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Our Pets and how to decide what pet is best for you

26/6/2022

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​Hi my name is Josh and I’m new to TWE. Seeing as I love writing and my dogs I thought why not put the two together and help you find the perfect pet pal!! Also, as this was a collaborative piece it was a great opportunity for me to meet other members of TWE and their furry friends.

These two are Tiger Lily and Nala!! They're my dogs Nala (on the right) is a Shitpoo and Lily (the happy one on the left) is a Cavapoo. As these two are both quite small and fluffy dogs they are perfect for cuddling up on the sofa with.
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​This is Menna's dog. He is a Cocker Spaniel. These dogs are very social, however if you don’t train them properly they can become very fearful. Proper training is important for all types of pets to ensure they live a happy life.
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​This is Alex. He is a German Shepherd and he belongs to Weronika. These are large dogs typically associated with the idea of being police dogs, despite their ability to get on great within the home.
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This is Ebony's partner's Cockapoo called Charlie. Not only is he adorable but cockapoos are highly energetic dogs so they will need lots of mental and physical activities, to keep them constantly occupied.
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​Kenzie has a cat who is also called Nala!! Unlike dogs, cats like their independence and so caring for one won’t be as demanding but they won’t say no to a belly rub.
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​And lastly we have Sid the bunny who belongs to Katie. Due to their small size these adorable balls of fluff will need to be kept in a pen whilst you’re away to make sure that they don’t escape!!
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​Choosing the correct pet is a big decision that requires lots of patience and lots of thought. But after all that work you will have found yourself a friend for life!!

- Josh
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YOUNG CARERS

26/6/2022

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Already, there’s probably some of you thinking, what IS a young carer? Without directly quoting Google, a young carer is a child, or young person who looks after someone with a physical, or mental disability. This is an umbrella term, because a lot of people think young carer and see the stereotype of looking after a parent, often in a wheelchair or with another physical disability. It’s so much more. There’s mental disabilities, there’s substance abuse, there’s so many different things to being a young carer. And they can also care for other family members, even siblings. It doesn’t just have to be a parent. 
 
There are hundreds of thousands of young carers in the United Kingdom alone, and so many more worldwide. It’s a tiresome battle, but they’re not alone. With the support of friends, family, school and work, that’s half the battle.
 
Being a young carer myself, if I could give any words of wisdom to people on what to do in order to help, all I would ask is to listen. We need someone to talk to, and sometimes things at home can get a bit too much. A rant, a listening ear. And compassion from work and teaching staff. Although there is some understanding, they should all be aware.
 
Although there are negatives, in the last 5 years, so much awareness has been raised about young carers, in Scotland there’s even a grant for those between 16-18 with a caring responsibility. If you actually are a young carer, there are loads of online forums that are helpful, teachers and bosses can help, and there are Young Carers support groups, not as cliche as it sounds. My group changed my life for the better. 
 
Just remember, there’s light at the end of the tunnel. And if you aren’t actually a young carer, just try your best to support us. It goes a long way. 

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my comparison complex

22/4/2022

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Have you ever looked around you at your "friends", family members or celebrities and felt like you were being left behind? As if they were all achieving so many goals that you start to wonder: "Hey, when is it going to be my turn? Or better yet, will this ever happen to me too?"

I suffered through this complex for a better part of my junior and senior year of high school when I realized a lot of my friends got into Ivy League schools all the way in the US, or that they were taking a gap year to work. It seemed as if everyone was finally going to experience their college dreams abroad while I was in Tanzania, with barely having anything figured out. 

I had fear and anxiety growing inside me every day because of this. Maybe it was because I was so used to having things planned out for me instead. 

I had, and if I am being honest, still have these overwhelming thoughts that I’m probably going to just be another extra or another background character to all of my friends' stories. All of this stemmed just from seeing a few of my friends already looking successful. Some had become small but growing influencers on social media, another had started a YouTube channel, and the girl I sat next to in class had started an online business that is taking off. As proud as I am of them, I just couldn’t help but feed the hungry thought that maybe I'd never be as impressive as they were.

