Sibling abuse

Sibling abuse is not mentioned that much in media. When the word "abuse" comes to mind, people usually tend to think of abusive parents or significant others. However, studies show that sibling abuse is much more common. A 2005 study by Child Maltreat shows that 35 out of 100 children have been physically assaulted by a sibling, and 3 out of 100 have a dangerously violent sibling. Sibling abuse is dangerous, and it is important that there is awareness brought to it.


Sibling abuse is often mistaken for sibling rivalry, which is seen as less harmful. The situation that I was in can only be described as abuse. I have a sibling who is older than me by about four years, and she's in college. She has a problem with drugs, and she's let it come before anything else. She manipulates everyone in order to get what she wants, and once, on one of her nicer days, she told me she didn't feel guilt. Though physical abuse from her was less common, it was still a problem and she has left both me and my other sister bruised on multiple occasions, through punches or slaps or kicks. She used to go 80mph on the drive to school every morning so that she could remind me that when she was behind the wheel, my life was in her hands. She'd threaten to crash, and it was terrifying.

If you are in a situation similar to this, no matter who the aggressor is, remember that emotional abuse is harmful, just like physical abuse is. Do not let anyone tell you that you are overreacting. Try to think of ways that you can get out of the situation, even temporary solutions like spending as many nights at a friend's as possible. My sibling is at college so I do not have to see her often, but I might have the option of moving in with my father to get away from her. If you tell people that you are being hurt, emotionally or physically, they would love to help you.

If anyone is dealing with a similar situation, I wish them luck and hope that they know that people are willing to help them. Stay as safe as possible, and know that you are cared for.

​Sophie