self!
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-Jasmine
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Useful websites for buying essential oils:
  • https://www.planttherapy.com/ 
  • https://www.hollandandbarrett.com/shop/natural-beauty/aromatherapy-home/
  • https://www.nealsyardremedies.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwoub3BRC6ARIsABGhnyYruT1yr8LU_YWOM-d8-eupBdGSZHXANoh37099irMY0JCTIhUSNDsaAoFFEALw_wcB

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The world of full time work

13/2/2020

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In the run-up to my post-A-levels summer, I always planned to work full time. I knew I had to do it since I’d put aside no money for university and I’m notoriously bad with spending. I had no idea what I was going to do or where I was going to do it, and when I actually finished my exams I was slightly stumped. This was it. Time to swap out the revision cards for the world of work. There were a few problems at first - I couldn’t go full time at my current job at Primark, I had no way of getting there and perhaps the most prominent issue: I had absolutely no motivation to do it. 

Why would I? I’d spent the last two years tirelessly working for my exams, finding a balance between writing, my part-time job and all of the other problems life was pummelling at me. Summer was meant to me my time to relax and finally take a breath. I handed in my notice at Primark with the promise to myself that I would find a full-time job, made a few half-arsed applications on Indeed and kicked my feet up, indulging in Netflix and doing absolutely nothing. However, when I did, I had a nagging voice in the back of my head. You’re not doing enough. You should be doing more. I felt guilty. 

I posted a message in a Facebook group for employees of the coffee chain I’d worked to prior to Primark, simply asking if anyone needed a new member. I already had contacts within the company as I’d worked in several stores for them and it wasn’t long before I’d signed a 30-hour contract at a local store. I was excited to be back at first, but after a few shifts that wore off. Rude customers, lunch rushes and running out of stock was not something I had missed. 

However, I knew I had to do it. I needed the money and I needed something to do over the summer. I passed my driving test by that point but a car was useless if I couldn’t afford the petrol or insurance. Again, I felt guilty for not working; I knew this was a better chance than any to earn some money and it would benefit me in the long run. 

  • Only take on hours that you can do. Don’t force yourself to sign a contract for more hours than you know you can handle. Start with something smaller - 10 or 12 hours is always a good starting point, especially if you’re a new employee. 
 
  • Network. As I said, I was already a fully trained barista and had contacts within a company, so I was very lucky. You might not even realise that you know people who can recommend you for a job or help you get an interview. Talk to your parents, their friends and other family friends. 
 
  • Remember that all jobs have bad days. I have days at my job where we’re out of syrups, food and understaffed. Don’t let it set the tone for the whole thing. For every one bad day, there are multiple good days when things are smooth sailing and go suspiciously well. 
  
  • Remember why you’re doing it. My main motivation is earning money for university. It’s the first adult thing I’m actually doing and even though I do question it sometimes, I know in the future I’ll be glad I did. 
 
  • Try and make friends within your team. It’s natural for co-workers to disagree sometimes, especially if you work in a fast-paced or stressful environment such as fast food or retail. However, it’s also important to try and get on with them so don’t be afraid to talk to them, get to know them and even try and make friends. I’ve met some of my closest friends at my jobs in the two years that I’ve been working and it makes things so much better.

​Jazz

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The Influence of TV characters

25/1/2020

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I think there’s something about certain TV show characters. 
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I’ve binged a lot of shows in my life -sitcoms, romcoms, dramas, everything. I’ve found myself getting lost in TV characters and their stories. There’s something about being invested in them that makes me hit that dreaded next episode button. Heck, I’ve even found myself watching fan edits and reading fan-fiction about some characters. When you become invested in their story, they can become a big part of your life. 

The first show I watched properly and intensely was the Big Bang Theory. I haven’t shied away from criticising the show in my previous articles, but that doesn’t make it any less important. I started watching it with my dad in when it first aired in 2007, and even though I felt the show and its comedic elements went downhill, I still tuned in a few months ago for the series finale. It felt like part of my childhood was ending - the show had been in my life for eleven years.