Like where was my shining moment? When will it happen to me? This ate me up to the point where even posting something on Instagram became hard for me and I always hit the discard button. That annoying and degrading voice in my head would taunt me and remind me of how anything I do would ever be good enough. There were so many people out there with better content than me, so why even try?

Fast forward to a few months later, I finally understood that I had a comparison complex. I constantly used to compare every single detail about my social life with people I idolized even my closest friends. I understand they would never rub it in my face to taunt me but the insecurity that I was being left behind became an obsession.

So what I did was that I decided to spend less time on the apps that I believed just added salt to the wound such as Instagram. I went from spending half my day on there to just mainly opening it at night. With Snapchat, I stopped doing streaks which ultimately led to me rarely opening it to check out peoples' stories. This small action helped immensely in building my self confidence.

If I wasn’t seeing the things that triggered me negatively, like a classmate posting their new college jersey,  I wouldn't compare myself to them as much. I also reduced talking to some of the friends that brought out these insecurities in me. Not out of hate or envy, but I needed to focus more myself. To build the person I wanted to turn into rather than compare my current state to the picture of my best friend in Australia.

 Just to be clear, I celebrate my friends' accomplishments but putting distance between them and me was my way of learning how to celebrate myself instead. 

Now I know that a comparison complex can be triggered by other things, which might not necessarily be the need to be successful like mine was; but here’s a few tips I hope will help you through this phase the same way they helped me:
  • Reduce your screen time on apps that  trigger you into feeling negatively about yourself. Cause for me I thought negatively mainly after I saw something from social media. And when I wasn't there, I was okay, so I figured spending less time there would build my confidence enough for whenever I go back, I wouldn't be affected as much.
 
  • Considering unfollowing accounts you tend to compare yourself with this was something I did with celebrity accounts such as Kylie Jenner's. I know this is a bit of a stretch but seeing her being a billionaire at just twenty three didn’t make me feel a whole lot better and if you don’t see yourself doing this then maybe my third tip would be...
 
  • Follow more self love and motivational accounts. I know Instagram accounts like @femalecollective and @emotional.healer . The latter listens to your problems and it’s a great place to vent. Follow more accounts that help you feel better about yourself.
 
  • Make hobbies or other activities that help distract you from thoughts that’ll eat you up or focus and advance whatever skill you may have like painting, playing the guitar, working out, or whatever else you're interested in. The more you improve the more you’ll appreciate yourself by being able to do something others probably don’t know how to!
 
  • Listen to music, dance silly in your bed-room and learn to enjoy yourself for who you are. 
 
  • Talk to someone, even the source of your insecurity. So far, I have talked to my friend about this and she made me realize that pictures don’t always reveal everything. She has had her own fears that she was struggling with and knowing this made me realize how talking things out lifted a weight that I didn’t know I was carrying off my shoulders as we comforted each other.

​Now I want to end with this quote; “ You’re so busy doubting yourself, while others are intimidated by your potential”. This quote reminded me daily that the way I was thinking about how all my classmates were moving forward was the same way that some of them might view me. Someone could be looking up to you and you wouldn’t even know it! I hope this helped you. I want you to know that It will get better. It will take time but it will. Try channelling that obsession with comparing yourself with others to comparing yourself with who you were yesterday and who you want to be tomorrow.

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Magdalena

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Magdalena writes so that others may find the advice or information they have been searching for. Her articles aim to make her readers feel less alone.

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fighting with someone you care about

22/4/2022

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Fighting could be over anything; a meet up gone wrong to losing something valuable. Sometimes it could be about feeling neglected by the other, or feeling misunderstood. Whatever the reason, fights happen. As toxic as it may sound, disagreements are inevitable. It's because we all constantly grow mentally and sometimes you don't always have to agree with what the other person does because it doesn't align with who you are anymore. 

Fights tend to end up with someone leaving with their feelings hurt, regretful of what they may or may not have said, and sometimes and as much as we dont want to admit it; fights might bring an end to a friendship you thought would last forever...that's what hurts the most.

