Single on Valentine’s day? Don’t stress it. In 2014, the Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that 124.6 million (about half) of Americans 16 years and older were single, so you aren’t really alone. If you're dating someone under 30, there's a 53 percent chance that they won't even bother to leave you in person. Let’s not forget that 85% of relationships end in breakup, and 50% of marriages end in divorce. And trust me, I’ve been through my fair share of heartbreak. And through that, I’ve found 3 great ways to get over your ex. These include (but are not limited to) finding a new hobby, finding solace in music, and spending more time with friends.
I was about 14 when I experienced my first heartbreak. The man I loved left me for another girl. Why? Because her family was very wealthy. They could afford to take he and she on trips to Rome twice a month. Naturally, I was crushed. I spent a good amount of time watching soap operas and burying my face in a frigid bowl of ice cream, but then I realized that there wasn’t a good reason to let this man destroy my life. I invested my time in a new hobby. I started writing and writing and playing songs on guitar and piano. I found it liberating. I would put all of the disappointment, sadness and rage into it, and I found myself coping in a better way. I felt myself float above it- I knew I would be ok at the end of the day.
I found myself listening to more music even before the breakup, so when it ended, I found songs that empowered me to push through the break up. Some examples in my case were “Forget you” (Ceelo Green), “Move along” (All American Rejects), “Since you’ve been gone” (Kelly Clarkson), and “Honestly” (Hot Chelle Rae). These songs put a smile on my face- I knew I wasn’t alone. I knew the pain would end eventually, and it did.
I also found that during the breakup, I would want to just stay home and watch Netflix. However, my friends would drag me out of my home and take me out to do things. Looking back on it, they did the right thing. Getting me out of the house truly made me feel better, even if it was just for a little bit. I felt great being surrounded by people I care about and doing these great things with them. As crappy as you feel, you NEED to put down those chips and go out. Go dance! Take a yoga class! Getting out makes you feel liberated. Let the sun warm you. Breathe in the air and notice the beautiful flowers.
Besides the advice I have given you above, there is one last thing you should know. You are worth it. You are an amazing person, and just because your ex didn’t see that doesn’t make you worthless. You are loved. Your friends and family will always be there for you. Trust me, you’ll find someone new. The pain DOES end. You will make it through. I wish you the best, and remember to stay strong.
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