Another show that really pulled at my heartstrings was How I Met Your Mother. The show captures the lives of five friends in the big city - which is the pretence for every sitcom ever - but somehow, each individual character makes you feel different things. It follows issues such as break-ups, cheating, losing people close to you, infertility and absent parents. I’ve dealt with some of those things in my own life and seeing it reflected on-screen did something to me. 

The thing about TV characters is that they’re always there. They’re constant - things around you might change rapidly but your favourite show will always be there to watch when you need it. The sense of community that you get from a sitcom or the feeling of warmth from an amazing series finale can brighten your day. 

I’ve found inspiration in them as well. When there’s an epic love story, it influences my own writing. When there’s heartbreak, I’ve translated the angst that worked in the show into my own work. There are real people behind the characters and words and feelings and that can easily hit home for you. 

For example, I’ve been watching Jane the Virgin since it aired in 2014. I recently got around to watch the series finale and it made me cry - in fact, it wasn’t crying. It was ugly howling and blubbering and weeping. The show made me feel something. I felt like I was saying goodbye to an old friend. It’s so easy to get invested in them. 

For me, I love the feeling of being involved. After watching ten seasons of Friends, I felt like I was a member of their group. After bingeing Orange Is the New Black, I felt passionate about seeing where the women in the show went. It’s okay to let yourself be uplifted by a TV show. Sometimes, it can be a distraction or even a coping mechanism to help you deal with things going on in your own life. 

Never be embarrassed to embrace your love of TV shows and the characters within them. The people on screen can be our heroes - I’m not afraid to let myself be inspired by them. 

​Jazz
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The good place - a review

25/1/2020

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The Good Place is an American sitcom with an unexpected depth. The basic idea is that Eleanor Shelstrop (played by Kristen Bell) wakes up after dying in a heaven-like utopia called The Good Place. She quickly realises that she has been mixed up with a human rights lawyer of the same name and doesn't deserve to be there. As you can imagine what follows is a journey of near misses that will keep you glued to the screen. The plot is skilfully woven with new revelations and a particularly clever twist at the end of the first season.

However, the characters are what kept me addicted to the show.

Chidi, Eleanor's supposed soul mate, is a well-intentioned Philosophy professor with crippling indecision. His application of various famous Philosophical ideas to the situations he finds himself in are mind-bending and educational in the most interesting way. Perhaps what I most like about him is the solidity of his integrity, something I find refreshing when self-centred characters with subjective morals are so common.

Eleanor somehow has a personality worth binge-watching. She's witty enough to be quote-worthy and her interactions with the others will have you rolling with laughter. She begins as a self-obsessed character but fights to stay in a good place with a stubborn persistence that will leave you cheering for her anyway. Gradually the connection she forms with the other characters changes her and the unlikely four friends navigate whatever is thrown at them.

The other two main characters are Tahini Al-Jamil and Jason Mendoza. I can't say much about Jason without spoiling it if you haven't seen the first few episodes. But trust me you'll love him in his own special way.

Tahini is a "sexy skyscraper" in the words of Eleanor (who is equally attractive) and there's certainly some queer baiting going on. Eleanor is clear about being attracted to her. (Three cheers for a show that normalises queer characters so much that no one mentions it). There's even a hint in one scene that Tahini could be Eleanor's soul mate (can't say more without spoiling it) which was almost certainly thrown in there so the fanfic world could go crazy. Appearance and attraction aside, Tahini is a character with her own quirks and insecurities. Her posh British accent and snobby ways often rubbing up hilariously against the others.

As well as being a light-hearted and relaxing show it deals with bigger questions. Should we all get rated as good or bad people based on what we do? What makes us good or bad? If we did loads of good things but with the wrong intentions do they count? Or if like Chidi we buy a blueberry muffin instead of a chocolate one not knowing that the migrant workers picking the blueberries are being mistreated are we guilty? Who would actually be counted as good if we do all get tallied up? Should there be an average place for the average person?
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All these questions might not be your cup of tea but for me, it was certainly a delightful watch.