A fight recently happened between me and a close friend of mine. We had a fight about something I had said, which to be honest it was an insensitive comment on religion, I later realized and the aftermath of that comment resulted in her cutting me off, completely, and I felt terrible. Especially when it wouldn’t matter what i’d try to say to her, she just wouldn't respond to me, and some of the things she said made me feel like complete rubbish, this went on for days. 

Overthinking about how I should have directed the conversation so it wouldn’t turn out the way it did, to regret over what i said, then eventually the anger set in; she could cut me off that easily? Like our friendship was really that disposable to her?

 It wasn't until days later when I asked her about it that I found out it wasn’t even the real problem. She was mad and cut me off because she felt like I was making fun of her over something she was explaining to me before and my religious comment was kind of the tip of the iceberg for her,  which was why it made her cut me off in the first place.

Point is, I would have never even known she felt that way if I didn’t tell her how she made me feel. And even though we made up now, there's things I wish I did that could have helped avoid the swarm of emotions the aftermath of that fight had on me, and I made a few suggestions on what to do after having a fight with someone you care about, both for you and for the other person.

  • Take a step back from the situation and ask yourself what are you guys even fighting about in the first place.

  • Remember, that it's you two against the problem, not each other.

  • If you feel a sudden rash of anger or any other emotion really, because of the dispute, ask yourself why? Why is this making you angry? Is it because the topic at hand is sensitive for you and why? or is it because you feel like they don’t want to understand you? Is this anger you feel rooted to something deeper than what's happening at the moment?

For me I thought I was angry at my friend for just cutting me off and making me feel irritated at the fact that if i said something to try and solve it, she wouldn't listen to me. But as the days went on with us not talking, I realised that I was more angry at the thought that she could get rid of me that easily and the thought that maybe she didn't value this friendship the same way I did.

 And with a lot more thinking, I realised that I felt this way because of an insecurity I have. Well, we all have insecurities, fact, but for me it’s more to do with the thought that I wasn’t good enough of a person to be around, that I wasn’t as interesting as other people were.

  • Pay attention to your tone while communicating with the other person, Because I’ve noticed that once voices are raised situations tend to escalate more than they should have in the first place. That and the fact that this can trigger the other party to get defensive. So try to explain yourself in a calm way, which I understand can be really hard! But it could help avoid turning an argument into something it really isn't. 

  • Sometimes it's good to stop and listen to what the other person is trying to say. Because I won’t lie, I tend to not listen sometimes even without meaning to. Which probably explains why my friend decided to leave the conversation in the first place, but anyway, stop and listen and understand what the other person is saying. Cause when you get to understand their point of view, it could help the situation for the better.

  • And in the case where you feel like you're not being listened to or understood. Leave. Don’t be afraid to do so. Because as much as you might care about the other person, you have to put yourself first. You can come back to finish the arguement or talk to them about it when you have a clearer and calm mindset . Because it could save you from saying something that you might regret later, that and sometimes protecting your peace is better than getting into a fight.

  • Also, it's completely okay to admit when you're wrong in a fight, Because mistakes happen and no one is perfect. And more importantly it’s accepting that you're in the wrong, not just to the person you're in a fight with, but more to yourself, will help you grow as a person. This acceptance will help you mature because one, it makes you a bigger person and it teaches you a lesson for the future; if something like whatever you're fighting about happens again, you’ll know what not to do in that kind of situation.

  • Apologise. In the case where you're the wrong one, sometimes just having the other person hear you say sorry can resolve a lot more tension than you realize. Just take a second to put your pride aside and say you're sorry for making the person feel that way or doing whatever it is that you did that caused this fight in the first place. For me, after having a long argument with my friend over what really happened between us, Me just apologising to her and admitting i was wrong; ended the whole fight entirely.

  • Last but definitely not least; Be. Kind. Be kind to yourself. During the entire showdown or the aftermath of your fight, be kind to yourself. As much as you might want to beat yourself up for disappointing someone you care about, or being angry with the world and or blaming yourself repeatedly after it happens, won’t change what happened. All you're doing is making yourself feel even worse than you already do at that point. So I’d say distract yourself with a book, youtube, and even consulting with your other friends if possible. Keeping yourself busy can help distract you from feeling the way you do. Focus on school work and any hobbies you might have. It could help you feel better.

