The first break up song I ever heard was “Potential Breakup Song” by Aly and AJ. It was about how one of their boyfriends was a total jerk and forgot birthdays and didn’t enough attention to them. It is kind of hard to believe this song in ten years old. Well, this song could not be more true when it comes to relationships.
Relationships are definitely tough, and everyone has a breaking point. In the song, the breaking point was that the boyfriend didn't call her back after she called him on her birthday. Judging from the lyrics, this is not the first time.
In my most recent relationship, the breaking point for me is that she would not stop calling me. She could call me and text me constantly for hours at a time when I asked her to leave me alone so I can do my homework.
At this point, you could say we were a potential breakup song. If you have hit your breaking point, but you are not sure how to go about the break up, here are some tips:
Do not do it over text
If it is avoidable, do it in person. Doing it over text makes you appear insensitive and like you don’t truly care. I learned that in the worst way possible.
They will most likely cry
As much as we do not want to see this, it is bound to happen. They are humans just like you. They have emotions.
Make sure you are going to be safe
If the person you are breaking up with is abusive, try to bring someone with you or do it in a more public place. You are the number one priority. So make sure that you are doing it at a safe time in a safe place.
If you’re not good with words, write a letter
This is how I broke up with my abusive ex. I knew I would not be able to get words out of my mouth when I saw her so I wrote her a letter and handed it to her. I sat there while she read it. She cried, I cried, but we are better off for it now.
Make sure you have support
During these times, it is important to make sure you have support whether that is friends, family, counselors, or even us at TWE. You do not need to go through this break up alone.
Breaking up with someone is difficult. Everyone is going to be upset no matter what happened. It is never easy to part with someone you love. It may take time to properly plan something so that it is a safe situation but it is worth it in the end. We are here for you if you have any questions, concerns, or just need a listening ear. Good luck everyone.