Enjoy!
~Hannah​
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Pre-Results day feelings

25/1/2020

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With results day creeping up emotions will be running high. You may be feeling excited, nauseated, scared, worried or you might be in denial.  However, whatever you are feeling is justified. These results might be important, but they aren’t the end of the world. If you tried your best in the exam everything will be okay.
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If you are like me you have completely disregarded your post-exam feelings which made you feel happy about the exam you have just taken and are now feeling like you have failed all your exams, failed life and contemplating marrying rich. However, just remember you are your own worse critic. My mum once told me to try and not envision stressful or scary events. This is because it makes you live through it twice. In addition, you always envision it worse than it really is. 

You might be wondering; how do I deal with these feelings? Well, there are many coping mechanisms that can help you. One way which I am sure many of you do is relax and watch Netflix. Watching Netflix or tv can help you switch off your brain. Another way is reading a book. Personally, when I am stressed, I read Harry Potter as I love envisioning myself learning spells at Hogwarts or playing Quidditch alongside Harry. Things like movies and books help you escape your reality and envision yourself elsewhere. 

However, sometimes trying to escape doesn’t work or becomes an unhealthy habit. Ways to deal with your feelings are keeping a journal specifically for emotion and mental health. I have personally filled many journals over the years with my feelings as a way for me to get them out without verbally speaking them. However, some people prefer talking to people. You might want to talk to a family member, friend or someone who specialises in talking about mental health. 

In conclusion, you should try to enjoy your summer. You have earned it! You will feel so much better creating memories with friends or admiring the sunsets. Results day is inevitable, there is no way to prevent so you should try your hardest not to obsess about it. I know it is hard but no matter what your results are you will feel happy that you didn’t waste most of your summer fretting about something you had no longer any control over.  

​Erika
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Phases of sexuality

20/8/2019

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Phases of Sexuality

As people grow and gain more knowledge of themselves and the world around them, it is perfectly normal to begin to question aspects of yourself you may have considered constants, such as your gender identity or sexuality. I’m going to focus on the latter for this particular discussion.

One of the most common pieces of casual homophobia I have seen and experienced is others assuming that a person’s sexuality is just a ‘phase’, and something that will be grown out of and ‘corrected’ with time. Often, this is not the case, and the identity a person decide fits them doesn’t change much (or at all) as they grow as a person. However, sometimes this does change, and that is okay. You are allowed to grow and discover who you are at whatever pace suits you, and it’s absolutely okay if you didn’t know your identity as a young child. Personally, I always had a feeling I wasn’t entirely straight, but I have several friends who only realized once they hit adolescence that they might not be heterosexual or cisgender. You might also feel like a label (different to the one you previously identified with) suits you better, and that’s also absolutely fine.

I personally am bisexual, but it’s a little more complicated than this, so I simply like to identify myself as ‘queer’, as there’s no specifics in that and it does fit my orientation. I know people that use very specific labels and intensely dislike being referred to as anything other than those labels, and I also know people that don’t like to use labels at all, even if one particular identity fits them perfectly.

However, there have been some cases of people realising that the identity of belonging to the LGBTQ+ community no longer fits them, and that being LGBTQ+ was not a long-lasting identity. That is also absolutely fine. What is not okay is somebody using one person’s experience to justify the ludicrous idea that sexuality is something a person can pick and choose.

In an interview in 2011, singer-songwriter Jessie J stated that she had “dated girls and boys”. However, in 2014, she renounced the label ‘bisexual’, saying that, for her, it was “a phase”, but explicitly argued that she was “not saying bisexuality is a phase for everybody.” She came under fire for her use of the word ‘phase’ to describe her period of experimenting with her sexuality, because of its history of being used to disregard the LGBTQ+ community. Despite this, there is absolutely nothing wrong with deciding one sexual or romantic preference is not what you want any more. 