Also, even after doing all of this, it's good to keep in mind that, as sad as it may be, not all friendships last forever. A lot of the time people outgrow each other, you both stopped liking the same things and maybe the other person doesn’t align with who you're becoming anymore ( hopefully for the better)/ So I would say don’t beat yourself up about it, it hurts but maybe it's for the better. Theres alot of toxic people out there, and if this fight showed who you were dealing with the whole time.

Think of it this way, the friendship you just lost shows you the kind of people you might not want in your life in the future. Whatever happens remember to be kind to yourself; even if you're in the wrong or right. Cause your friend(s) might leave, but you’ll always have you.

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Magdalena

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Magdalena writes so that others may find the advice or information they have been searching for. Her articles aim to make her readers feel less alone.

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Cats or dogs?

22/4/2022

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I, like many people, love animals; I always have. Because of this, I’ve always loved having pets and obviously, I’m not unique because of that. Millions and millions of people around the world have a pet, the most common being dogs and cats. But, sometimes people rush into buying a pet that they aren’t ready for, and this can be really harmful. 

It’s important to do your research when buying any animal. Realize that it’s a commitment, and although your pet will just be a part of your life, to your pet, you are their entire life. This is especially true for animals that show more affection and need attention. 

I have had experiences with a wide variety of animals, but before I comment on my experience, please remember that every animal is different and unique. They are all individual lives that have personalities formed by both their natural disposition as well as the experiences they’ve had. Please also note that I’m from the United States, and this means that the pets available to me are different than what may be available in other countries. 

Okay, so now that all the disclaimers are done, Let’s get to it! 

Dogs: Dogs are very popular pets, and for good reason. If the dog was raised right, they’ll be loving and even protective of their owner. There are a lot of different breeds and mixes, making them have some very unique looks and personalities. It’s the dream of many children to get their very own dog, but there’s plenty of responsibilities to consider. 
  • Will you be able to give the dog the love it needs? Even dogs that are purchased for protection still need affection.
  • Are you willing to clean up when they poop, or are sick? 
  • Will you socialize and train them so that they never have the potential to be a danger to a person or animal? And if you can’t, will you take the responsibility of making sure they’re never in a position to harm someone? 
  • Can you take them for a walk, or do you have a big enough space or land for them to run around? Dogs need exercise to be healthy. 
  • Can you afford vet appointments, food, and preventative medication (to avoid things like fleas, ticks, or worms)?
  • Are you prepared to trim their nails, brush them, and give them baths? If they have teeth issues, you may need to actually brush their teeth every so often. 
If you’re okay with all of these, then great: you’re prepared for a dog. Make sure to be careful of kennel clubs, as they often inbreed dogs to get that “purebred” look. Purebred dogs often have more health problems as well, despite how cute they may be. Oftentimes, mutts and mixes are the healthiest and happiest dogs. Consider buying from a shelter, and give them a loving home! 

Cats: Cats are also very popular pets and, like dogs, they have a wide variety of personalities. Some are very cuddly, and some are very playful! Cats are different than dogs, however, in that they don’t always want to be with you. They tend to have more of their own will, and if you aren’t prepared to respect their wishes, you probably shouldn’t get a cat. It can be said that cats are like an exercise in consent, because they’ll make it clear when they feel that you’re being overbearing. As I mentioned earlier, they have a wide variety of personalities, so if you want a cat to cuddle with, make sure to meet different cats and find the best fit. Responsibilities for cats and dogs can be very similar, but there are some key differences as well. 
  • Like dogs, you need to be sure that you can afford vet appointments, food, litter, and toys. Cats don’t need to run around outside like dogs do, but they need different types of enrichment to keep them entertained. This likely means having cat toys scattered around your house. 
  • Cats need to scratch! If you don’t have scratching posts and/or mats, they will almost definitely destroy carpets and furniture. It’s fairly easy to train them to start using specific scratching materials, and if they start scratching in an unwanted place it can be solved by putting an approved scratching material there. In our house, we have a post near the couch and a mat near the stairs, and now they use those instead! 
  • Cat nails need to be trimmed more than dogs. Otherwise, their nails will get long, sharp, and curved, because when they use scratching posts, it takes off the outer layers of the nail, making it thinner. Depending on how fast they grow, you may have to trim them every week. If you don’t trim their nails, they can easily make you bleed by accident because of how sharp they are, and they can get caught on things. 
  • Cats mostly groom themselves, but every few months, they still need baths. Most cats don’t like water, so this can be difficult. 
  • Medium to long haired cats need to be brushed! Because they groom themselves, hairballs are very much a possibility. Brushing them reduces the risk of hairballs, and prevents mats in their fur. 
  • Cats are sick more often than dogs, whether it’s actually sick, a hairball, or just spit up. You’ll need to be ready to clean it up. 
    
