Particularly if you are quite a competitive or passionate person, it can be hard when things don’t go your way. Whether it’s something as big as your grades at school, or as little as not getting a pair of shoes you wanted from the shops. We all have those moments, when we’re not feeling 100%. And this can physically show, too; our posture is poor, our shoulders are hunched, and, well… we just look downright miserable. However, there are ways to combat these feelings: starting with simply tilting up your chin.
Stand up straight. Really straight, until you’ve pushed your shoulders back. Hold your head up high, like you’ve got some importance in the world. If you believe that things have not gone your way, or you’ve not been treated right, then you’ve got to be the bigger person. Be stronger. Rather than mope about and feel sorry for ourselves, it’s important to stand up tall, and show that we won’t let every little thing get us down.
Even if we don’t feel like we’re important, it’s vital to let people think we are. This gains respect for us, and then we will gain self-confidence until we do believe it. Again, it’s the concept of “faking it ‘till we make it.”. When we’re in bed and we can’t fall asleep, pretending to sleep does the trick. The same rules apply here; if we’re not confident, pretending we are tends to do the trick.
Obviously, the confidence won’t just come overnight. It takes a lot of time and a lot of effort. Particularly if you’ve been struggling all through your life, or you are just introvert. But, even if you are introverted, it doesn’t mean you have to look frightened to be where you are. Let it be known, just by looking at you, that you are meant to be there. People are less likely to bother you and question you, if you don’t look like you’ve just snuck in through the back window.
So, baring that in mind, keep your shoulders back and walk tall and proud.
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