Something I am sick of hearing within the transgender community, is the idea that people who are further along in their transition are ‘more trans’ than those who are only at the beginning.
It doesn’t matter if you've completely medically transitioned or if you've only just come out. One is not better than the other. Some Trans people choose to never fully medically transition, and that's okay. It doesn't in any way invalidate your gender.
I recently watched a documentary called ‘Miss Transgender’, which concentrated on a beauty pageant in the UK for Transgender women. The woman who won, Jai, had only been out as trans for a few months, and received a lot of hate after she won. Another contestant said that Jai shouldn't have won because she was just “a gay boy in a dress”. A few months later, the title and prize were taken from Jai because she apparently “was not living full-time as a woman”.
This clearly shows the idea of “not trans enough”. I find it disgusting that some people can treat others this way. Hormone therapy and surgeries do not make your gender identity any more valid. They just help you become more comfortable in your own body. Your gender, whether it be male or female, is valid. No matter what body you have.
This moves me onto another topic involving this “not trans enough” concept. Pronouns and names.
“oh, you're a boy? Well you don’t look like one so I’m going to keep calling you she.”
“you still have a vagina/penis so you're still a girl/boy.”
“I don't feel comfortable calling you that name, so I won't.”
“it's my choice and I still see you as a girl/boy so that is how I will refer to you.”
If you have said anything along these lines to a trans person, you need to reconsider your morals. You do not have the right to invalidate another person's gender identity. If a person tells you that they are male, then they are male no matter what you previously thought. Same goes for if someone tells you they are female. You need to respect and use the pronouns and name they tell you to. If you purposely don't, then you're kinda being an asshole.
If a person enters a public bathroom and you don’t think their gender matches up to the sign on the door, don't worry about it. They know their gender much better that you do.
The idea shoved around by the media of trans people going into the bathroom to harass people is a MYTH. There is not a single account of that happening. In these situations the only ones who seem to get harassed are the trans people. Seriously, if you see a trans person in a bathroom, we're there for the same reason as you.
To use the bathroom.
That’s all from me for now.
X Eli out. X
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