alternatives to self-harm

TRIGGER WARNING: SELF-HARM

Self harm; when someone intentionally causes harm to their body as a way of dealing with negative thoughts and feelings.


Studies show there has been a 70% rise of 10-14 year olds being admitted to A&E for self harm in the last two years. After doing some research I found that the UK has the highest self harm rate of any country in the EU, with 400 out of 100, 000 people self harming.


As someone who used to self harm, I understand the difficulty of wanting to stop but feeling like you cant. So, in this article I will be sharing some alternatives that I think might help some of you. I have seperated them into sections depending on what mood you might be in.


Mood: Angry
* Hit a pillow
* Rip up an old newspaper or phone book
* Throw ice at a wall * Draw something (I've found that this website helps: http://weavesilk.com/)
* Pop some bubble wrap (or a balloon)
* Scribble on some paper
* Write your feelings down and rip it up
* Go for a jog
* Splatter paint


Mood: Sad/depressed
* Have a bath
* Listen to calm music
* Allow yourself to cry
* Light a candle
* Watch your favourite film or show
* Curl up under a blanket with a hot drink
* Write your feelings down in a diary
* Spend time with a friend
* Read positive messages and quotes online
* Plan out your future and what you'd like to do
* Cuddle a pet


Mood: Numb
* Draw on yourself
* Splash yourself with cold water
* Focus on your breathing
* Jump around (or dance)
* Drink cold water



Mood: Lonely
* Talk to a friend
* Write down how you feel
* Make lists of things you like about your life
* Call a hotline (International helpines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html)
* Write a letter to someone (you dont have to send it)
* Start a diary
* Talk to us at TWE - our messages are always open!


Please remember that you are worthy of being happy. You are alive for a reason and all of this negativity will pass. I never thought I'd get out of the slump I was in, but look at me now: writing for an absolutely wonderful website and helping those in similar situations. Most importantly: remember that you are wanted and you are loved.


Stay strong,
Riley


Disclaimer: I am in no way a professional and these are just suggestions. If you or someone you know is really struggling with self harm then please tell someone. A teacher, guardian, parent, doctor anyone. Do not let it go ignored.