With both cats and dogs, adopting from a shelter could give a home to an animal that really needs one. And, although you may be tempted to get a cute puppy or kitten, getting an adult animal means that you already know their personality and you’re adopting a slightly less adoptable animal. The same goes for cats and dogs with disabilities. These animals will almost always make just as wonderful a companion as abled animals, but they aren’t adopted as often and go large parts of life without a loving home. 

    With all this in mind- knowing your goals, knowing the responsibilities, and being ready to give a home to a cat or dog- I’m sure you can make the right choice. ​

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Ellery writes articles because she want to make a positive difference in other people's lives. 

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Grieving for someone I never really knew

1/4/2022

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As humans, we all need the comfort of people from time to time. Often, it’s not just those we always confide in but also the people in the background; the people we smile and nod to at family gatherings, the people who accompany us during vacations. We seemingly disregard them because on the surface, we don’t need them; they aren’t the people we celebrate our achieved goals with or those we unburden ourselves to. No, they’re simply just there. Through the good and the bad. They’re always just there and it provides us with a sort of unspoken security to remind ourselves of that. But what happens when they aren’t there anymore?

Grief in itself is a complicated concept to come to terms with especially since it’s disturbing to think that someone’s complete life history can be reduced to a package of memories within a split second. Nevertheless, it is difficult to confront complex emotions forming over the loss of a loved one to whom you were never close to. Perhaps, you had held onto the hope of forming a relationship with that person and now they’ve died, you’re grieving the loss of a bond you could have had; the longing for what could have been.

‘I’ve got some important exams this week so I’ll be sure to call the hospital and check up on him in a few days.’

Then we’re left helpless; standing in silence at their funeral, with the final lingering thought being, ‘I could have done more.’

I was awoken by the cries of my mum. To some extent, I already knew why but I didn’t say anything. I didn’t even know what to think. I just lay in my bed, staring at my ceiling. But I still can’t register what exactly his last words to me were. He was in pain. I could feel his voice shaking as he talked to me through the phone. It took me back to the moments where he’d sit under the comfort of the same bristly chair, amused by the actions of counterparts in black and white movies. He’d sit there day in and day out, occasionally checking the lottery results. We didn’t always talk but when he knew I’d be around, he’d boil broccoli and leave several out on the table for me. 

I’m struggling to find the words to describe him. I never really understood him and I’m not sure if I ever will. Yet he will always remain a wonderful man to me, my granddad.

Grief and guilt, love and loss; they’re all feelings. Feelings need to be validated and although it will be hard, we need to find ways to accept and move forward with these feelings. You need to acknowledge that it is completely natural to feel grief for not only those closest to us but also those we wish we could have been closer to. After all, we are only humans yearning for love.

R.I.P. Ponnampalam Sellaiah, 1953-2021 


Helplines:
SANE

Emotional support, information and guidance for people affected by mental illness, their families and carers. 
Textcare: comfort and care via text message, sent when the person needs it most: www.sane.org.uk/textcare
Peer support forum: www.sane.org.uk/supportforum
Website: www.sane.org.uk/support

Mind
Promotes the views and needs of people with mental health problems.
Phone: 0300 123 3393 (Monday to Friday, 9am to 6pm)
Website: www.mind.org.uk

CALM
CALM is the Campaign Against Living Miserably. A charity providing a mental health helpline and webchat.
Phone: 0800 58 58 58 (daily, 5pm to midnight)
Website: www.thecalmzone.net

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Divaani writes articles to create a space to promote positivity through shared experiences.

