Sometimes in life, we aren’t okay. And different people choose to handle it in different ways. If you’re like me, you’ll bottle it up, in the hopes that no one will notice how you’re really feeling and you won’t attract any attention. Others seek attention, which is okay, as long as its’s the right attention and you’re not doing it merely for publicity. That’s not okay. If you want help, then get it- whether you take baby steps to gain the courage to do so, or you already have the courage to go and ask for help. You shouldn’t drag other people who aren’t a part of your problems into them, if they can’t help you. It’s unfair.
But I’m not here to berate people who publicise their issues. Quite frankly, you can do what you wish. If you’re aware of the circumstances and you know what you’re doing is wrong, you’re merely outlining who you are as a person. What I am here to do is to raise a question.
Can we really “fake it ‘till we make it”?
The expression is typically used for people who lack motivation. Don't feel smart? Pretend to be. Don't feel as though your successful? Put your chin up, and make out that you are. The idea behind it is that the more you pretend to be what you desire, the more you will believe and eventually become what you desire. But my question is: is this actually the case?
I think that people don't give themselves enough credit. I mean… fake it? If you always had the confidence to tell yourself you are what you want to be, then surely you aren't pretending? The only thing you're not doing is acting upon these thoughts. This is a classic example of how in a lot of cases, the only thing stopping us from doing what we want is us. If you tell yourself, “I'm pretending to be smart, but I'm not really smart”, then you will never be smart. You've got to believe that you really are, rather than merely pretend. Because once you believe, you can act upon your thoughts and make your aspirations reality.
Self belief is a hard concept to grasp- particularly for people our age. I've struggled with it for years; it used to severely effect my physical state, such as my posture. I didn't pretend I had purpose, I told myself that I did, until I worked hard and succeeded.
If we want our dreams to become reality, then why are we playing make believe?
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