Ultimately, it’s important to remember that your sexuality or gender identity is yours and yours alone. Frankly, it’s not really anybody else’s business how you identify or how you label yourself. All that matters is that you are comfortable in your own skin, and screw what anybody else thinks. If somebody disagrees with you, that doesn’t matter. It’s not their identity to dictate.

If you have any issues, questions or queries regarding your sexuality or gender identity, one of us at TWE will be more than happy to chat with you.

Thank you for reading,
Lauren x

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dropping out of university

20/8/2019

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Dropping Out of University

Choosing whether or not to go to university is a massive step in life, no matter whether it’s a decision you make as a teenager or later in life. For some people, university simply isn’t for them, and it takes them actually going there to realise that. On average, 1 in 10 university undergraduates will withdraw from their studies before the second year of their degree, and it is certainly nothing to be ashamed of. I dropped out of my university as my New Year’s present to myself, and I do not regret my decision one bit. 

Don’t get me wrong, I did really try to stick it out. I realised as soon as I pressed ‘accept offer’ on my UCAS profile (the UK’s method of applying for universities) that I had made the wrong decision, but I did commit to my studies and work really hard for the first semester. I studied BSc Psychology, and I averaged 62% across all of my assessments. For someone with poor mental health who didn’t want to study psychology in the first place, this outcome wasn’t too bad. I left university for a multitude of reasons; the course wasn’t focused on a subject I would want to pursue a career in, I didn’t like the area, I had to commute to the campus (2 hours in total on public transport per day, which was exhausting), my mental health was declining massively and I didn’t enjoy the lectures one bit. If you are considering leaving university and have already attempted to continue with your studies in the hope that it will get better, or if you have already left university, please consider the following points.

You don’t have to jump into something else: if going into another form of education, such as a BTEC course or an apprenticeship, is something you would want to do in the future, please don’t feel as though you have to make a decision straight away. Allow yourself some time off, to break out of the habit of being a student and spend some time looking after yourself, figuring out what you might want from a future career and nurturing your hobbies and interests. The same goes for jobs: unless you absolutely must get a job to remain financially stable, please don’t feel as though you must be on the go all the time.

Don’t worry about the debt: in the UK, student debt is not a loan that must be paid back in full, it should instead be considered like a tax. Once you start earning over £21,000 per year, you begin to pay back this loan in tiny monthly installments in relation to your income. This debt is not a debt that could get you into any major financial trouble; instead, it is simply an amount that the government would like you to pay off whenever you are able to do so. It is nothing to be worried about, and it is something that will not affect your daily life in any way. And, most importantly,

You are not a failure: being a ‘drop-out’ after previously being a straight-A student is a tough thing to deal with, but it does not make you unintelligent or weak to leave higher education if it is not for you. If it does not make you happy, and you can’t see it being beneficial to you in any way, you have every right to leave that situation. Speak to your friends about it; like in any other situation, if they are true friends, they will completely support your decision without judgement. My friends have been my rock throughout the past few months, and they were thrilled when I told them I had dropped out (as were my parents) because they could see how unhappy university was making me. If anything, dropping out because university is simply not for you is a massive display of strength, demonstrating that whilst you still had the resilience to try and persevere through something that was making you unhappy, you eventually accepted when you had fought enough and realised that it was time to walk away. 


If you have any questions, concerns or points about this article that you’d like to raise, please don’t hesitate to contact a member of the TWE team or leave a comment below. Thank you for reading!

Lauren xxx

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Acts of Kindness at Easter

3/8/2019

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Acts of Kindness at Easter

Easter is quickly approaching, and for those who celebrate Easter, it can be a really fun time. In my town, my local farm hosts an Easter egg hunt for the young children, and I know of several churches in my area hosting fêtes, raffles and small parties for adults and children alike. I personally am not religious, but being born on Easter Sunday, I feel a strong connection to the holiday and I like to spread a bit of cheer over the Easter weekend. Here’s a few things you can do for your friends, family or community at Easter time that cost next to nothing and will really brighten up somebody’s day.