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an opinion on bullying

1/4/2022

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I spend my day wondering what goes through people's minds when they say such horrible things to other people just to bring them down. Some idiots think that if they make someone upset by saying a mean comment, it makes them the bigger person when really, it's the complete opposite. If you say something hurtful to someone, you don't realise how much that could actually affect them. Did you know almost 1 out of every four students report being bullied and that's just the ones who have the guts to admit it.
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You have no idea what goes on outside of school, what happens in their life, what their family is like. Some people think it's funny to make fun of someone because of what clothes they wear or their facial features or what size they are or their height. What exactly do all them have anything to do with what's on the inside? I have been called mean things in the past and it has really upset me and I know what it's like to be constantly picked on. But now I don't care, I am happy with who I am and how I look. I don't need random people who I don’t know and vice versa picking on me for the way I look because I honestly don’t care.. If you have a problem with that then don't bother with me because I don't need someone in my life that will make me feel upset or down all the time.


How would you like it if it was you? How would you like it if you were constantly picked on over something silly, like what shoes you wear? There is never a reason to bully someone, just be kind and you might have a happier, easier and friendlier life. If you have ever said something mean to someone, apologise to them and maybe you'll make a new friend and find out that they aren't that bad of a person in the end. The fact that it is 2019 and it's still going on is ridiculous. It's not about what you look like or what you wear, it's about their personality and how they are as a person. Do you honestly think that their clothes make them who they are or the colour of their hair/skin defines the rest of them? If we all wore the same, and looked the same, the world would be boring. There would be nowhere to express your individuality and you couldn't be yourself because you would be the exact same as everyone else.


Nobody is perfect, not even celebrities or royalty. Stop Bullying. It’s not worth it. It's pathetic.

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Caitlin

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Caitlin aims to inspire others with her articles and create a conversation.
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a break doesn't mean it's over

1/4/2022

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Being in a relationship is great, especially when you love the person so much that you want to spend every minute of every day with them. It can also be hard work and it can also get in the way of things such as school, family, friends and sometimes the time you need for yourself. Sometimes a little break is what you need in a relationship,  so you can take time for yourself and think and focus on important things such as your family, friends and school work. This is an alternative from actually breaking up properly. A break can last as long as a year or as little as a couple of weeks. Sometimes when everything gets a bit too much in your relationship and you can’t take any more, a break is the best solution to the problem because it can give you and your partner time to think about what you want from each other. It also gives you time to take a breather and have some time to focus on yourself.

There are no specific rules on how a break works, it’s down for you and your partner to set down rules on how you want things to work out. For example, if you or your partner could see other people during this break or if you should stay in contact or not. This is why communication is vital, because otherwise, your partner may not understand where you're coming from. How are they supposed to know what you want from them if you don't tell them? You can’t get mad at someone for doing something that they didn't know they weren't allowed to do.

A break is another great way for taking time for school. Sometimes your schoolwork is so much more important than a relationship, especially if you're taking your exams/finals. You don't want your relationship to get in the way of the grades that you need for your future. Now I'm not saying to break off your relationship completely and if you don't you will fail at school. What I'm saying is, sometimes you just need some time apart to study and focus on getting the grade you need. For example, I’ve been in the same relationship for 2 years and it just so happens that this year is my final year of school which means I have my GCSE exams coming up and these grades affect the rest of my life. They are extremely important and I need to study extremely hard for them. This means that I'm going to have to take a break from seeing my boyfriend so much. This doesn’t mean that I'm going to not see him at all, it just means that I will be seeing him a lot less than I used to. I know that it might be hard not seeing your partner as often, but it makes the moments you do spend together more memorable and I always remember the saying “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.”

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Caitlin aims to inspire others with her articles and create a conversation.
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how I began to find myself

1/4/2022

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“I don’t believe that you should be friends with these girls anymore, you are a bad influence on them”.

