I haven’t been in a very good place recently, and today, one of my friends said to me “I wish I knew how to make you better.” This led me to think about other people, and how frustrating it must be to want to help someone through a tough time but not knowing what to do. I’ve put together a few little tips that help me, and will hopefully help you help someone else.
Listen to them.
I know it sounds simple, but just being someone for your friend to talk to is always appreciated. If you’re not sure whether they want to talk about it, ask them! One day, you may be the only one that asks if they’re okay. A smile and a quick “You alright?” in the corridor costs nothing and could make someone’s day.
Give them a hug.
Obviously, don’t hug them if you or they aren’t comfortable with it. I added this in because I find a hug very comforting and it will cheer me up a little bit instantly, so this is bound to be the case for someone else out there too.
Let them know you’re there.
Even if they don’t take up your offer to talk to them, they’ll know you cared. Knowing someone is there for you if you need them always helps.
Give them something to look forward to.
Plan a day out together, or organise a film session. Anything that will give them something in the future is brilliant. For example, I go out to get food and watch a film with my two best friends every Friday, and most of the time it’s what gets me through the week.
Make them know you need them.
Honestly, feeling appreciated and needed is the best feeling in the world, especially when you’re low. By asking for help with something, or simply saying a quick “What would I do without you?” could improve your friend’s mood in seconds. I know it does for me.
I hope this helps a few people, and I hope you’re all okay. I’m always here if anyone needs to talk.
Until next time,
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