Growing out of your (best) friend

I have recently lost my best friend. 

It was something I cried about for an entire night, but something that I woke up the next morning and realized was necessary. 

As tough as it is to lose your friend, sometimes it’s what’s needed. We hadn’t grown apart, but I had changed, and my friend had stayed the same. Sometimes this happens, and it doesn’t make someone bad or good, it just means that the relationship has changed. 

Sometimes we feel that we need a good reason to leave a relationship. Whether that be because it is abusive, toxic, due to hatred or dislike, and many other negative things--but we don’t need a reason like that. Sometimes you lose a relationship because you’ve grown apart, or you’ve grown out of it. Sometimes we change--for the better at that--and the relationship just doesn’t help you anymore. Maybe it actually hurts you because you argue more or disagree more, and many other things. Sometimes it is better to let go. 

This can be painful, and that’s okay. This can be freeing, and that’s okay. Whatever you feel is valid and real. So remember that you’re doing your best and that your best is enough. 

Keep your head up, the sun still rises!

Helplines:

• Trevor Project 
  • (866)-488-7386
• LGBT National Youth Hotline (ages 23 and under)     
  • Mondays to Fridays from 1 pm – 9 pm PST
  • Saturday from 9 am – 2 pm PST
  • 800-246-7743
• LGBT National Hotline     
  • Monday thru Friday from 1PM to 9PM PST
  • Saturday from 9am to 2pm PST
  • 888-843-4564
• True Colors United     
  • ​​​​​​​(212)-461-4401
• Pride Institute LGBTQ Dependency      
  • (800)-547-7433

• Crisis Text Line:     
  • Text HELP to 741741 in the United States.         
• Teen Line
  • Text "TEEN" to 839863 
  • Between 6:00pm-9:00pm PST 
• Suicide Prevention Hotline
  • 1-800-273-8255

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Mercury