If you don’t already know, Agender essentially means genderless but that can be interpreted in many ways. The way I personally take it is that you are not restricted to masculine or feminine traits as my traits don’t really follow either very much.
Being this way does cause some complications though. As with many parts of the Non-Binary community, I have experienced extreme dysphoria in the past and it has almost driven me to suicide but hey, here I am writing this. Dysphoria can really damage a person, it makes you think you are worth less than you actually are and it’s horrendous. It doesn’t help that a lot of people will just use transphobic slurs when they find out about my gender identity and will even say my gender doesn’t exist.
Life isn’t all bad though. With finding my gender identity I have come to be a lot less restricted in how I dress and act and it honestly feels glorious. It’s so calming to realize you can shop in realistically any section of a clothes store and feel comfortable in buying whatever clothes. It’s a great feeling.
With that comes problems of judgement but then again, you don’t really need to listen.
In my opinion, life as an Agender person has some really great upsides in the freedom it brings but it can really damage your relations with non-understanding or ignorant people which could be seen as a good thing but then again, we can’t really help our personalities, right?
But really, being part of the Non-Binary community is great and even if some of them don’t accept your gender as being valid, at least you know it is.
~Written by Mic
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