For around two or three years, I would swear to you up and down I was gay. But sometimes things change. I recently realised I was pansexual, rather than gay.
For those of you who don’t know, pansexual means I have a sexual attraction to all genders. Panromantic is having a romantic attraction for all genders. People who are pansexual and panromantic usually just say pansexual. Contrary to belief, it is not the same thing as bisexual/biromantic. Bisexual/biromantic is attraction towards two genders, male and female. Pansexual/panromantic includes people all over the spectrum like non-binary, agender, and others.
One day I was at work and I was talking to a guy, he was new. That’s the day I realised something was different. At that point, I was with someone who was gender-fluid, but later realised he was transgender. I shrugged off the sudden attraction to a guy as nothing. After a while, I was single again and decided to investigate what was going on with me. The attraction for this boy had not gone away.
I messaged him on Facebook and we got talking. The more we talked and I learned about him the attraction grew. I finally told him we should meet outside of work. We went into a lot of deep conversation topics and we discussed interests and I realise now I didn’t shut up most of that day. When I did shut up and he was talking about something he was passionate about, I was in awe. That was the moment I realised that attraction I have been feeling, it was not a friendly one.
A few days after that day, we met again and I kissed him. We have been together since then. Since then I have also been extremely confused. Before this one boy confused the hell out of my brain, I had thought lots of other people were attractive and I always found them more attractive after I learned more about their personalities.
This was when I realised I was pansexual. I was not straight but I wasn’t gay. But I knew the problem was that I wasn’t bisexual either. I had no idea what was happening.
If you’re going through this right now:
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