Send cards to your local church: One thing that I am planning to do is send a small card to all of the churches in my town, wishing them a happy Easter. Easter cards can be bought very cheaply, or even made if you want to put in that extra bit of effort. I promise you, it will make them all very happy. Even if Easter doesn’t mean a lot to you, someone acknowledging that Easter is a special time for Christians will really make their day.

Bake cakes for your friends or family: Something I used to do with my Nan is make simple cupcakes, cover them with yellow icing and sprinkle flaked chocolate around the edges of the cake so they’d look like chick nests. This is a cute, simple way to mark the occasion If you’re not particularly religious, and they give your friends and family an excuse to eat cake!

Organise an Easter egg hunt: If you are somebody that has younger siblings, or works with a group of young children, Easter egg hunts are always an adorable idea to get the children active and engaged with the holidays, but also encouraging teamwork. And, of course, sharing out all the chocolate afterwards is never a bad thing!

Donate: Easter is all about being charitable, and giving back to the community, so this is a better time than any to donate something to charity. If you can’t donate money, having a spring clean would also give you the opportunity to find old clothes, books and other items you no longer need and drop them to your local charity shop. An extra cute idea is donating Easter eggs to a local primary school’s raffle or spring fête, or buying a few food items (Easter-related or not) to your local food bank.


This is also your opportunity to take a much-needed break from whatever is going on in your life, whether it’s work, school or other commitments. Don’t feel guilty for eating a few chocolate eggs, they really won’t hurt you at all.


Thank you for reading, and have a lovely Easter!


Lauren x

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Phases of sexuality

3/8/2019

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Phases of Sexuality

As people grow and gain more knowledge of themselves and the world around them, it is perfectly normal to begin to question aspects of yourself you may have considered constants, such as your gender identity or sexuality. I’m going to focus on the latter for this particular discussion.

One of the most common pieces of casual homophobia I have seen and experienced is others assuming that a person’s sexuality is just a ‘phase’, and something that will be grown out of and ‘corrected’ with time. Often, this is not the case, and the identity a person decide fits them doesn’t change much (or at all) as they grow as a person. However, sometimes this does change, and that is okay. You are allowed to grow and discover who you are at whatever pace suits you, and it’s absolutely okay if you didn’t know your identity as a young child. Personally, I always had a feeling I wasn’t entirely straight, but I have several friends who only realized once they hit adolescence that they might not be heterosexual or cisgender. You might also feel like a label (different to the one you previously identified with) suits you better, and that’s also absolutely fine.

I personally am bisexual, but it’s a little more complicated than this, so I simply like to identify myself as ‘queer’, as there’s no specifics in that and it does fit my orientation. I know people that use very specific labels and intensely dislike being referred to as anything other than those labels, and I also know people that don’t like to use labels at all, even if one particular identity fits them perfectly.

However, there have been some cases of people realising that the identity of belonging to the LGBTQ+ community no longer fits them, and that being LGBTQ+ was not a long-lasting identity. That is also absolutely fine. What is not okay is somebody using one person’s experience to justify the ludicrous idea that sexuality is something a person can pick and choose.

In an interview in 2011, singer-songwriter Jessie J stated that she had “dated girls and boys”. However, in 2014, she renounced the label ‘bisexual’, saying that, for her, it was “a phase”, but explicitly argued that she was “not saying bisexuality is a phase for everybody.” She came under fire for her use of the word ‘phase’ to describe her period of experimenting with her sexuality, because of its history of being used to disregard the LGBTQ+ community. Despite this, there is absolutely nothing wrong with deciding one sexual or romantic preference is not what you want any more. 

Ultimately, it’s important to remember that your sexuality or gender identity is yours and yours alone. Frankly, it’s not really anybody else’s business how you identify or how you label yourself. All that matters is that you are comfortable in your own skin, and screw what anybody else thinks. If somebody disagrees with you, that doesn’t matter. It’s not their identity to dictate.

If you have any issues, questions or queries regarding your sexuality or gender identity, one of us at TWE will be more than happy to chat with you.

Thank you for reading,
Lauren x
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