From my experience, of myself and others, I've found that people seem to find one particular aspect of life extraordinarily difficult. Its something that is almost drilled into us our entire childhood, something that we willingly accept as the norm, and yet it goes against the ideas of humanity as a whole. After suffering with depression and anxiety since I was 11, I've only recently had access to help, and that was unwillingly at best. Why is it that we are taught to work alone, and never ask for help.
The human race is made of social creatures, its why you sometimes get that longing for human contact when you haven't spoken to people in a while; we are supposed to live and work in communities to grow and learn. But for some reason we are being taught to be independent. That sounds normal doesn't it? We're supposed to be independent? To live and depend on our selves, to only need ourselves. Right?
Well, not exactly. Take a look at nature, you don't just find members of the same species depending on each other, but inter species dependencies. It is completely and utter normal, to help others, and to have them help you. Male lions depend on lionesses to feed them, you'll rarely see them hunting themselves, and farm animals almost exclusively depend on humans to keep them alive these days, its all completely normal.
Then why is it so hard to ask? Why is it difficult to tell someone, "Hey, I'm struggling, I need help", why is it so hard? Is it because we are taught to be ashamed of struggling? Packs of wolves walk at the speed of the slowest wolf. Is it because we are taught that 'Only the strong belong'? That in itself is ridiculous. Is it just because we are taught that being dependant on another human being makes you a burden?
Why? Why is this a thing? Its normal! Its nature! We are social creatures, we are supposed to come together to protect our own. We should not be ashamed of needing help. We should not be shamed for needing help sometimes. No one is perfect. Ask for help, get the help you need to further yourself, so that you in turn can help others. Isn't that what community is supposed to be about?
So, with yourself armed with this logic, you need to ask yourself. Why are you holding back? Is it because you're worried they won't help you? Talk to someone you trust, friends are usually your best bet, they're there for you anyway. Remind yourself that its natural to ask for help. You can do it, its not going to go badly. Take a deep breath, maybe write it out first so you know what you're going to say, sit them down and say its important. There is absolutely no shame in asking for help.
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