My Head of Year told me that when I was 13. I was told that I was something bad, that should be removed- like I was some kind of infection. And over the past couple of years, it had been hard to not feel that way, that by being myself I am a bad influence on people and should therefore shut myself away before I affect them.
I was so convinced that you could only give what people wanted to see and nothing else, because anything ‘you’ wasn’t good enough.

Bubbly, hard-working, social, reserved- anything you wanted I would have it. Sounds perfect right? Make yourself the perfect friend, they will want you...right? Put those parts away that you don’t like and let yourself become what they want you to be.

With the startling benefit of hindsight, I can sit here and tell you that ‘fake it until you make it’ is a terrible phrase. Because the moment that people believe the mask that you put is when you will truly start to fall apart. I look back at that person that I was- not in pity or spite, rather to know that I’m not that person anymore. Maybe I don’t have as many friends as I did back then, but this journey of trying to break down my own barriers, has left me with the most kind and genuine people that I know. I feel loved, and supported, and able to let down parts of myself. Be vulnerable.

So from now on I will not allow someone to say that I need to ‘get over’ my mental health. I will not allow someone to say that ‘they do not recognise this sad side of me’. There is not a single person on this earth that is entitled to tell you that you need to take a step back from self improvement- whatever form it may take. For me, it was letting myself feel because I was tired. So tired. Tired of pulling up a mask that I didn’t truly believe in and tired of numbing my emotions so that I wouldn’t confront how terrible I was feeling. This lack of energy comes and goes in waves, but it is no longer a tsunami.

Whoever told you that the real you wasn’t good enough- your parents, your friends, your teachers, yourself- they are so undeniably wrong. I know I’m making it really simple, but the moment that I looked in the mirror and realised that I didn’t recognise the person in front of me was when I started to make progress. When I started to make change.

Not for anyone else. For me.

That is the most crucial detail. In whatever way you find comfortable, make changes that satisfy your goals and the person you want to be. Personal change and goals are the most empowering, which also makes them the most rewarding. When the sentence changes from “I should” to “I am” is when you are doing you.

I can now look in the mirror. After years of being too afraid of seeing how broken and unfamiliar I had become to that 13 year old that had so much hope and love in her heart. I can now look in the mirror and can recognise that I’m not perfect, but that doesn’t mean I’m an infection or a ‘bad influence’. It is a journey and a process that you can only pursue if you trust that  you  will come out the other end.

So my advice to you is that today, you will do something for yourself. To start that journey, to make that first step. Look in the mirror, or release it into the universe:

“I am me. And I am enough.”

Have faith in yourself, and receive the love you deserve.

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Bella writers articles to provide honest advice to those who need it, and to inspire others to maybe begin to write themselves.
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covid-19 vs my friendships

1/4/2022

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​COVID-19 has affected everyone in many different ways and has essentially changed all of our lives. Throughout this time, I learned a lot about my friends and our relationships. I became extremely close with some friends, lost and drifted from some friends, and also learned how toxic some people were.

In school, I had a close group of friends, which included me and three other girls, but I also had an extended group of friends which probably ranged between 15 and 20 people, as well as others. During school, I was with these people every day and it was really easy to communicate and stay in touch. However, this changed when we went into lockdown in March of 2020. I felt extremely isolated and was not able to see anyone for two months. I kept in touch with my close group of friends and a couple of other friends during COVID, however, I also drifted with many of my friends. I realized who my true friends were. Furthermore, I became aware of the effort I was putting into many relationships that weren't being reciprocated. Through this time I was able to realize how much effort friendships really took, and I also realized how valuable my closest friends are. 

Unfortunately, I did have some toxic friends through this time that were not treating me or some of my other friends right. Toxic people, in general, are tricky to deal with, but my advice for them is to talk to them, tell them how you feel, and what you feel they could do to make you feel better and more comfortable. Then, give them a chance to change, but if you realize they continue to be toxic, cut your losses. There is no need for anyone to be involved with people who bring you down or treat you badly. You deserve the best!

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Arya writes articles because writing allows her to express herself in her favorite and most comfortable way, and she is able to share her experiences and perspective on many different topics.
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